Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift - POP 402 - 5 Options for Dealing with the "X"

POP 402 - 5 Options for Dealing with the "X"

03/12/24 • 21 min

Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift

Just like a coin has 2 sides - heads and tails - there are 2 different components that are virutally inseperable, which are sex and relationship.

Or, said another, sex is intended to occur within the context of relaitonship, and this leads to a very important and undeniable reality, which implicates the importance of healthy relaitonship.

Or, said another way, the healthier and more funcitonal the relationship is , the healthier and more funcitonal the sex will be that occurs within the context of that relationship.

But there's another very important and undenial reality, which is the truth that relationship can be very challenging and difficult.

What often happens in the context of relationship is what Tony is calling in this episode, the "X".

The "X" is not good.

The "X" is hard.

The "X" is a disagrement, a difficulty, a tension, a fight, an argument, or a misunderstanding.

And the reality is that every couple is going to experience, not just one "X" in their relationship, but many different "X's" over time.

And therefore a very important question emerges, which is implicates the title of today's episode:

What do we do with the "X's" when they show up in our relationship?

In this episode Tony advocates that there are only 5 options on how to deal with the "X", and he shares those 5 options.

Of the 5 options, there's one that's the recommended and outstanding option that can and will lead to the possibly of traversing the "X" in a healhty and productive way.

Learn to deal with your "X's" in a better way, and that will lead to a healthier and more functional relationship, which will in turn create the environment that makes healthier and more functional sex possible!

Just like a coin has 2 sides - heads and tails - there are 2 different components that are virutally inseperable, which are sex and relationship.

Or, said another, sex is intended to occur within the context of relaitonship, and this leads to a very important and undeniable reality, which implicates the importance of healthy relaitonship.

Or, said another way, the healthier and more funcitonal the relationship is , the healthier and more funcitonal the sex will be that occurs within the context of that relationship.

But there's another very important and undenial reality, which is the truth that relationship can be very challenging and difficult.

What often happens in the context of relationship is what Tony is calling in this episode, the "X".

The "X" is not good.

The "X" is hard.

The "X" is a disagrement, a difficulty, a tension, a fight, an argument, or a misunderstanding.

And the reality is that every couple is going to experience, not just one "X" in their relationship, but many different "X's" over time.

And therefore a very important question emerges, which is implicates the title of today's episode:

What do we do with the "X's" when they show up in our relationship?

In this episode Tony advocates that there are only 5 options on how to deal with the "X", and he shares those 5 options.

Of the 5 options, there's one that's the recommended and outstanding option that can and will lead to the possibly of traversing the "X" in a healhty and productive way.

Previous Episode

POP 401 - Watch & Pray

In this weeks short episode Tony reflects on a very interesting scripture found in the Gospel of Matthew.

Jesus is in the Garden of Gethsemane.

He's very sad and he's struggling because he knows what's about to happen.

He leaves most of the disciples at a particular place in garden, and then takes Peter, James, and John with him a little further into the garden.

As the following scene then unfolds, he asks these three disciples, three different times, to "watch" and to "pray" so they would not fall into temptation.

Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. Matthew 26:41

It's of significane to notice that Jesus connects two important spiritual disciplines here directly to the problem of temptation: to watch and pray.

Or said another way, because of the temptations that are lurking around us, that can and will entice us, we must "watch and pray", and it's these spritual disciplines that can then empower us to resist these temptations.

The word "watch" that Jesus uses here is defined as:

to give strict attention to, be cautious, active, to take heed lest through remission and indolence some destructive calamity suddenly overtake you.

Through the words of Jesus a powerful Kingdom formula therefore emerges:

If we "watch and pray" we'lll be better equipped to resist temptation!

Next Episode

POP 403 - The Temptation of Jesus

Jesus was fully God, and fully human, both at the same time.

Jesus, as a human being, lived in this broken and fallen world.

And in his humanity, Jesus experienced temptation just like us.

Because of this, we have a Savior who understands us.

When Jesus was in the wilderness he fasted for 40 days.

At the end of the fast he was hungry, and the devil came to him to tempt hm.

The devil tempted his to "turn these stones into bread".

Or said another way, the essence of the temtptation was for Jesus to take care of the legitimate needs of his physical body in his own way.

As if the devil was saying, "You're hungry Jesus, so do what you need to do to take care of yourself!"

And in much the same way, the enemy often comes to us and tempts us to take care of the legitimate needs of our own physical body in our own way.

In this sense, the urge for a man to satisfy his legitimate sexual needs through the use of pronography is a similar temptation to "turn these stones into bread".

Jesus set the example for us.

Jesus was a man, and Jesus was tempted, but Jesus also resisted those temptations.

The bible then tells us that we can also resist the temptations that come to us, because God will not allow us to be tempted beyond that which we can bear.

You have the Lord in your heart and life if you're a Christ beleiver, and you can overcome temptations just like Jesus did!