Breaking Down Barriers to Love and Intimacy
11/11/22 • 57 min
Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t love another person until you love yourself”? Oakley’s client, an adult in his mid 20s, has done his personal work. Now he’s ready to take the next step to find his romantic partner and commit to a relationship. But something is holding him back from being able to be vulnerable. So Oakley pulls from her enlightenment toolbelt and offers practical steps for reprogramming the patterns that keep his walls up so that he’s ready to receive his future partner when she comes along.
Vulnerability, or allowing another person to see the full breadth of your strengths and weaknesses, can be scary. To assist her client in working with the wall around his heart, Oakley leads him in a somatic practice that allows him to observe his blockages without judgment and tap into his own healing power. Through this practice, he is able to activate his heart center which clears him of any blocked energy that might prevent him from experiencing what he desires most: a safe, loving relationship where he feels comfortable being himself and can offer that same love to another person. By visualizing the life he wants, he slowly removes the limitations that prevent him from stepping fully into intimacy in relationships. This is how people are able to use the power of love to change old patterns and rewire neural pathways that keep them stuck. Everyone has the ability to work this magic on themselves, and it’s Oakley’s mission to bring these powerful tools to anyone willing to do the work.
Main Topics
- Oakley’s client shares his struggle with vulnerability and his desire for an intimate relationship (04:08)
- The role the past plays in our current relationship patterns (07:15)
- Vulnerability in relationships means asking to be seen (10:27)
- Oakley’s Give Back, Take Back strategy for transmuting old patterns (16:27)
- Using somatic body work to find and release energetic blockages (24:00)
- Quick explanation of the chakra system or energy centers in the body (34:50)
- Activating the torus, a measurable electromagnetic field around the heart, to change thoughts and behaviors (43:48)
- Reaching the realm of possibility in meditation to create new realities (46:33)
- Daily practice for activating the heart (51:25)
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https://www.instagram.com/oakleyogden/
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxn6BnlaAAK_i9utOIg2KOQ
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Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t love another person until you love yourself”? Oakley’s client, an adult in his mid 20s, has done his personal work. Now he’s ready to take the next step to find his romantic partner and commit to a relationship. But something is holding him back from being able to be vulnerable. So Oakley pulls from her enlightenment toolbelt and offers practical steps for reprogramming the patterns that keep his walls up so that he’s ready to receive his future partner when she comes along.
Vulnerability, or allowing another person to see the full breadth of your strengths and weaknesses, can be scary. To assist her client in working with the wall around his heart, Oakley leads him in a somatic practice that allows him to observe his blockages without judgment and tap into his own healing power. Through this practice, he is able to activate his heart center which clears him of any blocked energy that might prevent him from experiencing what he desires most: a safe, loving relationship where he feels comfortable being himself and can offer that same love to another person. By visualizing the life he wants, he slowly removes the limitations that prevent him from stepping fully into intimacy in relationships. This is how people are able to use the power of love to change old patterns and rewire neural pathways that keep them stuck. Everyone has the ability to work this magic on themselves, and it’s Oakley’s mission to bring these powerful tools to anyone willing to do the work.
Main Topics
- Oakley’s client shares his struggle with vulnerability and his desire for an intimate relationship (04:08)
- The role the past plays in our current relationship patterns (07:15)
- Vulnerability in relationships means asking to be seen (10:27)
- Oakley’s Give Back, Take Back strategy for transmuting old patterns (16:27)
- Using somatic body work to find and release energetic blockages (24:00)
- Quick explanation of the chakra system or energy centers in the body (34:50)
- Activating the torus, a measurable electromagnetic field around the heart, to change thoughts and behaviors (43:48)
- Reaching the realm of possibility in meditation to create new realities (46:33)
- Daily practice for activating the heart (51:25)
Want to learn more or apply to be a guest on Sex, Drugs and Enlightenment?
