Episode 254: What We Get Wrong About Men’s Bodies

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01/02/24 • 35 min

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A lot of men feel insecure about their bodies and sexual performance despite the fact that they fall clearly within the normal range. It’s easy for them to feel like there’s something wrong when they’ve never really been taught what “normal” even means. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss common things people get wrong about men’s bodies and how penises function, as well as things that men and their partners should know when it comes to sexual pleasure.

I am joined by Cam Fraser, who is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.

Some of the topics we explore include:

Is an erection always a sign of sexual arousal and interest?
Are orgasm and ejaculation one and the same, or are they different things?
Can men experience multiple orgasms?
What do men need to know about sex toys and prostate stimulation?
What does it really mean to have premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction?

You can visit Cam’s website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology

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Some of the topics we explore include:

Is an erection always a sign of sexual arousal and interest?
Are orgasm and ejaculation one and the same, or are they different things?
Can men experience multiple orgasms?
What do men need to know about sex toys and prostate stimulation?
What does it really mean to have premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction?

You can visit Cam’s website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology

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Episode 253: Resolutions For Better Sex In 2024 (Essential Listen)

Every time a new year rolls around, people start making resolutions for self-improvement. As you start to think about your own resolutions, consider resolving to have better sex. With the right set of resolutions, you can address problem areas in the bedroom, rekindle the spark, and start to enjoy the best sex of your life!

For today’s show, we’re going to revisit one of Sex and Psychology’s Essential Listens, my interview with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, which appeared back in episode 67. Dr. Jess is a Toronto-based sexologist, author, speaker, and television personality. She is host of the Sex With Dr. Jess Podcast and is the resident sexologist at Astroglide.

In our original conversation, Jess and I spoke about how to keep the sexual spark alive all year long. Some of the topics we discuss include:

How can you get more comfortable being vocal in bed?
How can you suggest trying something new with your partner?
Why is it important to expand your definition of sex?
How can you incorporate more touch into daily life?
What should you think about resolving to do (or not do) in your sex life in the new year?

To learn more, check out Jess’s website and follow her on Instagram at @sexwithdrjess.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology

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Episode 255: Common Myths About Male Sexuality

One of the most popular tropes that you’re bound to encounter in writings about human sexuality is that men are simple, while women are complex. There’s a pervasive belief out there that sex is just easy for men in general because they’re always in the mood and sex is mostly a physical (not emotional) thing for them. The reality of male sexuality, however, is far more complicated, and we’re not doing anyone any favors by oversimplifying it. So in today’s show, we’re going to dive into common myths about male sexuality.

I am joined once again by Cam Fraser, who is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.

Some of the topics we explore include:

Why is the idea of male sexuality as “simple” a myth?
How do beauty standards affect men, and what are the implications of this for sex, dating, and relationships?
What do men who are anxious about their penis size need to know?
Are men always supposed to be turned on and ready for sex?
To what degree is sex emotional vs. physical for men?

You can visit Cam’s website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology

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