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Connecting Through Trauma | Life-Changing Stories
Real Men Feel
04/14/23 • 38 min
When life gets hard, a lot of men withdraw. They talk less. In the face of a health challenge for yourself or a loved one, you might be much more willing to discuss logistics and tasks than the emotional impact.
My guest today is not most men. He believes in having hard conversations with people going through trauma.
David Richman is an author, public speaker, and endurance athlete whose mission is to form more meaningful human connections through storytelling. With his most recent book, Cycle of Lives, David shares stories of people overcoming trauma and delves deeply into their emotional journeys with cancer.
He interviewed fifteen people who were profoundly affected by cancer - either as a caregiver, patient, or loved one - and explored the dynamic of why it's so hard to discuss the emotional aspects of the journey. These evocative stories give the reader a few tools to take away and use in their own lives when encountering the difficulties of talking to others about the emotional aspects of trauma.
We discuss getting past assumptions, beginning the hard conversations, and being open to the negative and positive aspects of traumatic experiences. To connect with the people we care about, we must be willing to be uncomfortable. There is more behind anyone's story than we know.
Don't worry about what's "proper." Let someone know you care authentically.
Topics and Questions
- 1:13: - What prompted you to want to write a book dealing with cancer?
- 1:13: - What prompted you to want to write a book dealing with cancer?
- 4:44 - Did each participant have a positive side to their experience?
- 7:12 - How did you decide on these 15 stories?
- 9:46 - Did you come across any common themes amongst the participants?
- 13:52 - Did you see that prior trauma led to more or less resilience regarding cancer?
- 18:27 - Fear of abandonment during trauma.
- 19:49 - The lie of not wanting to upset someone further.
- 21:09 - Is it scarier that people might not care or that they would care?
- 22:48 - Did everyone want the same sort of support?
- 25:44 - How did you get people to open up to you on such a personal and profound level?
- 27:21 - Is the advice the same for friends and family who are not trying to write books?
- 28:44 - What do you hope the reader takes away from reading your book?
- 29:47 - How do you think the participants' lives were affected by your deep interactions with them?
- 35:24 - What's the best way for people to learn more about what you are up to?
- 35:32 - Anything you are looking forward to?
- 36:16 - Did this prompt participants to write or share more of their stories?
"People are so fearful of saying the wrong thing, while the person going thru the trauma is wondering why nobody will talk to them." - David Richman
Links
Instagram -- instagram.com/davidrichman_cycleoflives/
David Ricman -- CycleofLives.org
See Cycle of Lives on Amazon, https://amzn.to/3GK6zlF
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06/02/23 • 42 min
Men and women deal with emotions differently, but we all have them. And any man who believes that stuffing and denying their feelings are the path to a happy and successful life - all I can say is that is NOT my experience, nor is it the experience of anyone I've ever met. One of the most painful things a man can experience is the betrayal by his spouse.
Today is part 2 of Recovering From Betrayal, focusing on a man betrayed by his wife.
My returning guest, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.
Vanessa shares how she went from supporting women to serving more and more men. We explore the pain, secrecy, and shame men experience after discovering their spouse's cheating. Vanessa also explores why men and women have affairs and the most common question men have when they find out they've been betrayed.
While women often want to tell the world when they've been cheated on, that is not the typical response for men. What is so crucial for a man who has been betrayed is to forgive himself.
The core message is to be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.
Topics and Questions
- 2:12: How different is the experience of recovering from betrayal when you are the betrayed party?
- 7:33 - Vanessa's first male client
- 12:23 - The six most common reasons women cheat
- 16:26 - What does a man feel from betrayal?
- 19:34 - Differences between how a man feels and how he thinks society says he should feel.
- 24:19 - Is this journey of self-forgiveness different if the wife wants the relationship to continue or not?
- 27:47 - Are there any best practices for a man when he discovers his partner is cheating?
- 34:44 - What is the best way for people to find out about everything you are up to?
- 37:02 - The response to Vanessa's first appearance
Links
Vanessa Cardenas -- https://www.understandingear.com
Talk to Vanessa -- https://www.understandingear.com/betrayed-men
Recommended resources
Man's Search for Meaning -- https://amzn.to/43BFxG0
RMF 149 - Men in Emotionally Abusive Relationships
http://realmenfeel.org/2019/09/24/ep-149-men-in-emotionally-abusive-relationships/
RMF 226 - The Abuse of Men by Women
http://realmenfeel.org/2021/02/16/the-abuse-of-men-by-women/
https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/
Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk
Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!
RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel
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04/21/23 • 36 min
I love to give any man who is being of service a platform to share his message. I met today's guest, Dustin Bakker, in an online program and was immediately impressed by his willingness to be authentic and vulnerable and his desire to help other men.
After losing his sense of happiness, Dustin began changing his life and slowly became aware of what his mind, body, and soul were trying to tell him. Dustin did the research, study, and inner work required to discover his happiness. He's gone on to create F.O.ReaLiving and The Strength of Men.
