Prosperity With Purpose | Christian Leadership Coach | Create More Peace, Make More Money, Multiply Your Time, Steward Your Business God's Way #LeadingLadiesMovement

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12 weeks of interactive coaching designed to help you steward your life, multiply your business God’s way, and CREATE MORE PEACE to MAKE MORE MONEY!! Let me tell you what's not going to change your life... Attending every single live event you could sign up for, Reading every book you could ever get your hands on, Buying every course you could ever take, Watching every single training video that has ever been put out there...

What's going to change your life is when you IMPLEMENT what you've learned from these events, books, courses, and training! This week we're going to talk about never leaving the scene of the decision without taking action. Implementation is EVERYTHING!

You can't do every single little tip, trick, or piece of advice you've ever heard. You have to be discerning about the concepts and ideas that you are going to implement in your life.

Recognize, Replace, and Repeat! These three things are going to be HUGE on your journey to implementing new practices.

The first step of implementation is that you have to recognize what you're learning. Look for the A-HA moments when you're learning!

The second step is to replace the behavior of how you used to do it, with the new thing that you want to implement.

The last thing you need to do to implement is to repeat. Our habits and rituals make us who we are. So when you're learning something new you have to continue to do it over and over before it becomes natural to you.

I really want you to be the best leader that you can possibly be! So I want you to skip that pause moment and fight the procrastination to start implementing what you've learned!

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12 weeks of interactive coaching designed to help you steward your life and multiply your business God’s way and CREATE MORE PEACE to MAKE MORE MONEY!! This week I share an interview with two of my favorite people that are using their gifts in such an amazing way!

As busy entrepreneurs work, work, work can easily lead to burnout. I’ve found for myself and many of the leaders on my team that what may seem counterproductive at first is the most important piece to success. REST. Also connection and awareness with your spouse, yourself, and God. We often need to slow down, to speed up.

Nick and Renee Fouts are of Searcy, Arkansas are the founders of Cedar Rock Ministries.

It is an organization very dear to our family, one in which we serve on the board of trustees. It is a non-profit ministry for married couples and individuals who want to grow in their relationship with God and with each other. CRM’s mission is to provide effective opportunities for people to have a transforming encounter with God through seminars, retreats, counseling, and spiritual direction.

At the heart of CRM is the belief that we are called to rest in the love and goodness of God and to live lives that flow out of that profound reality. So many Christians today live very busy, anxious lives that are marked more by fear and striving in their energy than by faith and serving in the strength of the indwelling Christ. Our understanding of spiritual formation is that growth is primarily a by-product of resting in the Presence of God.

I loved speaking with Nick and Renee about how they decided to form Cedar Rock, why rest and reconnection are so important, and what steps you should take on your journey to connect deeper.

One thing that they teach is the “red dot”. This concept says that your “red dot” is where you are right now. Compare it to the “You are Here” sign at a mall. The red dot tells you exactly where you are at that moment. It doesn't define you but gives you a chance to slow down enough to be present with what is going on with you at the moment. Awareness instead of avoidance. You can communicate your “red dot” with your spouse, friends, family, or people you coach to provide better connection, insight, and understanding. So powerful in practice at these one-of-a-kind retreats and that just scratches the surface as to what you experience at a Cedar Rock Retreat.

To learn more about their ministry and retreats visit their site here. Or their facebook page here.

I can't wait for you to get to experience #walkinginworth firsthand through rest and Cedar Rock!

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12 weeks of interactive coaching designed to help you steward your life, multiply your business God’s way, and CREATE MORE PEACE to MAKE MORE MONEY!!

Sometimes we refuse to put any effort into creating a good life for ourselves because we don’t feel like we deserve it. We’re going there, friends! Do you feel like you deserve good things? Remember that you live into the story that you tell yourself, and if you tell yourself you don’t deserve all the goodness, you’re not going to get it!

I’ve heard over and over again from the people I coach that they haven’t given themselves permission to succeed. But I want to give you permission to succeed because you are amazing and you are worth it! Next time you pass a mirror, I want you to stop and look and say “I love you and I’m proud of you!”. And I want you to do that every single time you pass a mirror. The person you need to forgive the most in your life is yourself! We’re so hard on ourselves for past mistakes, things we’ve said or done, or things that can’t be changed. What if it was your child saying they’re stupid, or that they don’t belong? Would you agree with those thoughts? Are you going to sit there and affirm their negative ideas? Heck no! You’re going to call their BS and speak love and success into them. That’s what you want and see for your children!

But is that what you want to see for yourself? Forgiving yourself and loving yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do! We talk about the bible verse “love your neighbor as yourself” and we skip over that “love yourself” part. You can’t pour from an empty cup and you can’t serve and love others if you don’t give yourself the same love. Three things you really need to do to love yourself and give yourself permission to succeed include-

Forgive yourself for your past mistakes.

Appreciate your present.

Step into your best future.

The best is yet to come! Because you love yourself and you’re proud of yourself you can speak life into others and make an impact!

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12 weeks of interactive coaching designed to help you steward your life, multiply your business God’s way, and CREATE MORE PEACE to MAKE MORE MONEY!! One of my goals for the year was to work on my arms and leg muscles so I did something very scary and hired a trainer! Not just any trainer, but a bodybuilder who is very muscular. Now I’m not planning on doing any bodybuilding competitions but I figured it would be best to learn from someone super experienced in that area. I had my first session yesterday and she’s giving me all the things I need to get started like meal plans and measurements.

