Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT 200
Pause to Remember is a podcast and community where healthcare providers share their grief journeys after pregnancy and infant loss. By normalizing difficult conversations, providers openly share their unique experiences and offer resources to preserve their careers, relationships, and well-being while honoring the memory of their baby.
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32. Navigating Burnout with Dr. Errin Weisman, DO
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
06/01/23 • 51 min
Dr. Errin Weisman is a burnout coach, mentor, speaker, podcaster, and friend. She shares her experience with burnout that began in medical school and escalated during her residency and early years as an attending physician. This led to her feeling trapped.
The episode highlights the impact of the pandemic on burnout and the challenges faced by healthcare professionals. Dr. Weisman emphasizes the importance of seeking support, finding a community, and making changes to overcome burnout.
The conversation explores topics like self-discovery, navigating grief, and making assertive choices. Financial concerns, prioritizing mental health, and addressing work addiction are also discussed.
Find inspiration and resources to deal with burnout by listening to the conversation.
Mentioned in the podcast:
Connect with Dr. Errin Weisman:
- Email: [email protected]
- Website: https://www.burntouttobadass.com/ and https://www.doctormefirst.com/
- Podcast: Burntout to Badass and Doctor Me First
- Instagram: @errinweisman and @burntout_to_badass
Blog post with additional information is here.
Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss
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Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT-200 - Speaker at conferences & website
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33. Grief & Faith: Insights from Rev. Daryl Lavway
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
09/07/23 • 34 min
Reverend Daryl Lavway engages in a meaningful conversation with host Amy Pelkey, CRNA. Leveraging his extensive ministry experience and role as a chaplain in a Level 1, academic, medical center, Daryl provides profound insights into the intersection of grief and faith.
Five key points discussed include:
- Unhelpful religious comments like, "It was God's will,” or "God needed another angel,” can be challenged with, "How do you know?"
- The complex relationship between religion and grief (including church)
- God grieves with us
- Using faith as a comforting tool if it feels right to you
- Avoiding isolation and seeking trustworthy support with an individual or community
Daryl's insights offer a fresh perspective on how to approach religious comments, embrace your faith, and seek meaningful support with the help of an individual or community. He reminds listeners to trust their instincts honoring the memory of your baby. Read more here.
If you have questions or would like to connect with Daryl, email: [email protected].
Pause to Remember Resources for female, healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy and infant loss:
- Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1, eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy
Where to find Pause to Remember Website,
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Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT-200 - Speaker at conferences & website
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27. Bailey Dykema, CRNA - Infertility, Miscarriage, Stress, & Self-Care
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
03/02/23 • 42 min
Bailey Dykema, CRNA works in Minnesota at a critical access hospital. She has been on a four year infertility journey (IUI and IVF) and experienced a miscarriage in November 2022.
Bailey shares her experiences with:
- PCOS, hypothalamic amenorrhea, and nutritional issues related to overtraining/HIIT workouts
- Stress related to moving, getting married, starting a new job/career, COVID-19, infertility, financial strain of paying for fertility treatments, draining PTO
- Self care includes therapy with Debbie Fischer at Partners (in)fertility, taking time off from work, changing her workouts, and Fertility Hope Yoga
- Community support including Hugh and Grace and Mom's In the Making
- Holistic/functional medicine approach to infertility, questioning what is in our environment, in our personal care products, and endocrine disruptors
- Bailey recommends Dr. Hopeman at the Center for Reproductive Medicine in Minneapolis
You can connect with Bailey on Instagram @mrs_dykema
Find more resources in this blog post.
Pause to Remember Information
NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for the March 2023 group or private options
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4. Whitney Jablonski, CRNA and Her Daughter, Colby
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
05/26/22 • 58 min
Whitney Jablonski, CRNA lost her daughter, Colby, less than two days after she was born in March, 2019.
Listen to this honest conversation about Whitney's grieving journey and how Whitney is trying to help other families in honor of her daughter.
Whitney and Amy discuss the following in this episode:
- Mother's intuition in the 1st trimester
- Self advocating to see maternal fetal medicine (MFM) before 20 weeks
- Trisomy 18
- Fetal cardiac workup
- How are you the same person prior to this situation? How do you get out of bed everyday and go back to the routine of being a mother?
- Returning to work in the same facility where you lost your baby
- Working in the OB department and taking call
- Maternity leave - Is six weeks enough?
- Funeral and the need for bereavement days
- The emotions felt when your milk comes in
- How do you respond to peoples' comments (that are upbeat) about your pregnancy when you know your baby will not survive?
