S1E04: Deadly Sexual Sin #3 (According to the Church): Don't Have Wants, with Jake and Sarah Lollar

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11/29/22 • 58 min

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The third of the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins is the psychological engine for the church’s position on sexuality:

Don’t lust.

Which, in the Evangelical Church, quickly reduces to "Don't have wants or desires."

Our friends Jake and Sarah talk with us about how growing up in the Evangelical Church (the same collegiate church as Jeremiah, in fact) impacted their relationship with wants as individuals and as a partnership. We explore the concept of lust throughout Christian history, and then describe a three step process that can help give yourself permission to name your own wants and desires.

The third of the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins is the psychological engine for the church’s position on sexuality:

Don’t lust.

Which, in the Evangelical Church, quickly reduces to "Don't have wants or desires."

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S1E03: Deadly Sexual Sin #2 (According to the Church): Don't Be Gay

Jeremiah and Julia continue their series on the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins, According to the Church, with the deadliest of the “sins”, as we were reminded over the weekend in Colorado Springs: Don’t be gay.

They discuss the different ways that the combination of “Don’t be gay” and “Don’t have sex before you get married” negatively impacted their development.

They then describe two binaries that the church (and other institutions) place around queerness: 1) Either you're gay or you're straight; 2) Either you're "born this way" or queerness was socialized into you.

Julia and Jeremiah close the episode by discussing three strategies to navigate the homophobia of the church and broadening practices of sexuality.

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S1E05: Deadly Sexual Sin #4 (According to the Church): Don't Have an Affair, part 1

We continue our series on the Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church) with Sin #4: Don't have an affair.

As the church describes, the marriage is the most foundational relationship in the Evangelical community. It’s a right of passage into adulthood and symbolizes the union between God/Jesus and the church, as the church describes.

And, according to the Evangelical Church, any relationship with a person of the opposite gender that is not your spouse is a potential threat to the sanctity of marriage. The Church will use this logic to condemn people who have affairs.

Jesus, however, has a very different way of responding to adultery, as we read in John Chapter 8. Learn more about how we might take an approach like Jesus when we engage with the presence of infidelity in our own lives and communities.