shado-lite - S1 Ep8: Is Big Tech ruining our dating lives?

S1 Ep8: Is Big Tech ruining our dating lives?

09/24/23 • 56 min

Warning: this is an unbelievably straight episode. This week the girls are tackling ‘the apps’: are they making love and dating harder, or are they simply reflecting already broken society? How far can we blame big tech for the state of dating right now? And can we even be bothered to resist it?

Zoe and Larissa talk dating horror stories, politics of desirability and why straight mens dating profiles really are just for other men. Tune in for two 5’11 queens who cannot make up their mind on how we might change modern dating to be less BLEUGHJ...

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S1 Ep7: How do we make ourselves and our community ungovernable?

We know that many feminisms do not truly resist oppression in all its forms [insert TERFs and boss babes here] Another group of feminists flopping on the ‘radical reimagination’ front are carceral feminists.

Our guest this time, abolitionist revolutionary, author and lecturer Dr Aviah Sarah Day, describes the term carceral feminism as “a critique about a particular branch of the feminist movement”. With Aviah’s knowledge and experience in the movement, we get into why investing in policing and punitive responses to gendered violence will not save us!

Somehow the tech failed us on the recording of this episode (boo, hiss!) so we lost the second half of our chat with Aviah. Co-hosts Zoe and Larissa have wrapped up the chat by reflecting on some of the parts of the conversation that we lost.

In the episode, we discuss some examples of gendered and sexual violence, including r*pe, so if you’d like to skip that part of the conversation, hit pause at 32:14 and resume at 32:44. Masses of love and solidarity to any survivors listening.

Resources:

Dr Aviah Sarah Day (2022) Why police will never be the answer to gendered violence
Aviah Sarah Day and Shanice Octavia McBean (2022) Abolition Revolution
Ruth Wilson Gilmore (2022) Abolition Geography: Essays Towards Liberation
Mariame Kaba (2022) We Do This 'Til We Free Us: Abolitionist Organizing and Transforming Justice
Oonagh Ryder and Mo Mansfield (2018) “Just Paint the Walls Pink”: Gender, Prison and Carceral Feminism

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S1 Ep9: Season 1 wrap - okay, what can we do?

This season has discussed A LOT of stuff - from unpicking climate anxiety to the issues of carceral feminism. So Larissa and Zoe sit down to map out the connections between all of these issues. How are these systems connected and what might be the leverage points for change? When the scale of these issues can be super overwhelming, what are actions we can take to resist and rebuild?

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