030: why’s it “lonely at the top”?
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11/18/21 • 22 min
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Based on the saying that we all know, and have honestly felt intimately at some point or another, “it’s lonely at the top”.
So many of my clients that I work with come to me at pretty much the same point... they are good at holding communities together for others, but feel devoid of a community which supports them in all their needs and wants.
Listen, this isolation of revolutionary leaders is a fucking epidemic! It’s also by (white supremacist) design.
The truth is, we go so much further together, and we know this in our culture, yet we are all functioning in a deeply broken place. We focus on ourselves and believe that asking for help makes our achievements less than, and as women and femmes of color we have become hyper-individualized.
Today we’re going to talk about:
- Why it feels lonely at the top
- What white supremacy has to do with this
- How our intergenerational trauma is getting in the way of us having deeper support in our leadership
If you listen to no other episode of the podcast, (but like, do, it’s dope, lol!) this is the one to listen to because when revolutionary leaders of color come together, support one another, compare notes... ...we truly are capable of liberating our communities and changing the entire fucking world.
Connect with Gieselle:
Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/
Apply for 1:1 or group coaching with Gieselle:
Based on the saying that we all know, and have honestly felt intimately at some point or another, “it’s lonely at the top”.
So many of my clients that I work with come to me at pretty much the same point... they are good at holding communities together for others, but feel devoid of a community which supports them in all their needs and wants.
Listen, this isolation of revolutionary leaders is a fucking epidemic! It’s also by (white supremacist) design.
The truth is, we go so much further together, and we know this in our culture, yet we are all functioning in a deeply broken place. We focus on ourselves and believe that asking for help makes our achievements less than, and as women and femmes of color we have become hyper-individualized.
Today we’re going to talk about:
- Why it feels lonely at the top
- What white supremacy has to do with this
- How our intergenerational trauma is getting in the way of us having deeper support in our leadership
If you listen to no other episode of the podcast, (but like, do, it’s dope, lol!) this is the one to listen to because when revolutionary leaders of color come together, support one another, compare notes... ...we truly are capable of liberating our communities and changing the entire fucking world.
Connect with Gieselle:
Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/
Apply for 1:1 or group coaching with Gieselle:
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029: owning power (without being oppressive)
After discussing the concept of leadership and power in episode two, it is time we discuss the importance of leaning into our leadership and continually seeing and expressing our power. Doing this is necessary to make the massive impact we are hoping for, to liberate our communities, and create better futures for us all.
It is time for you to deepen and expand your power. Listen to this episode and give yourself space and time to let it soak in. This message is too good, too powerful, to miss out on!
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031: Overcoming isolation in leadership
Overcoming the lonely road of leadership
After the last episode we know why revolutionary leadership can get so damn lonely, now we are digging into what the fuck to do about it!
We CRAVE a community of like minded people, and seek nourishing reciprocal relationships, but as we dive head first into the pool of prospects we tend to feel a bit more let down versus lifted up.
While each of our journeys is unique, our past traumas are likely going to impede the transition from lonely to supported. Our traumas, formed during periods of feeling unsafe, unseen, unheard, or harmed in our relationships, can be easily triggered when forming new relationships.
Let’s say it together, people cannot meet our needs if they do not know our needs!
Step 1. KNOW our needs
Step 2. Express those needs.
Step 3. Find people wanting/willing to meet said needs
We are breaking the capitalistic constraints of who "valuable community members’" are, and no longer shying away from the growing pains of a good relationship.
This episode we are learning to listen to our nervous system and navigate the journey of community building. No more gravitating to the wrong ass people and deepening old wounds. It takes practice, consistency, and time to build reciprocal, nourishing, relationships and there is no better time than right now to get started!
Connect with Gieselle:
Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gieselleallen/
Apply for 1:1 or group coaching with Gieselle:
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