We discuss the power of choice, expressing emotions, and the goal of a stronger connection to our authentic selves. Dustin shares how drugs were one of his masks, keeping him from his strengths and true self.
Dustin is a strong example of self-sufficiency while also yearning for connection. It does not have to be one or the other. Community is another strength that society seems to have let go of.
We all benefit from helping others.
Topics and Questions
- 1:04 - Tell me about what growing up was like for you.
- 1:53 - Was your general outlook positive, negative, or neutral?
- 2:44 - Did you follow your mom's path of being a partier?
- 4:25 - Was being alone so much growing up a happy time for you?
- 5:21 - When did you realize your life wasn't working to the extent you wanted it to?
- 8:03 - Can you expand on the "movie scene" you came home to?
- 9:12 - Have you always had that intuitive sense?
- 10:19 - Is a group of scaffolders in British Colombia usually talking about happiness and fulfillment?
- 11:19 - What do you do in your men's gathering?
- 12:02 - What are some of the tools you've learned?
- 14:09 - What do you see as the strength of men?
- 15:54 - What made you appreciate your emotions?
- 19:37 - Could you feel connected to your authentic self when drunk or high?
- 20:56 -How did you learn what it means to be a man?
- 22:48 - What is FOReal Living?
- 24:59 - Can you share a practice, program, or book that has helped you?
- 25:48 - What is one thing you wish more men knew?
- 27:24 - What are you most proud of?
- 29:15 - What would you like to see The Strength of Men become?
- 34:51 - How can people learn more about what you are up to?
"Choice is the superpower that we all have." - Dustin Bakker
Links
Instagram -- instagram.com/thestrenghtofmen/
Facebook -- facebook.com/thestrengthofmen
Dustin Bakker -- TheStrengthOfMen.com
F.O.Realiving -- forealiving.com
Healing & Mystical States Are Just A Breath Away on Amazon, https://amzn.to/41OdGS5
Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
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Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!
RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel
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I've Sat With My Emotions; Now What?
Real Men Feel
08/04/20 • 56 min
"Where do you get your energy from?"
Coach and author, Stephanie Thoma, joins us to share ways to decrease anxiety and demystify our feelings.
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Episode 197, August 4, 2020
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Emotions Are a Superpower for Men
Real Men Feel
10/26/21 • 45 min
“So many of us grew up with male emotion just being an explosion rather than an expression,” says Charles Matheus, author and Mankind Project facilitator. In today's episode, Charles describes how men’s emotions are frequently neglected and explains how a different approach to emotions can give men powerful spaces to be fully authentic.
Charles dives deep into a common masculinity trope: men who rarely express their emotions sober. Instead, men wait until they are inebriated and let their emotions out in unhealthy and unproductive ways. Charles is working to break down this cultural trope and teach men how to deal with emotions in everyday life. His goal is to make a full range of emotional expressions in men the norm, instead of occasional, unhealthy outbursts.
Tune into this week's episode of Real Men Feel for a conversation with Charles Matheus about creating powerful spaces and healthy emotional outlets for men. Learn how to look at emotions like a superpower, why vulnerability is a crucial mental GPS, and what the definition of Man Box culture is.
Quotes
• "I'm not actually interested in creating safe spaces anymore, but creating powerful spaces." (02:05-02:08 | Charles Matheus)
• “Men have this opportunity now to get together with other men in particular, I think that's the place on this podcast, in their own men's groups, reading groups, whatever it is, to make some mistakes with one another, as we figure out a way to create those inclusive, powerful spaces at work, at home, at church, you know, wherever it is, but we got to talk about it.” (05:19-05:40 | Charles Matheus)
• “So many of us grew up with the male expressions of emotion just being an explosion rather than an expression.” (09:54-10:03 | Charles Matheus)
• “When we can be clean and clear with one another, it creates connection.” (16:23-16:27 | Charles Matheus)
• “Testosterone is not a dominance chemical. That's the main problem with that biological explanation. It is a fierceness chemical. But we can be fierce together, and we can be fierce authentically, and we can be fierce in community.” (30:36-30:53 | Charles Matheus)
• “There's no equality on a ladder.” (32:32-32:33 | Charles Matheus)
• “Let's be authentic, full and powerful in ways that don't take power away from other people.” (33:03-33:05 | Charles Matheus)
• "The universe is expanding, we must too." (42:25-42:28 | Andy Grant)
Links
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04/28/23 • 46 min
Last Sunday, a man reached out to the Real Men Feel page on Facebook and said - I would like to appear on your show and debate "cultural appropriation in MKP." That man, B Crittenden Freeman, is my guest today.
Crittenden has been a member of the ManKind Project for 30 years holding multiple positions, Center Director, Elder, Leader In Training, and Recording Secretary for the MKP USA Board. He was responsible for the occurrence of the 1st NWTA Urban Adventure.