- Anticipatory grief
- Worried about decreased fetal movement, your baby dying, and wanting the obstetrician to check for a heartbeat while wondering if this is going to be your baby's last day alive
- Grieving the life you had as well as your baby
- Feeling less organized
- Wanting to move into a new home
- Getting pregnant after loss, grieving, and COVID-19
- How COVID-19 impacted the grieving process and next pregnancy
- What journaling revealed
- Caring for yourself so you can care for your patients
- Biggest trigger at work, talking to the hospital chaplain
- Wishing for more self care and feeling like a different person
- Sufficient Grace Ministries in the Toledo, OH area
- New Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers grieving after pregnancy and infant loss
Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss
- 2nd Monday of every month
- 7:45-8:45pm EST
- Led by Amy Pelkey, CRNA and Whitney Jablonski, CRNA
- Via Zoom - get the link and updates here
- This is for female, licensed healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss
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30. Katie Cooper, CRNA - Egg Donation, Fertility Treatments, and More
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
05/11/23 • 48 min
Katie Cooper, MS, CRNA, APRN has a unique perspective on fertility care. Not only did she donate her eggs to a family in her 20s, she now specializes in fertility anesthesia.
Listen to our conversation as we cover:
- Tips to optimize your health in preparation for infertility treatments
- Suggestions and questions to ask when researching a fertility clinic
- Financial considerations
- Anesthesia for fertility treatments
- Personal experience with miscarriage
- ABC News segment about four families going through infertility care. One family received treatment where Katie works (you can see Katie at 10:15).
Here is Katie's contact information:
- Website: www.CRNAACLS.com
- Contact Katie here
- Katie's email address is: [email protected]
Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss
- Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1, eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy
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Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT-200 - Speaker at conferences & website
Donate via Venmo: @amypelkeyllc
23. Sex After Pregnancy Loss with David Allsop, MS, CFLE, CNP
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
11/03/22 • 34 min
David Allsop, MS, CFLE, CNP is completing his PhD in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia.
He is investigating how sexual wellbeing changes after pregnancy loss and hopes to better understand the experiences of the couples in the ALOE study.
ALOE stands for Acknowledging Loss Outcomes and Experiences. Couples can participate in the ALOE study if they have:
- Have experienced a pregnancy loss within the past 4 months
- Have been in a relationship with their partner for a year or more
- Are not currently or recently receiving fertility treatment
Each partner must be willing to complete a survey (30-45 minutes) once a month for four months. They will be compensated. You can sign up here or contact the team by email: [email protected]
In this episode we talked about how sexual health impacts both mental health and happiness. Samantha Joel's research about predictors of relationship quality is mentioned. Sexual satisfaction is a predictor or a good relationship.
Researchers know little about how pregnancy loss affects couples’ sexual relationships, which makes it difficult for couples to get the help they need after a loss. Studying this is fairly new. There are only three empirical studies on this topic. One trend in the data includes mothers having a decreased sexual desire after loss.
The research that showed 42% of surgeons had experienced pregnancy loss was in 2021 in JAMA Surgery. You can access it here.
Natalie Rosen - Couples and Sexual Health Research
David Allsop's email: [email protected]
Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss
Be a guest on the Pause to Remember Podcast, complete this form
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Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT-200 - Speaker at conferences & website
Donate via Venmo: @amypelkeyllc
24. Chronic Pain After Pregnancy and Infant Loss with Macy Guisto, DPT
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
11/17/22 • 37 min
Macy Guisto, DPT talks about chronic pain after pregnancy and infant loss.
In this episode she talks about:
- Risk factors - emotional overload, trauma
- Pain after delivery or c-section
- Identifying contributing factors
- lack of sleep
- emotional overload
- constantly in "fight or flight" mode
- stressors (like loss)
- hormones
- nutrition
- Induced labor, epidurals, and c-sections have been shown to increase the risk of developing chronic pain
- How do you make a plan and where do you start?
- 3 Priorities
- Give yourself grace
- Start moving
- Have a way to manage stress
Where to find Macy Guisto.
- Instagram: @paincoachmacy
- Email: [email protected]
- Website: Wonsettler Physical Therapy
Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss
- Facebook Group
- Virtual Support Group
- Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1
- eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss
- Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc)
- Be a guest on the podcast
- Contact Amy
- Yoga with the Pause to Remember Community
NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (M
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1. Our Story of Loss and Pause to Remember
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
05/04/22 • 28 min
10:45 Tara Brach Mindfulness Meditation
13:22 Going to therapy
14:40 Returning to work in the hospital
15:58 Triggers at work
19:30 Meditation and yoga for grieving
19:53 Yoga teacher training at South Hills Power Yoga
20:16 Creating Pause to Remember with Shawna Locke
21:59 Working with burnout coach, Dr. Errin Weisman
22:34 Moving Pause to Remember to the online space with Tom Polifka
23:40 Life coach, Krista Kehoe
25:00 Goal of Pause to Remember
26:55 How you can support Pause to Remember
Additional information about Anna Grace
An autopsy was performed on Anna. A two-vessel cord was found. The cause of death was intrauterine growth restriction.
