033: Prioritizing your needs is revolutionary AF

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12/09/21 • 24 min

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Revolutionary Rising

Continuing the conversation about overgiving and boundaries

This episode is a love letter to all the people pleasers, responsibility holders, and folks who love to take care of other people.

We are conditioned through our formative years to believe that to make a difference, to be successful, we must follow the golden rule of capitalism, to give everything we possibly can. Our needs are unimportant, and to put our needs first is...

SELFISH

News flash, putting your needs first, prioritizing yourself, setting boundaries, IS revolutionary leadership.

This episode you’re learning how to walk the talk. We are learning our needs, learning how to assess our capacity to give, and most importantly learning how to protect those needs and boundaries with the magical word, NO!

Your needs and boundaries guide the space for your community, and while you may get pushback, this conversation is going to empower you to stand your ground.

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Continuing the conversation about overgiving and boundaries

This episode is a love letter to all the people pleasers, responsibility holders, and folks who love to take care of other people.

SELFISH

News flash, putting your needs first, prioritizing yourself, setting boundaries, IS revolutionary leadership.

Your needs and boundaries guide the space for your community, and while you may get pushback, this conversation is going to empower you to stand your ground.

Connect with Gieselle:

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/

Apply for 1:1 or group coaching with Gieselle:

https://gieselleallen.com/

Previous Episode

032: you give too much, sib

Revolutionary leadership is NOT synonymous with overgiving!

Regardless of the season, overgiving is never in. We are chatting all about the ‘why’ of overgiving. You may ask yourself, how do I regulate my giving when I want to serve and give to as many people as possible? We are diving into giving at our own expense, serving when it is not the best thing for us, when we have other needs, when we are at our capacity.

Overgiving does not equate to being a revolutionary leader. This may come off as shocking, praised leaders are noted to have given until they could give no more, but I promise you this is not a toxic cycle we are going to repeat.

Overgiving is exactly that... A toxic cycle!

While celebrating these leaders we have promoted the idea that to truly serve others is to drain yourself of everything...

FUCK THAT!

This episode we are confronting the toxic ideology that giving all of yourself is what makes a good leader, how white supremicist culture has taught BIPOC that this is our role (to give unconditionally), and how capitalism has conditioned us to function that way.

This episode is not to be missed. Grow in your revolutionary leadership and still have more than enough left over for yourself. I can’t promise you won’t feel called out, you might feel a bit attacked, but there is no growth without some pain, lovelies!

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034: You don’t need an “empire”

Size... really doesn’t matter!

This episode we are talking all about size... business size!

There are a whoooooole lot of people out there who will tell you if you don’t want to have a seven figure business with 20+ employees you have a mindset problem, or you are playing small.

*sigh*

Maybe you still believe that a large business equals success but you are exhausted, burnout, and unsettled. There is a difference between not thinking you deserve something and creating something out of a deprived trauma response.

Let’s talk about what no one is talking about publicly, what does a sustainable business that matches your energy look like? What about a business that supports you financially and aligns with what you actually enjoy and love? The impact your business makes does not equate to its size. Your business doesn’t need to be this continuous growing beast to support you or your impact.

I know this isn’t a sexy conversation topic and goes against all topics of ‘abundance mindset’, but it is a conversation that needs to be had!

Why? Because when you begin to teeter on the edge of, I hate what I am doing and I am not good enough to make this business work, the reality is you likely aren’t building a business with your true-self but with the capitalist worldview to be more is to do more and grow more.

Regardless of where you are in your business, maybe you are struggling to ‘grow’ because you feel that is what you MUST do to be successful. Maybe you have grown too much and just dread doing anything business related. This episode is for you, love.

Connect with Gieselle:

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/

Apply for 1:1 or group coaching with Gieselle:

https://gieselleallen.com/