Scot McKnight + Laura Barringer talk about PIVOT - book on toxic v. TOV (good) culture

In this enlightening episode, we sit down with the esteemed Dr. Scot McKnight to delve into the themes and insights from his latest work, "PIVOT." Co-authored with Laura Barringer, the book serves as a practical guide for nurturing a culture within churches and organizations that both resists abuse and fosters goodness. Our discussion navigates the pivotal practices, priorities, and gospel-centered qualities essential for cultivating what McKnight terms a "Tov Culture" - a milieu that champions goodness and opposes abuse.

Dr. McKnight elaborates on the transformative processes that challenge the quick-fix mentality often found in organizational cultures, steering them towards emotional health and goodness. Drawing from the experiences documented in their previous groundbreaking work, "A Church Called Tov," we explore the gritty, albeit rewarding journey of shifting from toxic to healthful organizational cultures.

This conversation promises to equip leaders and members of religious and other institutions with the knowledge and tools necessary for culture transformation, addressing common questions and hurdles encountered along the path to creating an environment that is, in essence, 'Tov' - good​1​​2​​3​​4​.

008 Breath prayer :: Let It Be : Done Unto Me
To complement this week's sermon theme "Challenged", we will use the phrase, “Let it be done unto me!” as our breath prayer. We will breathe IN, “Let it be” and breathe OUT, “Done unot to me”. Our hope is to see our heartbeats pulsate with Mary’s surrender as we engage in this week’s breath prayer.

Mary was an human like you and me living an ordinary and yet well-ordered life. However, one day she was greatly challenged and her heart was gravely troubed with Gabriel’s visit. Gabriel brought a ‘good’ news that would change her well-ordered life into complete disorder. She knew that her well-ordered life would be called into a complete disorder if she let His order land on her heart. And yet, she welcomed that disorder.

How did Mary’s heart begin beating with a new rhythm?: the rhythm of letting go of her order and letting in of disorder; empyting order and welcoming disorder. Did she somehow know that God would not end with disorder but bring reorder?
This seems like a perennial truth: order-disorder-reorder.

We do not know how Mary did? One thing we know is that we would not let go of our well-ordered life unless we have to; we would not accept God’s invitation for transformation unless disorder sets in. Suffering in the course of our life - mental, physical, emotional and relational suffering - bring us disorder and challenges us to accept the fact that there are things that we can not easily fix, control, change or explain. It seems like we find ourselves or the whole world in disorder and destabilization.
What if we pause and receive this disorder as God’s invitation to follow Him in bringing ‘reorder’ in our life and the world? It seems like the ‘oder’ that once worked nicely was built upon many private and separate selves who constantly in competition. It seems like the ‘reorder’ God desires to bring will be built upon collective body that continually in cooperation. God is inviting us to become a kind of people who let go of our order and welcome this disorder as a necessary suffering to bring reorder into our life.

Jesus said to us, “Come, follow me!”

Let ‘I-Thou’ encounter take place as we closely follow Him today!

Let Jesus’ face reflect back to us who we are! We have Jesus’ DNA in us.

Notice what Jesus said at the end of his life, “Not my will, but yours, be done”

Those who are drawn to use Jesus’ phrase as this week’s breath prayer please feel free to use it as an alternative one. Mary’s phrase in the beginning of her life and Jesus one at the end of his life both share the same spirit of complete surrender and trust in God!

• Pause and set your intention to become fully present to God who is with us in this moment.
• Breathe IN and say, “Let it be”
• Breathe OUT and say, “Done unto me”
• Repeat three times
• Notice the effect this prayer has on you.

If you want to study this passage more check out biblehub to get some background on the original language.
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014 AJ Sherrill - The Enneagram For Spiritual Formation
John Loppnow Interviews AJ to discuss some of the ideas in his new book.
AJ recently moved to Charleston, SC to become the Lead Pastor of St Peters.
Sneak peak at his Sermon Series he starts to preach at his church.
What drew him to Anglicism?
[He is a part of the Diocese Churches 4 the Sake of Others]
What practices help you stay grounded in this busy season of change?
What are the 4 agreements?

1. Remember that you are not a number
2. Refuse to become branded as the Enneagram person, church or organization
3. Resist the urge to type another person
4. Reclaim the Enneagram as a means, not an end

Discuss the purpose of his book.

• You are beloved
• God is committed to you in all your beauty and brokenness
• Transformation is always available
  • Because the One who is renewing the world is ever present within the core of your being. (p.?)

How has the enneagram helped you in your relationships?
Evangelism

How have you seen it be a part of revealing the goodness, beauty and truth of Christ?

AJ, how can we pray for you?
AJ gives a blessing to you
Buy the book on Amazon
PREORDER so you can enjoy the FREE Workshop.

ONLY those who preorder will get access to a live workshop on October 1, 2020 led by AJ. He will unpack spiritual practices and rituals for each Enneatype, teaching you about “upstream” and “downstream” practices for your number.

Can’t make it to the live event on October 1? No problem! We’ll send you a recording of the workshop.

