Surrogacy: Everything You Need To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask ft. Nici of Hive Surrogacy
10/24/24 • 71 min
The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics, and why surrogates deserve way more credit (and probably cash).
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00:00 Overview
01:11 The role of a surrogacy agency
02:35 Who seeks surrogacy?
06:10 What's the surrogacy process?
13:03 Traditional vs Gestational surrogacy
15:05 How much does surrogacy cost?
22:05 Is exploitation a concern?
31:21 Can surrogacy be unethical?
34:35 Why not just adopt?
41:14 The good and bad of surrogacy
49:11 What makes a good surrogate?
1:00:33 Do surrogacy babies suffer trauma?
1:05:48 What supports do surrogates need?
1:07:27 Bonus audience question
1:09:02 Advice for couples seeking surrogacy
The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics, and why surrogates deserve way more credit (and probably cash).
Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer
Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA
FOLLOW NICI
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Email: [email protected]
00:00 Overview
01:11 The role of a surrogacy agency
02:35 Who seeks surrogacy?
06:10 What's the surrogacy process?
13:03 Traditional vs Gestational surrogacy
15:05 How much does surrogacy cost?
22:05 Is exploitation a concern?
31:21 Can surrogacy be unethical?
34:35 Why not just adopt?
41:14 The good and bad of surrogacy
49:11 What makes a good surrogate?
1:00:33 Do surrogacy babies suffer trauma?
1:05:48 What supports do surrogates need?
1:07:27 Bonus audience question
1:09:02 Advice for couples seeking surrogacy
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What Does It Mean to Be Indigenous & Queer? ft. Chelazon Leroux & Haley Robinson
Humanity’s oldest, most suppressed queer identities, 2-Spirit. Tiktok star Chelazon Leroux and actor/model Haley Robinson tear open the wounds of colonial erasure and reclaim the beauty of being both Indigenous and Queer. From navigating intergenerational trauma to confronting settler microaggressions, they expose the raw truth about what it means to exist at the intersection of queerness and indigeneity. This isn’t just a conversation, it’s a call to unlearn everything you think you know about queer history.
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00:00 Overview
02:41 Growing up Indigenous
10:56 What is 2-spirit?
16:02 Is 2-spirit accepted in communities?
23:33 Being 2-spirit AND queer
27:36 Indigenous culture
32:21 Colonial and religious indoctrination
37:45 What intergenerational trauma destroys
41:50 long lasting impacts of trauma
51:12 How the government is at play
56:38 on reserve vs off reserve
01:05:58 microaggressions you might be using
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What Does It Mean to Be Asexual and Aromantic? ft. Cody Daigle-Orians
What if love and attraction aren't the same thing at all? In this episode, we’re joined by Cody Daigle-Orians, aka Ace Dad Advice, an asexuality educator, influencer, and author who’s here to help us break down asexual and aromantic identities with humor and heart. From discovering your ace identity to navigating relationships outside society's romantic and sexual norms, Cody offers insights, ally tips, and myths debunked.
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00:00 Overview
02:19 How did you discover asexuality?
07:32 What does it mean to be asexual/aromantic?
09:48 What are the sub-categories of ace/aro
16:51 What are the signs you might be ace/aro
19:38 What is compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity?
23:50 Asexual or just low libito?
27:12 Common misconceptions
31:34 What can ace/aro teach us?
37:10 Relationships & sex
44:39 Queer platonic relationships
49:21 Managing partner expectations
52:02 Key to successful relationships
54:24 Advice for youth
01:00:55 Marginalization of ace/aro people
01:08:44 Health disparities for ace/aro folks
01:13:46 How can we be better allies?
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