82: Claire Grant: Are you a perfectionist? Is it influencing your child to be perfect also?

12/24/18 • 30 min

Parenting Teens: The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have Podcast

Are you a perfectionist? Is it influencing your child to be perfect also?

“Focus instead on who are you as a person, what do you stand for, what do you believe in, what are your deeper principles, and how are you going to live a life that adheres to that? And if you do, you’re going to achieve what you’re meant to achieve, and it’s not a societal standard and it’s not better than other people, it’s your personal best.” ~ Claire Grant

Claire, who is Executive Director of The Biggest Job Family Program at Hyde School, talks candidly about perfectionism in her own life as a teenager; how it happened, and her struggle to be satisfied with her own effort. She gives tips to parents who might be expecting perfection, and who are parenting out of guilt because they feel they should be more or because they’ve let their kid down in some way.

Are you a perfectionist? Is it influencing your child to be perfect also?

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81: Lenore Skenazy: Why is Adolescent Anxiety Spiking? Do parents just need to get tougher?

Lenore Skenazy, President & Co-Founder of Let Grow

In a world where parents are getting a lot of blame, here’s a different answer for why kids are so anxious about everything. Enter Lenore Skenazy, founder of LET GROW (www.letgrow.org) and author of Free Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry).

“NO!” she says, “It’s not the parents; it’s this culture that has written everything that kids do, see, eat, hear, read, lick – whatever - encounter as something that will be difficult and possibly dangerous…”

This is an informative and high-energy conversation with the woman who started the free range kids movement, now a law in the state of Utah and a pending bill in other states. (https://www.npr.org/2018/04/01/598630200/utah-passes-free-range-parenting-law)

Lenore and her team have also started Let Grow, an organization that includes the Let Grow Project for parents and the Let Grow Play Club for schools. Let Grow is trying to help parents, schools and communities get back to raising resilient, independent kids. You can download free materials for projects to do at home and at school from the website www.letgrow.org

Contact Lenore at www.letgrow.org to arrange a speaking engagement or to get more information.

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83: Lisa Wade: American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus

Lisa Wade, author of American Hookup

If the title of this book, American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus, by Lisa Wade, PhD., startles you, the information and descriptions in the book may shock you. But tune in to this podcast so you can find out the truth about how pervasive hook-up culture on college campuses is today, its pervasiveness and effects on students.

In an up-front conversation, Lisa Wade, associate professor of Sociology at Occidental College, gives us insight into the history of the hook-up culture on college campuses, the reasons students choose to hook-up, or choose to avoid it, and what colleges could do to change this culture.

“Seeing what’s happening on campus as a culture – recognizing that it’s not the hookup itself, but hookup culture that is the problem – is the first step to changing it,” she writes.

Lisa travels nationally, giving talks about hookup culture. You can find her on twitter (@lisawade); on Instagram (lisawadephd) or at https://lisa-wade.com