Richest Men in Town

In This Episode:
Tyler and Mike get a perspective that is different than any other perspective of the other 80+ episodes of the RMIT podcast. All of the guests on RMIT have some on the show and shared amazing stories of their rich lives. Stories of love, faith, and overcoming challenges. This week, the guys sit down with Carlos Deosembela and he lets us in on his life as he is in the middle of the struggle. Carlos gives the guys a front-row view of his "reset" as he picks up the pieces and finds the strength to continue on. He teaches lessons learned the hard way about the danger of complacency, chasing what doesn't matter, and regret. The result is a masterclass on worth, identity, turning outward, and grit. The guys, along with RMIT listeners, will never forget the time they spent with Carlos Deosembela.

Show Notes

Who Said It...

• “We become so caught up in the busyness of our lives. Were we to step back, however, and take a good look at what we’re doing, we may find that we have immersed ourselves in the ‘thick of thin things.’ In other words, too often we spend most of our time taking care of the things which do not really matter much at all in the grand scheme of things, neglecting those more important causes” -Thomas S. Monson in “What Have I Done for Someone Today?” from Oct. 2009 General Conference).
• "Good is the enemy of great. Good is the mortal enemy of great. If you think about it, it’s one of the main reasons why we have so few things that become truly great. We by and large do not have great schools. Why? Because we have good schools. We by and large do not have great government because we have good government, and it works pretty well. Most companies will never become great because most are really quite good. Therein lies much of their main problem.  
  The truth be told, in this great society of abundance that is the modern world,  most people will wake up at the end of their lives and need to look back and accept the horrifying truth that they did not have a great life because it is oh so easy to settle for a good life. Good is the enemy of great (Voltaire)." -Jim Collins
• "We are kept from our goal not by obstacles, but by a clear path to a lesser goal." -Robert Brault

References...

• Free Solo (2018)
• Hope Gap (2019)
• Paul Harvey "If I were the devil..."
• The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
• The Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown
• Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

Psst...

• Check out our website or visit us on our Facebook and Instagram platforms.
• Mike and Tyler are both members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.  If you would like to learn more about the Church or their beliefs, we invite you to check it out by clicking here.

In this episode...
Tyler and Mike welcome in their first live guest to the show with one of Tyler's best friends, James Paschall.  James gets vulnerable and shares his journey, including some amazing lessons that he has learned along the way.  James lets the guys in on all kinds of topics including:

• parenting
• authenticity
• being content
• surrendering
• getting it right
• love
• loss

Show Notes

Who said it...

• "A man's got to have a code, a creed to live by, no matter his job." -John Wayne
• "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Maryanne Williamson
• I met a stranger in the night,
  Whose lamp had ceased to shine;
  I paused and let him light
  His lamp from mine.
  A tempest sprang up later on,
  And shook the world about,
  And when the wind was gone,
  My lamp was out.
  But back came to me the stranger—
  His lamp was glowing fine;
  He held the precious flame
  And lighted mine.
  -Lon Woodrum
• “I teach them correct principles and they govern themselves.” -Joseph Smith

References...

• Tiger
• "To Be" lists
• Seth Godin
• Braveheart "Freedom" clip
• Prevegen
• Invasion of the Body Snatchers
• "Take my yoke upon me"
• Saul on the Road to Damascus

Psst...

• Check out our website or visit us on our Facebook and Instagram platforms.
• Mike and Tyler are both members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.  If you would like to learn more about the Church or their beliefs, we invite you to check it out by clicking here.

In this episode...
In this week's Richest Men In Town episode, the guys go another round with one of their favorite guests.  Nick Anderson (from Episode #16 "Unashamed") picks up where he left off to let Tyler and Mike in on the latest from his journey as a husband and parent.  This chapter of his story includes some rich and sacred lessons that can only be learned the hard way.  Through it all, he stands firm in his faith with his wife Shellie and his kids as they live the lesson love=whatever it takes.  

Topics include:

• Sweatpants
• Pareto Principle
• Prayer
• Sacrifice
• Agency
• Biases
• Reflection

Show Notes

Who said it...

• "I used to pray that God would feed the hungry, or do this or that, but now I pray that he will guide me to do whatever I'm supposed to do, what I can do.  I used to pray for answers, but now I'm praying for strength.  I used to believe that prayer changes things, but now I know that prayer changes us and we change things." -Mother Teresa
• "Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you." -Saint Augustine
• "Everything to do with becoming more like the Savior is difficult...The Lord loves effort, because effort brings rewards that can’t come without it." -Russell M. Nelson

References...

