EP#29: When Are You Going To Get A Real Job?

WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO GET A REAL JOB?!
YOUR MUSIC IS JUST AN EXPENSIVE HOBBY!
STOP BEING SILLY! YOU WILL NEVER GET ANYWHERE WITH THIS MUSIC ‘THING’!

Ouch!

It hurts.

It’s painful and many times damaging when people express their lack of belief in what we are doing, especially if we ourselves are still on the journey of trying to figure out how to do it.

Dear songwriter, if you have ever experienced someone actively discouraging you from making your music then I want you to know that you are not alone.

Inside my private Radical Songwriting Academy community we have been having a discussion around this subject.

My parents don’t support me.

I put off pursuing my passion for music the majority of my adult life because my parents told me to get my head out the clouds and get a REAL job

I've fought my parents pretty much my whole life over very similar issues.

I think people can also fall into the 'Genius Model' view. They don't understand that the great musicians had to work at their craft throughout their lives too and it didn't just happen magically. It took time, effort, highs and lows and, most of all, persistence.

I veered away from the music creation path for a good 8 or so years. I did some stuff I enjoyed and learned a lot from but still.... NEVER EVER AGAIN. No matter what. I need it like oxygen.

I've been told all my life that I can't do stuff but now I've learnt not to listen to those accusing tongues. At the end of the day only you can live your life and your dreams.

These are some of the comments from students sharing their experiences of other people doubting their choice to pursue music.

And if you joined my Facebook Live this morning inside the Radical Songwriting Community you will have saw many other songwriters joining in the conversation.

Inside this week’s episode I offer a few ways to reframe when someone openyl questions, doubts or dismisses your dreams and goals of pursuing music. I hope this will help as a soothing balm and a way to open the doors towards true, heart-led inquiry around this situation.

Have YOU ever said those things to YOURSELF?

Jump into this week’s episode and let’s do some healing.

Rosie xxx