The Emotional Game of Gossip (Bonus Episode 4)

02/15/23 • 21 min

Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties

In this bonus episode, we will explore one of the most deadly emotional games that our toxic family members play — the emotional game of gossip.

Key Takeaways:

✅ Not all gossip is created equally.

✅ Our emotionally abusive family members use gossip to avoid looking at their part in any negative interaction.

✅ Signs you’re being gossiped about.

✅ In psychologically abusive families, gossip is used primarily to expend negative energy where talking poorly about you or others brings your family members feelings of power and satisfaction.

✅ Psychologically Abusive family members who gossip about you feel totally empowered when trashing you.

✅ Psychologically Abusive family members love creating negative triangles between you and others.

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Books by Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

But It’s Your Family...: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

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In this bonus episode, we will explore one of the most deadly emotional games that our toxic family members play — the emotional game of gossip.

Key Takeaways:

✅ Not all gossip is created equally.

✅ Our emotionally abusive family members use gossip to avoid looking at their part in any negative interaction.

✅ Signs you’re being gossiped about.

✅ In psychologically abusive families, gossip is used primarily to expend negative energy where talking poorly about you or others brings your family members feelings of power and satisfaction.

✅ Psychologically Abusive family members who gossip about you feel totally empowered when trashing you.

✅ Psychologically Abusive family members love creating negative triangles between you and others.

Connect with Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Books by Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

But It’s Your Family...: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/

Previous Episode

When Your Toxic Parents Become Toxic Grandparents (Bonus Episode 3)

In this bonus episode, we are discussing a controversial topic - toxic grandparents.

✅ Toxicity in a family doesn’t leave anyone out regardless of a person's title or role in your life, and this can include grandparents.

✅ As a culture, we place importance on having an extended family, with grandparents being a big part of that. When grandparents are healthy, this makes sense. When grandparents are abusive, it does not make sense.

✅ When you cut off from your parents this will often

include protecting your children from the negative influence of their grandparents.

✅ Not all grandparents are created equal and too often grandparents are perceived as harmless elderly folks who love to spoil their grandkids.

✅ How To’s and Boundaries to Set

NOTE: If you are on the other side of this issue, please listen to Episode 19 on Toxic Adult Children.

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If you want to go deeper on the topic of toxic grandparents, I cover it in more detail in these books:

But It’s Your Family...: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut on Amazon. Get it here: https://amzn.to/3L3sMuA

Connect with Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Books by Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

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Next Episode

The Emotional Game of Playing the Victim (Bonus Episode 5)

Our family members are famous for their pristine ability to play the victim.

Playing the victim can manifest in a variety of contexts.

In this episode, we are going to unpack:

✅ Our psychologically abusive family members get thrills off any opportunity they can create that affords them the opportunity to take the stage to put on their Oscar-worthy winning performance of the victim.

✅ They use this victim role to gain pity or sympathy, and to evoke compassion as a path to getting their way.

✅ They play this role publicly and privately to evade accountability by smoke-screening their abuse of you.

✅ The basic story your toxic family members tell of themselves is that they are the“good,” “caring,” “moral, “selfless,” person in the relationship, and you are the “bad,” “abusive,” “cruel,” “immoral,” “selfish,” “toxic,” one.

✅ Conversations with your family members that play the victim can never be about your feelings. It must be all about them.

✅ Family members who play the victim grossly embellish the untruths they tell about your “monstrous” behavior to create a more powerful narrative about how profoundly you have victimized them.

✅ Goals and payoffs of playing the victim

✅ Impacts of this emotional game on the targets

✅ How to’s and boundaries to set

Connect with Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Books by Dr. Sherrie Campbell:

But It’s Your Family...: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/