• Pareto Principle
• LDS Bible Dictionary for Prayer: "As soon as we learn the true relationship in which we stand toward God (namely, God is our Father, and we are His children), then at once prayer becomes natural and instinctive on our part (Matt. 7:7–11)...Prayer is the act by which the will of the Father and the will of the child are brought into correspondence with each other. The object of prayer is not to change the will of God but to secure for ourselves and for others blessings that God is already willing to grant but that are made conditional on our asking for them."
• Jacob 7:5
• "For with God nothing shall be impossible." Luke 1:37
• "Restore Yourself.  Restore Your Marriage." with Shellie Anderson

Psst...

• Check out our website or visit us on our Facebook and Instagram platforms.
• Mike and Tyler are both members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.  If you would like to learn more about the Church or their beliefs, we invite you to check it out by clicking here.

In this episode...
Tyler and Mike sit down with David Hill, founder of Heartsmart, an organization that produces social emotional curriculum and resources for schools and families.  The guys learn about the story of Boris the Robot and the real life experiences that taught David the powerful lessons behind the work he does today.

Show Notes

Who said it...

• David's/Heartsmart's Core Values:

1. Don't Forget to Let Love In!
2. Too Much Selfie isn't Healthy!
3. Don't Hold On to What's Wrong!
4. Fake is a Mistake!
5. ‘No Way Through,' isn't True!

• “A man filled with the love of God, is not content with blessing his family alone, but ranges through the whole world, anxious to bless the whole human race.” -Joseph Smith
• "You go nowhere by accident.  Wherever you go, God is sending you there.  He has a purpose in your being there.  Christ, who indwells in you, has something He wants to do through you, wherever you are.  Believe this, and go in His grace, and love and power." -Reverend Dr. Richard C. Halverson's Benediction, US Senate Chaplain from 1981 to 1994

References...

• D'Artagnan & the Three Musketeers
• Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
• Ralph Macchio Karate Kid
• The A-Team
• Heartsmart for schools
• Heartsmart for families
• Heartsmart YouTube channel
• Watch Boris' story
• Romans 12:2..."And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."
• Doctrine & Covenants 123:17..."Therefore, dearly beloved brethren, let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power; and then may we stand still, with the utmost assurance, to see the salvation of God, and for his arm to be revealed."

Psst...

• Check us out on our Facebook and Instagram platforms.
• Mike and Tyler are both members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.  If you would like to learn more about the Church or their beliefs, we invite you to check it out by clicking here.

In this episode...
Tyler and Mike sit down with Dan Funk to hear his emotional and inspiring story of hanging on to faith despite losing everything.  Dan lets the guys in on the hard lessons that life has taught him recently and through it all he has learned what life is really all about.

Show Notes

Who said it...

• "A memorable account of the power of [inspired] teaching comes from the life of the prophet Jeremiah. This great man felt the way most teachers or speakers or Church officers feel when called—inexperienced, inadequate, frightened.
  
  But the Lord reassured him: 'Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee. … Therefore gird up thy loins, and arise, and speak unto them.'
   
  So speak unto them he did, but initially not with much success. Things went from bad to worse until finally he was imprisoned and made a laughingstock among the people. Angry that he had been so mistreated and maligned, Jeremiah vowed, in effect, never to teach another lesson, whether that be to an investigator, Primary child, new convert, or—heaven forbid—the 15-year-olds. “I will not make mention of [the Lord], nor speak any more in his name,” the discouraged prophet said. But then came the turning point of Jeremiah’s life. Something had been happening with every testimony he had borne, every scripture he had read, every truth he had taught. Something had been happening that he hadn’t counted on. Even as he vowed to close his mouth and walk away from the Lord’s work, he found that he could not. Why? Because “his word was in mine heart as a burning fire shut up in my bones, and I was weary with forbearing, and I could not stay.” (Jer. 20:7-9) -Jeffrey R. Holland in “A Teacher Come from God"

References...

• Grandpa leaves wise note with free bucket of baseballs
• Art of Manliness Podcast Episode #644 "How to Develop Greater Self-Awareness"
• Insight by Tasha Eurich
• Change or Dieby Alan Deutschman
• Arbinger Institute
• "Culture of Christ" by Elder William K. Jackson
• President Hugh B. Brown's lesson of the currant bush

Corrections and Retractions...

• It was Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell and not Tipping Point that makes reference to the "10,000 hours" principle

Psst...

• Check us out on our Facebook and Instagram platforms.
• Mike and Tyler are both members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.  If you would like to learn more about the Church or their beliefs, we invite you to check it out by clicking here.