Initially, I thought this subject had been played out. I've done two shows about it, but they were me alone, and I did ask for people to step forward and discuss this with me. So, here we are. I don't think we are on opposite sides of any issue for a brawling debate, but let's find out.
To follow our conversation, you'll need to know a few acronyms; MKP is the ManKind Project, NWTA is their New Warrior Training Adventure weekend, and LKS is the Lodge Keepers Society, the group within MKP responsible for building and running sweat lodges.
Topics and Questions
- 1:22 - Could you lay the groundwork; what is the controversy around cultural appropriation and MKP?
- 4:55 - Andy's experience of the NWTA in 2016
- 5:38 - Have indigenous people claimed MKP has been ripping them off from the beginning or only recently?
- 6:25 - What happened last year to make this a big issue and result in changes?
- 7:55 - Andy was ready to staff an NWTA last fall, but MKP halted everything.
- 9:51 - The millions being made.
- 13:14 - How MKP learned to put on sweat lodges.
- 16:56 - The shadow elements of the situation.
- 21:20 - Cultural appropriation in the melting pot of the United States.
- 23:57 - Are you good with the outcome but oppose the communication around it?
- 26:01 - With the changes made, are you in or out with MKP?
- 30:24 - What's your ideal scenario for resolution?
- 31:45 - Andy's experience with the updated MKP weekend.
- 33:45 - What drove your 30 years of participation with MKP?
- 36:42 - Tell me about the first Urban NWTA.
- 41:43 - Anything else you want to share?
- 42:57 - How can people connect with you?
- 43:37 - Is there a way to get off the limited activities list?
"How does a dominant culture say to a non-dominant culture, you are coming from a wounded place?" - B Crittenden Freeman
Links
Critt on Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/b.crittenden.freeman
MKP USA -- https://mkpusa.org/
Spirit -- https://www.spiritprotection.org/
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Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
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RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel
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05/05/23 • 44 min
Since men are human, they can make mistakes. One aspect of life we make mistakes in is our relationships. Since so many studies show that a strong prediction of happiness and longevity is the quality of our relationships, betraying our partner is a significant issue.
Google says that nearly half of individuals in monogamous relationships admit to having an affair. Close to 25% of marriages stay together after an instance of cheating.
My guest today, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.
Vanessa delivers a master class on men who've betrayed their spouses but want to stay together. She shares the three aspects of cheating, why women can't just "get over it," and seven reasons why men cheat. You'll also learn what got Vanessa working with betrayal.
Be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.
Topics and Questions
- 1:34 - In your work, what constitutes betrayal?
- 2:14 - The three aspects of cheating.
- 5:47 - Are men and women equally likely to cheat?
- 7:10 - Did you initially work exclusively with women?
- 9:09 - Does it matter why a man cheats?
- 9:37 - Vanessa's experience with being betrayed.
- 13:37 - Seven most popular reasons why men cheat.
- 19:56 - Does having any of these reasons mean you are destined for betrayal?
- 20:26 - Does blame and responsibility fall on both partners?
- 20:52 - The very first thing to do once you've come clean.
- 24:39 - Is there anything men should NOT do?
- 25:55 - Can a relationship be better post-betrayal?
- 28:11 - What men can do to rebuild the relationship.
- 31:33 - How a relationship can be better post-healing.
- 34:18 - Men are taught not to feel.
- 35:57 - What do you tell a man who can't understand why his wife can't just 'let it go?"
- 37:34 - Returning for part two, When You've Been Betrayed.
- 39:40 - Recommended resources and how to get in touch with Vanessa
"If you don't make time for your relationship. You will be forced to make time for your loneliness" - Vanessa Cardenas
Links
Vanessa Cardenas -- https://www.understandingear.com
Talk to Vanessa -- https://www.understandingear.com/betrayed-men
Recommended books
Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating -- https://amzn.to/3LAs6yP
The Gift of Fear -- https://amzn.to/4191V86
Dealing with the Devastation of Your Partners' Betrayal: What to Do When Your World Falls Apart -- https://amzn.to/42lwlEU
Dealing with the Devastation of Your Partner's Betrayal: How to Talk to Your Kids, Parents, In-Laws, Friends, and Others -- https://amzn.to/3HGcOaD
Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk
Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!
RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel
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The Art of Persuasion On Yourself
Real Men Feel
03/11/20 • 62 min
"You cannot stay the same and expect different results."
Professional copywriter and expert on persuasion, Andrés Roaro, joins us to talk about the psychology of persuasion, especially how to persuade that most difficult person in your life - you.
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Episode 173, March 10, 2020
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06/28/16 • 46 min
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The Abuse of Men By Women
Real Men Feel
02/16/21 • 51 min
"Abuse isn't always just one direction with a man being mean and a woman being victimized."
Counselor, coach, and author, Ann Silvers, joins us to shine some light on the rarely discussed relationships which involve women abusing men. Domestic violence and emotional abuse don't care about gender.
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Episode 226, February 16, 2021
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