Author AJ Sherrill still remembers the moment when his life was forever changed by a word he didn't even understand at the time: Enneagram. A personality theory that includes nine different "types," the Enneagram has become a popular tool for self-awareness and improvement.

But in this book, Sherrill goes deeper, exploring with Christians how the Enneagram can be a pathway to profound spiritual transformation. Sherrill reveals the Enneagram as a tool to unlock new ways of viewing identity, personality, discipleship, spiritual practices, evangelism, and the Bible.

Using this fresh approach, Sherrill shows how our true identity is that of a beloved child of God. Recognizing that, we can move confidently into the world expressing this identity through our unique personality.

Through Sherrill's detailed spiritual exploration of each type, readers will emerge viewing the Enneagram as a precious gift to following Jesus more closely. Foreword by Chuck DeGroat.
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John Barclay wrote a book Paul and The Gift

The gift that one person gave another when they wanted to have an ongoing relationship with one another. The receiving of the gift was saying yes, I want to be a part of this relationship.

Grace means...

You are my favorite.

You are special.

And, I want a relationship with you.

noun. Charis. GK: an undeserved state of divine virtue, favor or unmerited sanctification

b: the ongoing invitation to live in response to the Lord’s delight

c: the relational and practical position we have as God’s special and favorite without earning

verb. to dignify or raise by an act of favor; to honor.

You only get to experience grace in relationship.

Grace + Peace are 2 sides of the same word.

4 Deadly Ps

When special or favorite is missing.

Pleasing

Performing

(Avoiding) Pain

(Holding on to) Pleasure

It is important to get to the root of fear.

How to tell a Face of Grace story

Think about a time you felt special when you interacted with someone. Reflect on it until you can feel it again.

What happened

What emotions did you feel

How did your body feel

Relational Spirituality

Book Ed referenced and I'm currently reading.

[Taken from Ed's website....please check it out]

Grace-based resources and experiences built to last...

What would your life be like if you saw yourself as God’s favorite? Imagine how things would change. At Equipping Hearts, the lasting concepts of our resources, trainings, and coaching are designed to

· enrich your life with God

· help you develop a strong, healthy identity, and

· become a catalyst for life-giving community with others

· strengthen your leadership and organization

We center on infrastructure, not add-ons. The last thing you need is another end-all curriculum, book, or trending idea—and we know it! Our grace-based framework we share can be easily integrated into your life, leadership, small group, or organization.

Equipping Hearts teaches skills that lead to sustainable life transformation by emphasizing experience, not just information. Emotionally, relationally, and spiritually, our creative exercises are designed to train your brain. These relational methods can be applied to strengthen any life, learning opportunity, or culture—we’ve seen it over and over!
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011 - You are going really like this conversation. Chock full of hope.

On March 6, 2020 I had a Zoom conversation with Dr. Benjamin Hardy. I wanted to support Dr. Hardy in getting the word out about the ideas in his book Personality Isn’t Permanent

Take a listen as we had a meaningful, fun conversation. I feel like Ben is my brother. Check it out for yourself.

Psychologist and bestselling author Benjamin Hardy, PhD, debunks the pervasive myths about personality that prevent us from learning—and provides bold strategies for personal transformation

In Personality Isn’t Permanent, Dr. Benjamin Hardy draws on psychological research to demolish the popular misconception that personality—a person’s consistent attitudes and behaviors—is innate and unchanging. Hardy liberates us from the limiting belief that our “true selves” are to be discovered, and shows how we can intentionally create our desired selves and achieve amazing goals instead. He offers practical, science-based advice to for personal-reinvention. [From Amazon’s description]

Medium Blog where I discovered Benjamin Hardy

https://medium.com/@benjaminhardy

Personality Isn’t Permanent - https://benjaminhardy.com/

Gaping Void - Career Hierarchy

Foster All

https://www.fosterall.org/

Sungshim and I attended a Gala to raise awareness and money for Foster All. Thanks to Anne Bierling

The Body Keeps The Score - Basel ven der Kolk

Trauma keeps a personality frozen.

Trauma shatters imagination.

Gabor Mate

Personality is a way to cope with trauma.

SOME NOTES from the episode

Hope Theory - You can’t have hope without a different or better future.

Expectancy theory - You can’t have motivation without a clear goal and path to get there.

Imagination is the key to learning.

You can’t learn without imagination.

“Mental flexibility is the basis of imagination” - Basel ven der Kolk

“If you really want a goal, you better start telling it to everybody.”

“People don’t typically admit what they want.”

A fixed mindset often comes from trauma and leads to a fear of failure.

The more honest and explicit you are the more your environment (people) will support or oppose it.

I think identity is far more important than personality. Personality flows out of our identity.

Fasting is amazing

Fasting is like prayer on steroids.

A personality typing system helps create an identity and removes a lot of ambiguity.

...can limit yourself from imaging a future self.

“They set goals to confirm the label.”

Want to become like Christ?

Define that reality, go for it!

Let's do it together.

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