Lainie Barrett (they/them) shares with us how this understanding has impacted both their mental health, through expanded consciousness, and their gender journey, by rewilding to their true nature.
Lainie recently came out as trans/non-binary and shares with us about the dissonance they have always felt between how they feel inside and the female gender they were assigned at birth. Historically, they've repressed or ignored this feeling, deciding that they should expand what it means to be a woman, but have recently begun to answer the call of the feeling and dis-identify with their assigned gender. They hold this as an ongoing exploration that could require more "coming outs" as they keep shedding what doesn't feel true for them.
We explore how empowerment comes from the inside, and how this is Lainie stepping into their authentic and true self, opening the door for others to do the same by sharing their story. Lainie clarifies some LGBTQIA terminology, and reminds us that being queer and/or trans can be (and often is) joyful, it's the marginalization from the dominant culture that creates undue pain (including the denial of gender-affirming care).
This episode explores:
- Gender as a construct
- Consciousness-expanding experiences
- The rules we create for ourselves and the boxes we form
- Rewilding as a stripping-away process of what no longer serves us
- Queer joy
Show Notes
The first rule of "Fight Club": you do not talk about Fight Club.
Cisgender: denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex. "Cis" in Latin means "on the side of" and is used as shorthand for cisgender.
The Lowly Worm: A character in the 1980s children book series by Richard Scarry, also a term of endearment for Lainie's partner.
Lainie Barrett is a freshly minted Rewilding Guide and social media manager for the Rewilders' brand. They have a master's degree in clinical mental health counseling which is put to good use in their coaching work. Lainie has explored the three principles via many different practitioners since 2014 and is now a member of the Rewilding Community. Their approach to everything in life is to show up just as themself, leading the way for others to do the same. They recently came out as trans/non-binary and enjoy talking about their experience to educate and inform others on this important aspect of identity and self-discovery.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org.
Episode 26 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.
Explicit content warning
05/03/21 • 86 min
Rewilding Love - EP26: Lainie Barrett: Rewilding Gender
Transcript
Welcome to Rewilding Love. This season is with a couple on the brink of divorce.
Rohini RossThis is episode number 26. And interview with Lainie Barrett.
Lainie BarrettThere'd be this moment of peace like when I'd wake up and then I would feel the obsession, like come back in
Angus Rossthose obsessive compulsive
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