032: you give too much, sib
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12/02/21 • 22 min
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Revolutionary leadership is NOT synonymous with overgiving!
Regardless of the season, overgiving is never in. We are chatting all about the ‘why’ of overgiving. You may ask yourself, how do I regulate my giving when I want to serve and give to as many people as possible? We are diving into giving at our own expense, serving when it is not the best thing for us, when we have other needs, when we are at our capacity.
Overgiving does not equate to being a revolutionary leader. This may come off as shocking, praised leaders are noted to have given until they could give no more, but I promise you this is not a toxic cycle we are going to repeat.
Overgiving is exactly that... A toxic cycle!
While celebrating these leaders we have promoted the idea that to truly serve others is to drain yourself of everything...
FUCK THAT!
This episode we are confronting the toxic ideology that giving all of yourself is what makes a good leader, how white supremicist culture has taught BIPOC that this is our role (to give unconditionally), and how capitalism has conditioned us to function that way.
This episode is not to be missed. Grow in your revolutionary leadership and still have more than enough left over for yourself. I can’t promise you won’t feel called out, you might feel a bit attacked, but there is no growth without some pain, lovelies!
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Revolutionary leadership is NOT synonymous with overgiving!
Regardless of the season, overgiving is never in. We are chatting all about the ‘why’ of overgiving. You may ask yourself, how do I regulate my giving when I want to serve and give to as many people as possible? We are diving into giving at our own expense, serving when it is not the best thing for us, when we have other needs, when we are at our capacity.
Overgiving does not equate to being a revolutionary leader. This may come off as shocking, praised leaders are noted to have given until they could give no more, but I promise you this is not a toxic cycle we are going to repeat.
Overgiving is exactly that... A toxic cycle!
While celebrating these leaders we have promoted the idea that to truly serve others is to drain yourself of everything...
FUCK THAT!
This episode we are confronting the toxic ideology that giving all of yourself is what makes a good leader, how white supremicist culture has taught BIPOC that this is our role (to give unconditionally), and how capitalism has conditioned us to function that way.
This episode is not to be missed. Grow in your revolutionary leadership and still have more than enough left over for yourself. I can’t promise you won’t feel called out, you might feel a bit attacked, but there is no growth without some pain, lovelies!
Connect with Gieselle:
Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/
Apply for 1:1 or group coaching with Gieselle:
Previous Episode
031: Overcoming isolation in leadership
Overcoming the lonely road of leadership
After the last episode we know why revolutionary leadership can get so damn lonely, now we are digging into what the fuck to do about it!
We CRAVE a community of like minded people, and seek nourishing reciprocal relationships, but as we dive head first into the pool of prospects we tend to feel a bit more let down versus lifted up.
While each of our journeys is unique, our past traumas are likely going to impede the transition from lonely to supported. Our traumas, formed during periods of feeling unsafe, unseen, unheard, or harmed in our relationships, can be easily triggered when forming new relationships.
Let’s say it together, people cannot meet our needs if they do not know our needs!
Step 1. KNOW our needs
Step 2. Express those needs.
Step 3. Find people wanting/willing to meet said needs
We are breaking the capitalistic constraints of who "valuable community members’" are, and no longer shying away from the growing pains of a good relationship.
This episode we are learning to listen to our nervous system and navigate the journey of community building. No more gravitating to the wrong ass people and deepening old wounds. It takes practice, consistency, and time to build reciprocal, nourishing, relationships and there is no better time than right now to get started!
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Next Episode
033: Prioritizing your needs is revolutionary AF
Continuing the conversation about overgiving and boundaries
This episode is a love letter to all the people pleasers, responsibility holders, and folks who love to take care of other people.
We are conditioned through our formative years to believe that to make a difference, to be successful, we must follow the golden rule of capitalism, to give everything we possibly can. Our needs are unimportant, and to put our needs first is...
SELFISH
News flash, putting your needs first, prioritizing yourself, setting boundaries, IS revolutionary leadership.
This episode you’re learning how to walk the talk. We are learning our needs, learning how to assess our capacity to give, and most importantly learning how to protect those needs and boundaries with the magical word, NO!
Your needs and boundaries guide the space for your community, and while you may get pushback, this conversation is going to empower you to stand your ground.
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Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/
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