Self-Love Mini Series: Healing our Invalidation & Perfectionism

06/24/20 • 28 min

Now that you know that coming back to self-love requires you to peel away old stories and ideas, let’s focus in on healing our invalidation stories and perfection pictures.
Self-love is your essence, and when you learn to come back to it repeatedly, you’re able to let go of the layers of invalidation and perfectionism that have separated you from your essence. When you let go of these invalidation stories and perfection pictures, you can live a life full of joy, self-trust, and freedom.
In episode 2 of the Soul Essence Podcast’s Self-Love Mini Series, Xandra invites you to check in with your self-love gauge, free yourself from your invalidation stories and perfection pictures, and start cultivating intrinsic love and acceptance.
Topics Discussed:
· What happens when we believe we’re not enough?
· The root of perfectionism: How does perfectionism develop?
· How your perfection pictures and invalidation stories influence your daily life
· How to boost your unconditional self-love and heal perfectionism
· 5-minute daily meditation for cultivating intrinsic self-love and acceptance
“Let go of all the stories that are not your truth and that are no longer serving you.” – Xandra Hawes
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About the Host:
Xandra Hawes, MA, LPC is a Contemplative Psychotherapist & Psychic-Medium in private practice, as well as the creator of Soul Essence Wellness Center. Using her background in Buddhist psychology as the foundation for teaching, Xandra helps sensitive and empathic people discover their spiritual gifts, learn transformative energy healing practices, and live with more confidence, self-trust and joy.

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Previous Episode

Self-Love Mini Series: Coming Back to Your True Essence

Can you imagine a world where you know you’re enough every day, where you radically love yourself despite your mistakes? Can you imagine a world where you radiate compassion and love others despite their mistakes? This world is closer than you think.
Loving kindness is the core of who we are. We come into this world aligned in love and aligned with our true essence. It’s innate within us, so we can always come back to it.
But overtime, we separate from that love and true essence. So, we must learn how to come back to it.
In this debut episode of the Soul Essence Podcast’s Self-Love Mini Series, Xandra invites you to dive into a practice of radical self-love to help you come back to your true essence and tap into the energetic web we live in. She takes you on an immersive, visual journey to show you your soul essence and help you align with it.
Topics Discussed:
· What is radical self-love?
· What is the root of self-love?
· How old stories and pictures get in the way of aligning with your soul essence
· Shifts that happen when you get to the root of self-love
· How to come back to your true essence anytime, anywhere
In future episodes of this 5-part series, we’ll explore internal and external invalidation, perfectionism, healing your family trauma and rejection, integrating your shadow, creating new thought patterns, and learning self-love practices to better manifest living in your truth. Stay tuned!
“If we can learn how to align with our true nature, break down our own invalidation, and align in self-love and learn how to honor ourselves, we will naturally treat others with a higher level of love and respect and the entire web of our society will shift.”
-Xandra Hawes
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Self-Love Mini Series: Healing our Family Trauma

Many of us are afraid to look at our family systems and the different traumas we’ve experienced throughout our lives. When we investigate our family trauma, we may see where we were missed, ignored, rejected, or abused as a child. While that can feel scary, let’s choose love instead of fear.
“If we are unable to give love to ourselves consistently or we struggle often to feel enough, these difficulties are often linked to old invalidation stories that have been told to us or modeled to us by our family members.” – Xandra Hawes
By courageously looking at how your family has shaped you, you can lovingly acknowledge and heal your family trauma. You can find ways to let those stories go so you can create a new path that is built upon joy, peace, and radical self-love.
In episode 3 of the Soul Essence Podcast’s Self-Love Mini Series, Xandra helps you uncover where your first invalidation stories came from by exploring your family systems. She takes you through a beautiful, guided energy healing practice to release family trauma and return to self-love.
Topics Discussed:
· Ignorance isn’t bliss when it comes to trauma...
· How self-criticism is rooted in childhood and family trauma
· How family trauma shapes your reality and your ability to allow self-love to be your truth
· Preventing and stopping the cycle of intergenerational trauma
· A simple, effective meditation for releasing family trauma and boosting self-love

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