Stop Trading Your Dreams for Comfort - Real Talk w/Guest Melissa Sheets

06/03/20 • 33 min

"The people who are closest to you are often incredibly uncomfortable with your reinvention."
Whew....isn't that the truth. Melissa Sheets, Photographer & Creative Specialist at Kidbox.com shares how she made tough but thoughtful decisions leading to a life she could only imagine. After returning from Haiti, she found seclusion on a local farm that provided her time to reflect on her marriage and career. The clarity that she gained, gave her the confidence to explore the next best version of herself as a mom, partner, entrepreneur and world citizen.
It can be hard for the people around you to accept the idea that you are in a season of growth and change. The challenge is to take care of yourself and love people along the way without taking your eye off your destination.
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Interview with Melissa Sheets

0:00 - Intro Quote

0:39 - Podcast Introduction

1:12 - Episode Introduction

2:30 - Guest Introduction

3:30 - Guest Bio

5:21 - Melissa’s Crumbling Moment

8:33 - The Seeking of More

11:21 - The Awakening

13:29 - Divorce & Reinvention

15:39 - “You’ll never make it on your own”

16:36 - The Void of Divorce

19:37 - Two Truths and a Lie

20:21 - Truth - Don’t Like to Be Alone, But Needed to Be Alone

22:24 - Truth - The People Closest to You May Not Support Your Reinvention.

24:12 - Being Still in the Midst of Chaos

25:35 - Lie - “I need to have perfection to be worthy”

27:06 - Updates & Takeaways

27:35 - Personal Update “Five Years Later...”

30:11 - Takeaway - “We are only stuck because we allow ourselves to be stuck...”

32:10 Outro

We would like to give our thanks to Melissa Sheets for participating in Today’s Episode.

Melissa Sheets is Creative Director at Kidbox

If you would like more information, you can find all things reinvention at JesAverhart.com where you can join the Reinvention Road Trip.

0:00 - Intro Quote

0:39 - Podcast Introduction

1:12 - Episode Introduction

2:30 - Guest Introduction

3:30 - Guest Bio

5:21 - Melissa’s Crumbling Moment

8:33 - The Seeking of More

11:21 - The Awakening

13:29 - Divorce & Reinvention

15:39 - “You’ll never make it on your own”

16:36 - The Void of Divorce

19:37 - Two Truths and a Lie

20:21 - Truth - Don’t Like to Be Alone, But Needed to Be Alone

22:24 - Truth - The People Closest to You May Not Support Your Reinvention.

24:12 - Being Still in the Midst of Chaos

25:35 - Lie - “I need to have perfection to be worthy”

27:06 - Updates & Takeaways

27:35 - Personal Update “Five Years Later...”

30:11 - Takeaway - “We are only stuck because we allow ourselves to be stuck...”

32:10 Outro

We would like to give our thanks to Melissa Sheets for participating in Today’s Episode.

Melissa Sheets is Creative Director at Kidbox

If you would like more information, you can find all things reinvention at JesAverhart.com where you can join the Reinvention Road Trip.

Previous Episode

Confessions of an Impostor! Which one are you?

Everybody's talking about impostor syndrome. It’s the new phrase we’re throwing around, right? So, what's all this buzz about. Impostor Syndrome is a feeling. Bottom line. A feeling of being a fraud that if not checked, can drive you to make decisions that might hold you back.

Hold you back from what...? Pursuing your dream job, starting that blog for millennials, going after that new role in your department or moving to another country to open a little coffee shop.

Impostor Syndrome is a feeling that if gone unchecked can wreak some havoc on your life and have you doubting even the most logical or oblivious more.

Turns out 70% of Americans suffer from Impostor Syndrome. Today, I want to help you and hopefully save you some angst along the way. I’ll share the 5 types of impostors and a few quick tip to overcoming this common feeling of intellectual self-doubt.

Dr. Valerie Young found these subgroups in her book The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women.