Check out the website!
https://www.sexdrugsandenlightenment.com
Connect with Oakley:
https://www.instagram.com/oakleyogden/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/oakley-ogden-7a86b112/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxn6BnlaAAK_i9utOIg2KOQ
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Previous Episode
North Star Visualization: Accessing Our Internal GPS
Oakley hears it all the time in her practice working with young adults: “How do I know which choice to make?” For many college graduates, the transition into adulthood can leave them feeling disappointed and directionless. Regardless of age, people often look outside themselves for guidance on difficult decisions, especially those that impact jobs and careers. In this episode, Oakley offers a valuable tool for connecting with the internal guidance system available to everyone that always points to true North.
Through mindfulness practices, North Star work asks the individual to connect with the love-based emotion they want to experience such as joy, peace, passion, etc. That feeling becomes their North Star. They then activate that feeling by visualizing people, places, and experiences that make the feeling come alive in their body. Through consistent practice, the body becomes fine-tuned to what does and doesn’t resonate with it. In this way, a person can change their brain chemistry and begin attracting opportunities that align with their North Star.
Main Topics:
- Oakley’s client shares her professional journey, from her original trajectory in diplomacy to her current position as an account manager at an international technology company (06:40)
- The difference between a job and a career (13:45)
- Practical Tool: North Star work meditation and visualization (17:25)
- The power of visualizing the perfect day (30:57)
- Applying North Star work every day to alter attitudes from fear-based to love-based (36:10)
- How this technique leads to greater fulfillment and living life in alignment with the authentic self (43:19)
Want to learn more or apply to be a guest on Sex, Drugs and Enlightenment?
Check out the website!
https://www.sexdrugsandenlightenment.com
Connect with Oakley:
https://www.instagram.com/oakleyogden/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/oakley-ogden-7a86b112/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxn6BnlaAAK_i9utOIg2KOQ
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Next Episode
Is It Me, Or Is It You? Releasing Traumatic Family Patterns
Six out of ten Americans have been diagnosed with one or more chronic illnesses, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. While this statistic may seem shocking, even more astounding is the lack of research into common diseases, such as Lyme Disease, that Oakley’s client lives with every day. Many people don’t know that inflammation in the body can create overwhelming anxiety. Because of a lack of understanding of the connection between these symptoms, people with chronic illness diagnoses are often left untreated or even worse, gaslighted about the very real nature of what they’re experiencing.
As Oakley reminds her clients and listeners, the physical body is intimately connected with the mental, emotional and spiritual health of an individual. In this episode, she digs deeper with her client into some of the familial patterns that may have played a role in the physical expression of her disease. Healing generational trauma begins with awareness. This resilient young woman was able to identify unhealthy patterns such as body shaming, codependency, and emotional manipulation within her family relationships and has made choices to set appropriate boundaries. Taking back control of her life has increased her self-esteem and given her the confidence she needs to move forward with healthy relationships with friends, her partner, and most importantly, herself.
Main Topics
- Oakley’s client discusses her chronic illness diagnoses of Lyme, Labisia, and Chronic Inflammatory Response Syndrome (CIRS) (2:06)
- The definition of gaslighting and how to validate your own experiences (12:30)
- The connection between disease and anxiety (18:55)
- Trigger Warning: Oakley’s client shares about her early teenage years when she felt suicidal and struggled with self-harm (23:03)
- How caretaking can easily become a person’s identity, leading to codependency (31:05)
- Education about sexual health and various strains of Human Papillomavirus (HPV) for female-bodied individuals (40:50)
- Conscious coping mechanisms and setting boundaries (49:10)
Episode Links
The Body Keeps the Score- Bessel van der Kolk
Want to learn more or apply to be a guest on Sex, Drugs and Enlightenment?
Check out the website!
https://www.sexdrugsandenlightenment.com
Connect with Oakley:
https://www.instagram.com/oakleyogden/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/oakley-ogden-7a86b112/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxn6BnlaAAK_i9utOIg2KOQ
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