EP26: Lainie Barrett: Rewilding Gender

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05/03/21 • 86 min

Lainie Barrett (they/them) shares with us how this understanding has impacted both their mental health, through expanded consciousness, and their gender journey, by rewilding to their true nature.
Lainie recently came out as trans/non-binary and shares with us about the dissonance they have always felt between how they feel inside and the female gender they were assigned at birth. Historically, they've repressed or ignored this feeling, deciding that they should expand what it means to be a woman, but have recently begun to answer the call of the feeling and dis-identify with their assigned gender. They hold this as an ongoing exploration that could require more "coming outs" as they keep shedding what doesn't feel true for them.
We explore how empowerment comes from the inside, and how this is Lainie stepping into their authentic and true self, opening the door for others to do the same by sharing their story. Lainie clarifies some LGBTQIA terminology, and reminds us that being queer and/or trans can be (and often is) joyful, it's the marginalization from the dominant culture that creates undue pain (including the denial of gender-affirming care).
This episode explores:

Gender as a construct
Consciousness-expanding experiences
The rules we create for ourselves and the boxes we form
Rewilding as a stripping-away process of what no longer serves us
Queer joy

Show Notes
The first rule of "Fight Club": you do not talk about Fight Club.
Cisgender: denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex. "Cis" in Latin means "on the side of" and is used as shorthand for cisgender.
The Lowly Worm: A character in the 1980s children book series by Richard Scarry, also a term of endearment for Lainie's partner.
Lainie Barrett is a freshly minted Rewilding Guide and social media manager for the Rewilders' brand. They have a master's degree in clinical mental health counseling which is put to good use in their coaching work. Lainie has explored the three principles via many different practitioners since 2014 and is now a member of the Rewilding Community. Their approach to everything in life is to show up just as themself, leading the way for others to do the same. They recently came out as trans/non-binary and enjoy talking about their experience to educate and inform others on this important aspect of identity and self-discovery.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org.
Episode 26 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

Gender as a construct
Consciousness-expanding experiences
The rules we create for ourselves and the boxes we form
Rewilding as a stripping-away process of what no longer serves us
Queer joy

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EP25 Scott Kelly: Rewilding Health

We spoke with Scott Kelly, a wellbeing expert, and good friend, about what it means to rewild our physical health.
Scott talks about the importance of moving beyond our cultural obsession with symptomology, and no longer viewing symptoms as purely inconveniences but rather invitations from the body to see something different. And while it can be helpful to have a label for something, we tend to hold labels as static information about ourselves rather than seeing our condition as constantly evolving and changing.
In our fast-paced society, we rarely slow down enough to expand in consciousness and get a sense of what we really need. We want to rid ourselves of symptoms so we can get on our way, but our symptoms have messages for us that our bodies desperately want us to hear. The body has an innate intelligence and often our symptoms are indications that our body is working on healing.
Angus and Rohini relay their own health-related stories and how seeing deeper into their true nature was what ultimately healed them both. There is a key difference between being cured and being healed, and sometimes feeling better doesn't mean we've healed, while other times our symptoms haven't changed at all and yet we find healing.
Scott's message to all of us weathering this pandemic is that COVID-19 has been an invitation to get back to nature; as nature has been given a chance to rewild with less human activity, people have also been given a chance to rewild and listen more deeply to the mind, body, and soul.
This episode explores:

The importance of slowing down
Physical symptoms as an invitation to expand in consciousness
Trusting in nature
Trying to heal while caught in a stressed state of mind is impossible

Show notes:
Poos clues: Angus's innovative take on the popular children's TV show, "Blues Clues"
Listen for the "but": We often start the sentence with "but" when we're getting ready to advocate for our limitations

Scott Kelly has spent over 25 years as a health coach, mentor, and integrative health practitioner, reconnecting individuals to their innate health and well-being. State of mind coaching is the foundation of his integrative health and well-being programs and he works with professional athletes, couples, families, teams, corporations, and individuals. His approach wakes up our innate capacity to live, work, perform, and play from inner vitality. Scott delivers live and virtual workshops and retreats, leaving participants with a new understanding of their health, well-being, and potential. Learn more about Scott's work here.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org.
Episode 25 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

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EP27 Steve Adair: Leading With Love

It's easy to feel an instant heart and soul connection with Steve Adair, life coach and psychotherapist, who we spoke with about his passions in life, including his love for helping others, his appreciation for immersion in nature, and his soul-expanding relationship with his partner Tony.
Steve seamlessly lasers through clients' circumstances to their innate wellbeing and love, instantly creating common ground, unconditional acceptance, and spiritual connection with the people he works with. By showing up open-hearted and in touch with his own innate wisdom, he transcends his clients' experiences, bringing them closer to their own hearts.
We talk with Steve about his unique ability to bring together diverse groups of people through the universal commonality of love. He helps gay men to see their innate worth despite the life-long messages stating otherwise they may have had to endure. And we talk about the power of understanding that we're only ever in relationship with our thinking about our partner, which is why we are able to transform our relationships without changing the person we're in relationship with.
This episode explores:

open-hearted listening
rewilding in nature
the commonality of love
tips for maintaining a healthy relationship
shifting perspective
spiritual truths about life and human nature

Show Notes
Knepp Wildland: the rewilded farm Steve shares about located in West Sussex, teeming with wildlife and beautiful flora/fauna.
Coypu: an invasive species of rodent that was eradicated from the UK in the late '80s
Consummate Renaissance Man: An endearing way of referring to Steve Adair; recognizing him as having the highest degree of proficiency in all of his many professions.
Steve Adair is passionate about helping people understand the incredible person that they are no matter what life circumstances they've endured, and that they always have access to innate mental health within. As an international speaker, trainer, coach and mentor, he also deliver seminars, group programs and retreats, both in the UK and internationally. His private practice is based in Central Bedfordshire where he sees clients in person or virtually. He thoroughly loves hanging out with family and friends, long countryside walks with his partner Tony and their dog; as well as meeting and celebrating people from all around the world.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org.
Episode 27 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.