· Perfectionist
· Superwoman/Superman
· The natural genius.
· Soloist
· The Expert
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Imposter Syndrome

0:00 - Introduction Quotation

0:16 - Podcast Introduction

1:00 - Episode Introduction

2:18 - Jes’ 1st Encounter with Imposter Syndrome

4:15 - Feeling like a Fraud

5:12 - The Exit from GE

6:07 - Imposter Syndrome & The Five Types of Imposters

7:49 - The Perfectionist

8:28 - The Superman/woman

9:02 - The Natural Genius

9:45 - The Soloist

10:22 - The Expert

10:48 - Five Types Summary

11:58 - Tips for Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

12:09 - Get Honest

13:35 - Help from a Superstar Friend

16:01 - Focus on Facts not Feelings

17:31 - Know that Sometimes being an Outsider is Normal

19:14 - Know your Highlight Reel

22:16 - Fake it Until You Make It

23:08 - Do away with If-Then Statements

26:00 - Closing

28:35 Outro

If you would like more information, you can find all things reinvention at JesAverhart.com where you can join the Reinvention Road Trip.

Mentioned Specifically in this Podcast:

The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women by Dr. Valerie Young

Goal Digger Podcast by Jenna Kutcher

Next Episode

WELCOME to the Reinvention Road Trip!

WELCOME TO REINVENTION ROAD TRIP

Let’s get a little crazy shall we... LET’S STOP TALKING ABOUT THE NEW NORMAL FOR A SECOND....!
I have a proposal...is it possible that this disruptive time we’re all going through in our world is screaming out for a reinvention!!! I say yes and am here for it....I vote for a reinvention – we need a reinvention in our communities, our leadership, work environments and especially for our selves! Why not use this moment in time as a reason to evaluate, audit and self-reflect. I mean, it’s not every day that the world tilts on it’s axis and says, “hey! there really are no boundaries on how you design your life.” And its not everyday that the world changes so drastically that a reinvention might not be a luxury but a necessity! So, instead of a new normal...how about a New YOU!

So...who am I? Well, you probably heard in the intro that I'm a Midwestern girl! I'm also a CEO, fourth generation entrepreneur, podcaster (thank you for listening), storyteller and mom of a 6’ 5” teenage boy and 1’ 11’ bulldog named Roscoe and over the last 20 plus years, I've worked with a portfolio of Fortune 500 companies like Google, GE, Pepsi Co North America, Procter and Gamble, The Bengals, Browns and Cavaliers... as well as high-impact public sector organizations. Each step along the way, I’ve learned, practiced and taught the art of Transformational Leadership, Self-Discovery and now Reinvention. My hope is that this podcast will inspire and drive you into action to take the journey! I want you to set out and discover the BEST Version of you.

First Things First...#1 Do you know what your superpowers are?
These are your Core competencies – YOUR Secret Sauce...

#2 Know your Superstars. Everybody’s got their superstars or Reinvention Crew – the ones that cheer you on, offer you sound advice and believe in YOU...better yet, they SEE YOU...they know your superpowers and see them as a force for good!

Now, it’s not just about knowing them...it’s about engaging these incredible humans.

#3 Know what’s Supernatural.

So...This is your third exercise.

Take out a piece of paper get ready to access your supernatural. Your core values! On my website at www.jesaverhart.com I have a FREE Download and video that helps you categorize your values and bring them into focus.

Welcome to Reinvention

0:02 - Introduction Quotation

0:18 - Podcast Introduction

1:04 - Episode Introduction

2:27 - Reinvention Definition

4:15 - Jes Introduces Herself

5:00 - Hopes & Expectations for the Podcast

6:39 - Disclaimer/Clarification on Experiences Shared

8:32 - Step 1 of Reinvention: Identifying what your superpowers are

9:40 - When you are at your best, what do people see?

10:31 - Perspective Exercise

11:02 - When all else fails, ask others.

11:37 - Step 2 of Reinvention - Know Your Superstars

12:46 - How Superstars Act

13:23 - Jes’ Superstar Encounter

15:00 - Who are NOT Superstars

16:04 - Step 3 of Reinvention - Know What’s Supernatural (Core Values)

16:32 - Jes’ First Job

19:30 - Value Sort

20:39 - Closing

21:25 Outro

You can find the core values worksheet and video, along with all things reinvention at JesAverhart.com where you can join the Reinvention Road Trip.

Mentioned in this episode:

Retired Colonel Joseph N. LeBoeuf at Duke FuQua School of Business