Relationship Dish - ep 022 / Togetherness Separateness

ep 022 / Togetherness Separateness

06/20/18 • 34 min

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This week the therapists dish about the fine balance between togetherness and separateness. Iona struggles with both her teenage daughter’s and husband’s growing up and away from her while in the past, Pam, the introvert, has struggled with Eric’s need for more togetherness and more recently, his needs for separateness. The therapists then dive on some useful literature to help us understand and navigate this precarious balance, with the ultimate goal of improving our connection by communicating our needs and feelings to our partner.

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ep 021 / Money and Relationships

Hey dishers, we're back!

Listen in to our season 2 premiere when we talk about everyone's favorite topic money.

Money- love it or hate it, it’s one of the most difficult topics to discuss with your partner. The therapists dish on the role of money in their own relationships and how it’s been contentious.

They dive into some interesting research and come back with some helpful hints on how to prevent it from taking over your relationship. So let's learn more about this hot button and how to navigate it safely with our partners!!

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ep 023 / How To Get On The Same Page

This week the therapists dish about the frustration they feel toward their partners who are not as psychologically minded as they are. Iona struggles with Steve sometimes because he doesn’t have the same map that she has about how the most productive conversations unfold.

He doesn’t always follow her rules of engagement and that makes her feel like she alone is the keeper of the process of the conversation. Sometimes, without realizing, he can throw a grenade into their conversations just when Iona feels they are getting really productive.

Pam struggles in the same way with Eric, but understands that this is both a skill and a gift that has been practiced and honed in us as therapists. Can we really expect that our partners, who are not trained therapists, should have a mutual understanding and see the big picture the same way that we do? Still, we don’t want to be “stewards of the conversation” without our partners help. The therapists then dive into some basic ideas about what it means to be psychologically minded and psychologically mindful and finally create a wish list for their ‘golden rules of conversation’, hopefully sparking listeners to create their own wish lists with their partners to increase understanding, decrease conflict and create more intimacy and closeness!