09 - CONFIDENCE: Turning that mysterious “thing” into an actual skill to improve

07/03/20 • 30 min

Phil Shomo Coaching: Adversity to Advantage

We all want CONFIDENCE. We crave that sense of certainty that confidence brings. And without it, we feel helpless, fragile, shaky, uncertain, and anxious.

But HOW do we actually HAVE CONFIDENCE?
Do we just force ourselves to BE confident by willpower, force, or positive thinking? What if we invest in positive thinking for days leading up to the performance and still fall flat on our face right out of the gate? What do we do with confidence then?

Confidence is NOT a thing you can tackle head-on. It doesn’t work like that and when we try to do it that way we come off with either (A) a false bravado or (B) a fragile anxiousness.

Confidence is more like FRUIT to grow and nurture where you work on the soil and the seed and the roots by doing the right things at that right times in the right ways and confidence grows on the end of the branch and it’s amazing.

To allow confidence to grow as a fruit of our deeper investments, the following FOUR KEY PILLARS can be a helpful place to start:

1. MEMORIES: Embedded emotional realities
2. PREPARATION: Advanced planning for multiple scenarios with WOOP
3. SELF-MANAGEMENT: Maintaining an optimal performance state through a process of (A) Calm (B) Clear (C) Committed skills
4. EXPERIENCE: Layered evaluative learning after the performance (Deep-Dive for the true treasure)

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If you'd like one-on-one coaching to grow your Mental Skills and build mental strength for turning Adversity into an Advantage, or are interested in discussing how I might bring value to your team, reach out to me through any of the following:

Email: [email protected]
Podcast: philshomo.com/podcast
Web: philshomocoaching.com
Instagram: @philshomocoaching
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-svmY7Uj8XKIvGe9_mV6Fg

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08 - MARK IMMELMAN: Great golf requires far more than a great swing

On-course PGA Tour broadcaster MARK IMMELMAN believes the future greats of the game will be those who pursue mastery at the INTERSECTION of the PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, and EMOTIONAL.

Mark has seen the best up close from his place inside the ropes as a PGA Tour on-course commentator, swing coach for major champions, prolific podcaster interviewing the greatest minds in the game, collegiate coach of high-level college golfers, author, agent, and as a 3 time All-American collegiate golfer himself.

In this conversation we touch on:
+ Lessons learned from Gary Player.
+ Mastery of self as the ultimate skill.
+ Maintaining focus equally through both success and failure.
+ Being prepared to make uncomfortable decisions.
+ Objectifying failure as information to learn rather than owning it as definitive of you.
+ Embracing hard work with persistence and resiliency.
+ Willingness to make great sacrifices for improvement.

Quickly turning into one of the top voices in the game, Mark is featured on countless PGA Tour events, including the Masters and PGA Championship, serving as an on-course commentator for CBS Sports. He also does work for PGA Tour LIVE, a streaming channel from the PGA giving fans the most exclusive coverage of professional golf on any platform, and hosts his own podcast on PGATour.com “On the Mark” which has been downloaded over 2.5 million times and is heard in over 125 countries.

Mark is also the director of golf at Columbus State University in Columbus, GA, where he has been coaching for 19 years. He has produced 12 All-Americans with multiple Cougar golfers turning professional after their careers ended at CSU. Immelman has won numerous awards in his stint at Columbus State, including being named the 2009 NCAA Division II Coach of the Year and the 2007 Peach Belt Conference Coach of the Year.

Mark has worked as a swing coach for several professionals including Trevor Immelman (younger brother, 2008 Masters Champion), Larry Mize (1998 Masters Champion), Louis Oosthuizen (2010 British Open Champion) and many other PGA and European tour professionals.

Mark and Tracy were married in 2002 and have two daughters Isabel (born 2007) and Sophia (born 2011).

Mark is actively involved in several online platforms and can be found at the following:

+ WEBSITE: www.markimmelman.com
+ PODCAST: On the Mark PGA Tour Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-the-mark-golf-podcast/id1096925460
+ SOCIAL MEDIA: @Mark_Immelman

Mark's diverse background in the game allows him to bring a unique perspective, countless insights, and deep wisdom which, along with his engaging personality, make him a captivating expert to dialogue with. It is a tremendous honor to have him as my guest on this series of the VOICE OF THE PRESSURE PERFORMER.

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If you'd like one-on-one coaching to grow your Mental Skills and build mental strength for turning Adversity into an Advantage, or are interested in discussing how I might bring value to your team, reach out to me through any of the following:

Email: [email protected]
Podcast: philshomo.com/podcast
Web: philshomocoaching.com
Instagram: @philshomocoaching
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-svmY7Uj8XKIvGe9_mV6Fg

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10 - JAY HENDLEY: Keys for deeper golf instruction and hope in uncertain times

PGA Professional JAY HENDLEY believes there's a better way to teach the game than mere instruction on the driving range alone. Jay builds driving range work with on-course playing lessons all in one session, and it allows his students to not only learn the technical side but also learn how to apply the techniques to real-life golf.

Jay is currently the Assistant Golf Pro at Canongate Golf Club in Sharpsburg, GA. He has experience learning and teaching the game of golf alongside some of the greatest minds in the business at some of the greatest golf locations in the country including Sea Island, GA, Athens, GA, and Panama City, FL, with Tony Ruggiero at Dewsweepers golf.

In this conversation we touch on:
+ The JOY of personalizing golf instruction for each individual student.
+ How to utilize range time PLUS on-course time to maximize learning.
+ Holding onto HOPE through all the twists and turns and uncertainty.
+ The dream of using golf to impact more and more young people including kids who have no real chance to make golf a part of their daily life.

Jay can be found online at the following:

+ WEBSITE BOOKING: https://clients.uschedule.com/jayhendleygolf/booking
+ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/jayhendleygolf
+ INSTAGRAM: @jayhendleygolf

Jay's experience and diverse teaching background in the game allow him to bring a perspective full of insights, wisdom, and personality. It is an honor to have him as my guest on this series of the VOICE OF THE PROFESSIONAL PERFORMER.

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If you'd like one-on-one coaching to grow your Mental Skills and build mental strength for turning Adversity into an Advantage, or are interested in discussing how I might bring value to your team, reach out to me through any of the following:

Email: [email protected]
Podcast: philshomo.com/podcast
Web: philshomocoaching.com
Instagram: @philshomocoaching
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-svmY7Uj8XKIvGe9_mV6Fg