EP 28: What If I Don’t Have Friends of My Race? (part 2) FT. Dannyell Rasco
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04/10/25 • 67 min
In this powerful follow-up episode, Daysha continues the conversation about what it means to grow up without many (or any) friends of your own race—and how to authentically build those connections later in life. In part 1, Daysha shares how her upbringing brought her through a variety of spaces that allowed her to form diverse friendships throughout her life. But it wasn’t until she worked at BuzzFeed that she felt like the diversity of her friendships were signaling to some that she wasn’t “Black enough.”
Joined by licensed therapist, Dannyell Rasco, they explore the challenges of BIPOC people who were either raised outside of their racial community or who felt excluded for superficial reasons–leading to feelings of not being [Black, Asian, Latino, etc] enough. They discuss:
- How racial identity impacts friendship and belonging
- Coping with anxiety tied to race and community
- Healing from past hurts within your racial group
- Strategies for reconnecting with your cultural community
- Building genuine, affirming friendships as an adult
Dannyell Rasco is a wife, mom and therapist who believes in keeping it real while supporting people through life’s toughest moments. As a true girls' girl, she’s passionate about helping others navigate life, relationships, parenting, and personal growth with honesty and grace. With a deep love for opening minds and shifting perspectives, she reminds people that while life can be hard, it won’t always feel this way—and sometimes, all we need is a little support to realize that everything will eventually be okay.
To connect with Dannyell:
IG: @Dannyellxo +@IdWantToKnow
Email: [email protected]
Email List: https://blue-flower-82495.myflodesk.com/o43oya84bn
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
- Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence by Daysha Veronica
- The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane
- 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin
- EP 24: What If I Don’t Have Friends of My Race? (Part 1)
- EP 20: Why is Vulnerability SO Hard? FT. Sharmishtha Gupta
RESOURCES:
- Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon!
- Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!
- Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!
- For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.
CONNECT:
Daysha Veronica
IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica
TikTok: @DayshaVeronica
BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica
Yes Queen
IG/Threads: @YesQueenLife
TikTok: @YesQueenLife
BlueSky:@YesQueenLife
CREDITS:
Producer: Becky Harris
Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy
If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe, and leave us a 5 star review wherever you listen to podcasts!
In this powerful follow-up episode, Daysha continues the conversation about what it means to grow up without many (or any) friends of your own race—and how to authentically build those connections later in life. In part 1, Daysha shares how her upbringing brought her through a variety of spaces that allowed her to form diverse friendships throughout her life. But it wasn’t until she worked at BuzzFeed that she felt like the diversity of her friendships were signaling to some that she wasn’t “Black enough.”
Joined by licensed therapist, Dannyell Rasco, they explore the challenges of BIPOC people who were either raised outside of their racial community or who felt excluded for superficial reasons–leading to feelings of not being [Black, Asian, Latino, etc] enough. They discuss:
- How racial identity impacts friendship and belonging
- Coping with anxiety tied to race and community
- Healing from past hurts within your racial group
- Strategies for reconnecting with your cultural community
- Building genuine, affirming friendships as an adult
Dannyell Rasco is a wife, mom and therapist who believes in keeping it real while supporting people through life’s toughest moments. As a true girls' girl, she’s passionate about helping others navigate life, relationships, parenting, and personal growth with honesty and grace. With a deep love for opening minds and shifting perspectives, she reminds people that while life can be hard, it won’t always feel this way—and sometimes, all we need is a little support to realize that everything will eventually be okay.
To connect with Dannyell:
IG: @Dannyellxo +@IdWantToKnow
Email: [email protected]
Email List: https://blue-flower-82495.myflodesk.com/o43oya84bn
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
- Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence by Daysha Veronica
- The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane
- 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin
- EP 24: What If I Don’t Have Friends of My Race? (Part 1)
- EP 20: Why is Vulnerability SO Hard? FT. Sharmishtha Gupta
RESOURCES:
- Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon!
- Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!
- Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!
- For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.
CONNECT:
Daysha Veronica
IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica
TikTok: @DayshaVeronica
BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica
Yes Queen
IG/Threads: @YesQueenLife
TikTok: @YesQueenLife
BlueSky:@YesQueenLife
CREDITS:
Producer: Becky Harris
Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy
If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe, and leave us a 5 star review wherever you listen to podcasts!
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EP 27: Bromance, Adventure and A Journey of Understanding to the Middle East FT. Miles Spencer
Do you think your friendship would be able to survive an 1,100 mile trek through the deserts of the Middle East? Or that you’d both be able to write a book about it together afterwards?
This week, Daysha sits down with Miles Spencer, half of the writing duo behind the Amazon bestseller, A Line in the Sand. They discuss how Spencer and his “adventure bestie,” Wells Jones, sought to better understand the Middle East for themselves in a post-9/11 world after reading Seven Pillars of Wisdom by TE Lawerence.
Inspired by Lawrence’s ability to translate his experience and understanding of the Middle East to the westerners of his time, Spencer and Wells not only take up his journey mapped out in Seven Pillars IRL, but they also go on the journey of a lifetime–writing a historical fiction novel together. And it is through both of these journeys that they hope to lead readers of our time to a deeper understanding of the Middle East, and the complex ways in which decisions of the past still continue to haunt the present.
Miles Spencer is a curious guy from Pittsburgh that asked a lot of questions and strayed a long way from home. He has been a mentor of tech founders for the last 30 years and previously worked as a Venture Principal at Capital Express, hosted MoneyHunt on PBS (which is the Shark Tank before Shark Tank), he has led over 1,500 people across 14 miles of open sea on kayak, and trekked 1,100 miles through the deserts of Saudi, Jordan and Syria–the experience from which his novel, A Line in the Sand, was born and ended up becoming an Amazon Bestseller in the Middle East.
To Connect with Miles:
Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/milesspencer/
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/milesspencer
Website: https://milesspencer.com/
REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):
A Line in the Sand- Paperback, Kindle, Audible
Seven Pillars of Wisdom by TE Lawerence
Episode 11: How To Deal With Boundary Crossers FT. Calyx Vu-Bui
RESOURCES:
- Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon!
- Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!
- Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!
- For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.
CONNECT:
Daysha Veronica
IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica
TikTok: @DayshaVeronica
BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica
Yes Queen
IG/Threads: @YesQueenLife
TikTok: @YesQueenLife
BlueSky:@YesQueenLife
CREDITS:
Producer: Becky Harris
Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy
If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe, and leave us a 5 star review wherever you listen to podcasts!
Next Episode
EP 29: #WhyAreWeFriends? FT. Rachel
Making friends as an adult can feel overwhelming—but it's far from impossible. In this episode of our recurring series, #WhyAreWeFriends, Daysha explores the real-life origins of her closest relationships to better understand how meaningful friendships are formed and maintained.
This week, Daysha reconnects with Rachel, a close high school friend that she fell out of touch with after Rachel moved to Germany. But upon reuniting for a girl’s trip and having the funniest, realest moment about where their relationship currently stood, they come together today to reflect on how their friendship began, share favorite memories, and open up about the ways they can grow and strengthen their bond moving forward.
RESOURCES:
- Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon!
- Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!
- Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!
- For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.
CONNECT:
Daysha Veronica
IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica
TikTok: @DayshaVeronica
BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica
Yes Queen
IG/Threads: @YesQueenLife
TikTok: @YesQueenLife
BlueSky:@YesQueenLife
CREDITS:
Producer: Becky Harris
Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy
If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe, and leave us a 5 star review wherever you listen to podcasts!
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