Now, this is where I’m going to get embarrassed but that’s the point of this episode... I was rushing around to get to my first session on Tuesday morning. I know that I’m going to work with her for 45 minutes but other than that I wasn’t really sure what to expect. We start off with an exercise band and she shows me what she wants me to do, walking sideways and doing squats. It was SO hard! That band was deceiving and I tried to keep my cool and play it off since it was a warm-up exercise. Then we move to the weight machine and she’s watching me try these exercises. This is uncomfortable for me because I’m not big into people-watching when I’m not confident in what I’m doing. But that’s her job to watch and encourage me and make sure I’m doing it correctly. It came time to do lunges down and back and at this point, I’m about to throw up. I’m desperately trying to keep it together but it’s tough. I have to sit down and focus try to catch my breath. I stand back up and go talk to her and finally admit I’m feeling a little dizzy. I told her I was embarrassed because I feel like such a pansy. She explained that it’s part of the process when you first start training.

When I go through the exercises again, she reminded me to do my breathing exercises correctly and I felt much better. But today, I can barely move and walk. All that to say, I felt embarrassed. I wasn’t good at it but embarrassment is a part of life. Way too many people don’t take the next step in what they want to achieve because they’re worried they’re going to be bad at it. Embarrassment is a rite of passage! If you feel embarrassed, keep going, you are doing amazing! I’m so proud of you and you should pat yourself on the back! Look for opportunities, to possibly embarrass yourself, because that’s where the growth comes in! You’re never great when you first start something, but you’re leaps and bounds ahead of the people that are napping on the couch! Last week’s episode covered live videos and why you should do them. In my Instagram stories, I asked if you’re not doing them what’s the reason for avoiding them. And I heard loud and clear that FEAR was the main cause. We can’t let fear or perfectionist tendencies let us stop us from taking the next step in our lives! Fear and worries of not being good enough are from the enemy. Replace those ideas with the truth, you’re here for a reason!! I am proud of you and I want you to put yourself out there. Embarrassment is a rite of passage! Come share your embarrassing moments with me on Instagram so we can laugh together!

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12 weeks of interactive coaching designed to help you steward your life, multiply your business God’s way, and CREATE MORE PEACE to MAKE MORE MONEY!! I’ve got a storytime for you today... My husband Rob was out of town, and I had already put the kids to bed. I decided to tackle some big Rubbermaid tubs that I haven’t touched in years and years. There were so many memories! My girl scout vest, so many printed pictures, and letters, and report cards. I came across a picture and it stopped me in my tracks. It made me start uncontrollably crying. I’m not much of a crier, but man this hit me hard. I texted a picture to Rob, and asked him “Why did no one ask me to prom and why am I bawling about it now?” He said, “Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry, I bet you never grieved it.” So let me tell you about the picture... It was skinny, tall and lanky, and I’m in this blue dress and I look really pretty! I look at all these details my hair, my makeup, my corsage... and I just start crying. I was on the student council in my Junior year of high school and that was the club that put on the prom at my school. So in my head, I’m debating, well I feel like I should go, but no one has asked me, so I had a few friends that didn’t get asked either so we decided to make a big, fun night of it. But there are a lot of painful memories that still come with this event. Oftentimes people aren’t purposely causing you pain, but it still happens.

I encourage you to think of a memory of your own. And I know I’m not a therapist and can’t provide healing, but working through these issues with God and a good therapist is highly recommended. But I also know that avoiding a painful memory isn’t going to help heal either. When I look at this picture I remember so many details. My friend and I went to the mall and I found my dream dress. Every time we went to the mall, I would go and try it on and dream about wearing it. I eventually even put it on hold. When I talked to my mom about it she said: “We really don’t want to spend that much money on a dress if you don’t have a date.” To this day that still wrecks me. I know my mom didn’t mean any harm, but at that age, it spoke volumes to me. I remember feeling that I wasn’t valuable, wasn’t worth it, that I wasn’t beautiful, and I felt like a loser. I remember feeling that then and I still feel some of that today. I have more tools today to handle it and see the patterns and negative thoughts.

When I look at that picture, I also remember going to the mall and getting my makeup done by myself and paying for it with my own money. When I look at that picture I see the corsage that I bought and ordered with my own money and think about how I wish my dad had gotten it for me. I can’t change the past but I still sat in my house and cried and cried. When I usually feel myself start to cry I push it back down and don’t let it come out. But at that moment, I went back to that time in my life and experienced that pain and hurt. It was just to feel that it sucked and I wish things had gone differently. But after I had a deep cry about it, I felt a peace come over me. I can look at this picture now and I don’t feel the sadness and grief I did when I found it for the first time.

When I look at this picture now I pour into that 17-year-old Jessica what I think she needed to hear. I tell her she’s worth it, that she is beautiful, you are good enough. And I let myself love that girl at 17 that didn’t love herself. I also think about what I wish someone would have said or done that she needed. And it makes me think about how I treat people and provide people with what they need. Especially my daughter... I want her to always feel beautiful and special and worth it! This is something that we need to be talking about with our kids and make sure they have the feeling that they are enough!

While I was still looking through the Rubbermaid tub, I found two other pictures that I pulled out. I have a second-grade picture of me and a middle-school picture of me. And I keep the second-grade picture up to remind me of my kids. My son is in second grade this year and I want to make sure I’m pouring into him the love that he needs. He is so much like me. I can sense that he has a strong inner critic and it just breaks my heart. Last night we were getting to bed really late. I had told them at least five times to pick up their toys and get their folders ready for school. So I just yelled “PICK UP THE TOYS” and his natural reaction was to storm off to his room. He yelled behind him “You always make me feel like a failure!”. Of course, I internally gasped. People want to feel seen and heard. That’s all 17-year-old Jessica wanted. Even 37-year-old Jessica wants to be seen and heard and loved. After he yelled, I kept thinking that I don’t do that! But I went in there and sat down an...