Episode 8 - What Is The Deadliest Toxin In A Church Soil? - Spiritual Abuse Tactic & Behaviors 2 of 12 - Power

03/22/24 • 50 min

Have you ever considered the profound impact of power within your spiritual community? This episode pulls back the curtain on the often-invisible abuse of power, where control and authority can distort faith's nurturing environment. With the wisdom of Diane Langberg guiding us, we dissect the spiritual abuse triad – power, control, and authority – and investigate how these forces can either build or destroy. We draw parallels with historical figures like Lincoln, Pittacus and Fred Rogers, exploring the measure of character necessary to handle power justly and the crucial responsibility that comes with wielding it.
The allure of charismatic leadership is a double-edged sword, one that can both inspire and devastate. We scrutinize the delicate balance of power in religious settings, particularly within patriarchal structures and traditional barriers against female ordination. The examination goes deeper as we uncover the intricate dance between vulnerability and power and the implications of this dynamic on the character of spiritual leaders. Through the tragic cautionary tale of Jim Jones, we illustrate our collective susceptibility to charming authority and underscore the necessity of discernment in spiritual guidance.
As we wrap up this introspective journey, we turn the mirror on ourselves, asking how we individually engage with the power we possess. We reflect on the behaviors and tactics that emerge from wielding influence, stressing the importance of coupling power with compassion and humanity. This episode is not just a listening experience; it's an invitation to engage with us, to share your thoughts and continue the conversation. Together, let's navigate the delicate balance of power in our lives with intentionality and care, ensuring it becomes a force for good in our hands.

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Have you ever navigated a staircase, wary of that one perilous step you know to skip? That's the essence of the 'missing stair', an analogy we explore in a special bonus episode of Soul Bruises, which casts light on the often unseen perils within our spiritual communities. We delve into the metaphor's origin and its startling relevance to spiritual abuse, illuminating the dangers of ignoring harmful behaviors that, like a literal missing stair, threaten our collective wellbeing. And for those who have encountered such unsettling realities, know that this discussion is a sanctuary where understanding and healing are at the forefront.
Joining the conversation are the Silo Sisters, Phoebe Hunt, Bonnie Sims, and Melody Walker, whose moving lyrics in "The Missing Stair" echo the whispers and warnings of communities that, instead of repairing what's broken, teach newcomers to simply tread carefully. As we unpack the song and its haunting depiction of overlooked hazards, we issue a resounding call to action. It's time to fix these stairs—to confront and correct the predators in disguise. This episode is more than a conversation; it's an invitation to become an active participant in the transformation of our spiritual spaces.
YouTube link for the song "The Missing Stair" by the Silo Sisters
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Episode 9 - Dismantling the Illusion of Sacred Coercion - Spiritual Abuse Tactic & Behavior 3 of 12 - Control

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Ever felt the discomfort of a conversation that doesn't seem right in a spiritual setting? I, Christie, pull back the curtain on the darker side of faith communities, spotlighting the fine line between spiritual guidance and coercive control. With an eye on those who twist faith for their own benefit, Soul Bruises attempts to peel back the layers to reveal behaviors and tactics that harm and control, rather than heal and guide.
With insights from author Amanda Montell, we delve into the power of language in high-control groups, showing how words can build walls around minds. Charismatic leaders, such as Jim Jones, used their oratory prowess to bind their followers in an alternate reality. I want this episode to equip you to recognize these patterns and resist their pull. This episode challenges the notion that only certain types of people are susceptible to cultish influence; it's not about intellect, but situation. Hear how thought-terminating clichés serve as red flags, and learn to navigate speech that's designed to end questioning.
Ending on a note of empowerment, we navigate the treacherous waters of spiritual communities led by narcissistic individuals. The misuse of scripture and faith through intimidation and fear is laid bare, urging us to foster environments that welcome questions and personal growth. The touchstone for a healthy faith community, as we will explore, is the ability to engage openly with religious teachings and to prioritize individual discernment. Discover how to recognize spiritual abuse and the importance of reclaiming personal spiritual agency in a space that should champion exploration and diversity of thought.

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Soul Bruises - Episode 8 - What Is The Deadliest Toxin In A Church Soil? - Spiritual Abuse Tactic & Behaviors 2 of 12 - Power

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Christie Hodson00:00:15.414

Hello my friends and fellow soul defenders . My name is Christie and this is Soul Bruises , a podcast devoted to taking a closer look at spiritual abuse .

Christie Hodson00:00:27.460

In a previous podcast , I laid out a list of 12 spiritual abuse behaviors and tactics . In Episode 6 , we talked about the first tactic , of deception and lies .