What Does It Mean to Be Asexual and Aromantic? ft. Cody Daigle-Orians

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11/14/24 • 76 min

What if love and attraction aren't the same thing at all? In this episode, we’re joined by Cody Daigle-Orians, aka Ace Dad Advice, an asexuality educator, influencer, and author who’s here to help us break down asexual and aromantic identities with humor and heart. From discovering your ace identity to navigating relationships outside society's romantic and sexual norms, Cody offers insights, ally tips, and myths debunked.

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00:00 Overview
02:19 How did you discover asexuality?
07:32 What does it mean to be asexual/aromantic?
09:48 What are the sub-categories of ace/aro
16:51 What are the signs you might be ace/aro
19:38 What is compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity?
23:50 Asexual or just low libito?
27:12 Common misconceptions
31:34 What can ace/aro teach us?
37:10 Relationships & sex
44:39 Queer platonic relationships
49:21 Managing partner expectations
52:02 Key to successful relationships
54:24 Advice for youth
01:00:55 Marginalization of ace/aro people
01:08:44 Health disparities for ace/aro folks
01:13:46 How can we be better allies?

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Surrogacy: Everything You Need To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask ft. Nici of Hive Surrogacy

The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics, and why surrogates deserve way more credit (and probably cash).

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00:00 Overview
01:11 The role of a surrogacy agency
02:35 Who seeks surrogacy?
06:10 What's the surrogacy process?
13:03 Traditional vs Gestational surrogacy
15:05 How much does surrogacy cost?
22:05 Is exploitation a concern?
31:21 Can surrogacy be unethical?
34:35 Why not just adopt?
41:14 The good and bad of surrogacy
49:11 What makes a good surrogate?
1:00:33 Do surrogacy babies suffer trauma?
1:05:48 What supports do surrogates need?
1:07:27 Bonus audience question
1:09:02 Advice for couples seeking surrogacy

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Why Are There More Bisexual Women Than Men?! ft. Brock Boyne

Why are bisexual men the invisible icons of the LGBTQ+ community? In this episode, we’re joined by the fabulous Brock Boyne (they/he), a horticulturist-turned-bisexual icon, as we dig into the stigma, stereotypes, and societal pressures keeping bi men in the shadows. From first queer flirts to the intersection of masculinity, race, and fluidity, we explore what it really means to embrace bisexuality in a world that loves to keep men in boxes.

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00:00 Overview
02:28 First bisexual experience
05:40 straight men flirt with each other?
08:47 what held you back from embracing bisexuality?
14:04 What made you want to be out?
15:53 Signs you aren't straight
17:37 Overcoming toxic masculinity
21:57 Navigating queer spaces
31:27 Same-sex flirting and hookups
36:09 Getting in touch with the feminine side
40:53 Why are bisexual men in the closet?
47:27 Is there exclusion in the queer community?
50:30 Advice for bisexual men