Gratitude
I want to thank my family, friends, co-workers, pediatric palliative care team, therapist, coaches, and the yoga community for being an integral part of my healing journey and the creation of Pause to Remember.
To my husband and son, you are my everything. Thank you for helping to keep Anna's memory alive in our everyday lives. Also, thanks for putting up with the hundreds of hours I have sat in front of my computer. I love you both.
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36. Reiki for Grief and Holistic Healthcare with Kristin Krebs, CRNA
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07/11/24 • 45 min
Discover how Reiki, an ancient energy healing technique, can support those navigating the overwhelming emotions of grief following pregnancy and infant loss.
Join the conversation as Kristin Krebs, BSN, MSN, CRNA, APHN-BC, a nurse anesthetist and Reiki practitioner, shares her personal journey and insights on integrating Reiki into clinical practice and everyday life to promote mindfulness, reduce stress, and foster emotional balance.
Click on links mentioned in the show:
- Integrated Health and Wellness Assessment
- Research Articles 1, 2, 3, 4
- Insight Timer, meditation app, grief meditations
- Kristin's YouTube Channel
Time stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Grief and Reiki
00:14 Personal Experiences with Reiki
00:41 Meet Kristin Krebs: Nurse and Reiki Practitioner
01:22 Kristin's Journey into Reiki
03:23 Understanding Reiki Attunements
04:47 Incorporating Reiki into Clinical Practice
08:01 Reiki for Personal and Family Well-being
11:20 Reiki and Fertility
16:40 Self-Care and Holistic Nursing
29:28 Practical Tips for Incorporating Reiki
39:24 Scientific Research on Reiki
42:42 Final Thoughts and Resources
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35. Compassionate Guidance: Navigating TFMR & Grief With Mandy Wannarka, LICSW
Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories
06/13/24 • 60 min
Host Amy Pelkey speaks with Mandy Wannarka, LICSW, PMH-C, RYT-200, a therapist specializing in supporting mothers and couples through the difficult journey of pregnancy and infant loss, including making the decision to terminate a pregnancy for medical reasons (TFMR).
Mandy shares insights from her career in social work, focusing on her experience with the perinatal population in hospital settings and now in her outpatient mental health practice called Mindful Wellbeing Clinic in Coon Rapids, MN. They discuss the emotional toll of medical terminations, how to make informed decisions, and the importance of finding supportive community and professional resources.
Mandy also introduces therapeutic approaches like EMDR and mindfulness to help individuals process their emotions and build resilience. This episode aims to offer compassionate guidance and a sense of community for healthcare providers and other parents navigating this challenging topic.
00:00 Introduction to a Heartbreaking Decision
00:36 Meet the Host: Amy Pelkey
01:26 Introducing Mandy Wannarka
02:31 Mandy's Journey into Perinatal Support
03:40 Challenges and Transitions in Hospital Settings
04:52 Establishing an Outpatient Mental Health Practice
05:08 Supporting Families with Complex Medical Journeys
09:31 Empowered Boundary Setting
15:43 Navigating Family Dynamics and Unsolicited Opinions
19:37 Returning to Work After a Loss
25:10 Trauma-Informed Care and EMDR
31:55 Unpacking Childhood Trauma
33:18 Addressing Immediate Needs
35:13 Coping Mechanisms and Maladaptive Behaviors
37:21 Navigating Grief in Relationships
44:20 Pharmacological Options and Therapy
48:41 Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
54:59 Finding the Right Therapist
57:42 Final Thoughts and Support
LinksMindful Wellbeing Clinic
199 Coon Rapids Blvd NW, Suite 208, Coon Rapids, MN 55433; phone (612) 440-1899; email: [email protected]
Postpartum Support International (PPI)
- PSI TFMR Support Groups
- PSI Directory to find a provider
- Perinatal Mental Health Certification (PMH-C)
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Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories currently has 36 episodes available.
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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Grief, Alternative Health, Infertility, Mental Health, Miscarriage, Podcasts and Crna.
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The episode title '33. Grief & Faith: Insights from Rev. Daryl Lavway' is the most popular.
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The average episode length on Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories is 32 minutes.
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The first episode of Pause to Remember: Providers Sharing Loss Stories was released on May 4, 2022.
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