Parenting on Purpose: Avoiding the Pitfalls fo Accidental Parenting
09/24/20 • 20 min
This episode is focused on how accidental parenting occurs and what parents can do to avoid the risks of engaging in accidental parenting. Simply put, accidental parenting happens when we use a parenting technique or approach that does not sufficiently take into account the development of our child. Because of this, the anticipated results aren't achieved and we find that we have actually created a bigger or more complex problem than the one that we were trying solve.
This episode is based on a real-life example taken from my practice. By working through the parent motivations, the approach, the style, and the outcomes, it is easy to see how accidental parenting can happen even when we approach our children with love and desire to parent them well. While it's easy to fall into accidental parenting, there are ways to avoid making this mistake. Understanding the developmental age of our children is the key to selecting appropriate parenting techniques and knowing how to flex or customise them to reflect the unique characteristics and personalities of our children and support our family's values.
In addition to learning about what accidental parent is and why it happens, three clear and easy suggestions are given to help parents avoid the risks of accidental parenting in their families.
Just to let you know, for the duration of the Proactive Parenting podcast launch, I will be releasing two episodes a week instead of my normal weekly release schedule. I hope you enjoy the extra episodes.
Proactive Parenting is based on validated theories and scientific research to provide the information you need to care for your modern family. Not everyone grew up in a completely healthy family of origin and consequently may be unsure of how to be a parent when they start a family. Proactive Parenting was created for parents who need a solid foundation to start raising their children, and for parents who want to do better. It is a way to move past old behaviours, break unhealthy habits, and replace them with parenting actions that will lead to a healthy family life for both children and parents.
If you want to learn more about Proactive Parenting, please visit my webpage and social media sites:
Website: www.proactiveparenting.com
This episode is focused on how accidental parenting occurs and what parents can do to avoid the risks of engaging in accidental parenting. Simply put, accidental parenting happens when we use a parenting technique or approach that does not sufficiently take into account the development of our child. Because of this, the anticipated results aren't achieved and we find that we have actually created a bigger or more complex problem than the one that we were trying solve.
This episode is based on a real-life example taken from my practice. By working through the parent motivations, the approach, the style, and the outcomes, it is easy to see how accidental parenting can happen even when we approach our children with love and desire to parent them well. While it's easy to fall into accidental parenting, there are ways to avoid making this mistake. Understanding the developmental age of our children is the key to selecting appropriate parenting techniques and knowing how to flex or customise them to reflect the unique characteristics and personalities of our children and support our family's values.
In addition to learning about what accidental parent is and why it happens, three clear and easy suggestions are given to help parents avoid the risks of accidental parenting in their families.
Just to let you know, for the duration of the Proactive Parenting podcast launch, I will be releasing two episodes a week instead of my normal weekly release schedule. I hope you enjoy the extra episodes.
Proactive Parenting is based on validated theories and scientific research to provide the information you need to care for your modern family. Not everyone grew up in a completely healthy family of origin and consequently may be unsure of how to be a parent when they start a family. Proactive Parenting was created for parents who need a solid foundation to start raising their children, and for parents who want to do better. It is a way to move past old behaviours, break unhealthy habits, and replace them with parenting actions that will lead to a healthy family life for both children and parents.
If you want to learn more about Proactive Parenting, please visit my webpage and social media sites:
Website: www.proactiveparenting.com
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The Pitfalls of Parenting Without Values: A Closer Look
This episode is focused on what happens when children are raised without learning values. Values can seem outdated, but the research is clear that values are central to raising children who will mature into adults that are ready to take on all of life's challenges and joys. Values are what we use to understand situations, choose our actions and evaluate our responses. Without values, these processes are at the mercy of our mood, feelings, and what other people around us are doing.
Children need values to help them learn how to interpret the world around them. They have limited life experience, so values become an important parenting tool to help us guide our little ones in making good decisions that match with what we believe as a family. When we only teach behaviours, rather than the values behind those behaviours, our children can never really understand why something is right or wrong. Values is what gives our behavioural expectations meaning.
The use of limits and discipline is central to teaching values and should be started early. The earlier we begin to teach our kiddos about values, the better and more profoundly they will learn them. As with all things in Proactive Parenting, it is never too early to start!
Just to let you know, for the duration of the Proactive Parenting podcast launch, I will be releasing two episodes a week instead of my normal weekly release schedule. I hope you enjoy the extra episodes.
Proactive Parenting is based on validated theories and scientific research to provide the information you need to care for your modern family. Not everyone grew up in a completely healthy family of origin and consequently may be unsure of how to be a parent when they start a family. Proactive Parenting was created for parents who need a solid foundation to start raising their children, and for parents who want to do better. It is a way to move past old behaviours, break unhealthy habits, and replace them with parenting actions that will lead to a healthy family life for both children and parents.
If you want to learn more about Proactive Parenting, please visit my webpage and social media sites:
Website: www.proactiveparenting.com
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Little Hands, Big Feelings: Managing Aggression in Young Children
This episode is focused on the importance of dealing with aggressive behaviours in early childhood. Most parents think that small children will eventually outgrow aggressive behaviours but the research is clear - children to not naturally outgrow hurtful behaviours without assistance from adults. Children need to be guided on how to move from hurtful behaviours to caring behaviours.
There is a lot attention on bullying in school age and adolescent children without looking at why this behaviour is happening. To remedy this situation, we need to address the root of the problem - helping small children unlearn hurtful behaviours so they don't grow into more aggressive older children.
Five easy to understand steps are presented to help parents address hurtful behaviours in small children. Clear examples are provided to assist parents in putting this information to use right away. Additionally, specific behaviours that are warning signs that a child may need professional help are also discussed.
The trend of aggression and bullying can only be changed if we decide to address the issue at its source. Identifying and dealing with aggression in small children is a wonderful way to change what is happening in current society and make the world a kinder place.
New episodes are published each Tuesday so stay tuned for more science-based Proactive Parenting information.
Proactive Parenting is based on validated theories and scientific research to provide the information you need to care for your modern family. Not everyone grew up in a completely healthy family of origin and consequently may be unsure of how to be a parent when they start a family. Proactive Parenting was created for parents who need a solid foundation to start raising their children, and for parents who want to do better. It is a way to move past old behaviours, break unhealthy habits, and replace them with parenting actions that will lead to a healthy family life for both children and parents.
If you want to learn more about Proactive Parenting, please visit my webpage and social media sites:
Website: www.proactiveparenting.com
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