057: You Deserve to Be Mediocre & Thrive

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10/12/23 • 25 min

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Revolutionary Rising

If there’s one thing we’ve all learned as folks of color in white dominated societies, it’s this:

We are only worthy of being respected and lauded if we’re exceptional.

In this episode, I’m doing a deep dive on exceptionalism and how it impacts rest for leaders of color.

I’ll also be breaking down:

how to evaluate if you REALLY care about being exceptional, or if society just taught you to care
practices to help you feel safe even when you’re not “exceptional”
how to start choosing your rest over your work

Connect with Gieselle:

Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://gieselleallen.com/1-1-coaching/

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If there’s one thing we’ve all learned as folks of color in white dominated societies, it’s this:

We are only worthy of being respected and lauded if we’re exceptional.

In this episode, I’m doing a deep dive on exceptionalism and how it impacts rest for leaders of color.

I’ll also be breaking down:

how to evaluate if you REALLY care about being exceptional, or if society just taught you to care
practices to help you feel safe even when you’re not “exceptional”
how to start choosing your rest over your work

Connect with Gieselle:

Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://gieselleallen.com/1-1-coaching/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/

Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gieselle/

Previous Episode

056: Stop Feeling Guilty About Rest

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Here’s something we don’t talk about enough in regards to rest:

Sometimes, you’re not exhausted because you’re working long hours, or spending a ton of time on something.

You’re exhausted because the thing that you’re doing, while short-lived, is emotionally draining.

In this episode, we talk about:

👉🏿the surprising reason so many folks are burnt out

👉🏿a small practice that helped her stop feeling guilty/shameful for not doing enough

👉🏿how she stopped feeling shame when she didn’t have capacity for everything they “should” do

👉🏿the truth about emotional labor and how much it impacts you as a BIPOC leader

👉🏿how to do more of what you WANT to do instead of what you SHOULD DO

Connect with Gieselle:

Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://gieselleallen.com/1-1-coaching/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/

Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gieselle/

Next Episode

058: A New Relationship to Productivity & Consistency w/ Kim David

In this episode, Kim & I break down how they went from feeling counterproductive & stuck in numbing activities, to feeling like they’re simultaneously moving forward in their goals without sacrificing their joy, rest, and vibrant life.

We also talked about:

how to navigate the shame of “failure” when making a pivot
mental health, neurodiversity, and their impact on productivity and rest
feeling like you have to be exceptional

About Kim:

Kim David is a business growth strategist, creator, and lifelong learner. She is the host of the Work But Don't Forget To Live Podcast and the founder of Freebird Society. She believes bigger does not mean better and is passionate about helping small businesses take over the world to dismantle systems of oppression.

https://www.freebirdsociety.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/hikimdavid/

Connect with Gieselle:

Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://gieselleallen.com/1-1-coaching/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/

Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gieselle/