Overcoming Graduation - Ep 158 Jamie Del Fierro - Forgiveness to Freedom: Overcoming Rape, Freeing Yourself from Your Past Story, and Forgiving the Unforgivable

Ep 158 Jamie Del Fierro - Forgiveness to Freedom: Overcoming Rape, Freeing Yourself from Your Past Story, and Forgiving the Unforgivable

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09/23/20 • 90 min

At the age of 11 years old, Jamie was molested. Then at 14 years old, two of her brother's best friends raped her in her childhood bed.

One of the boys from that event told her, "You deserve this, you're a whore and you are trash."

After going through these traumatic events, when Jamie heard the words, "You are trash," her life shifted course. Hearing those words at such an impressionable age, at the time she believed that was her truth.

For the next 10 years, Jamie adopted the identity of what she believed was "trash." This led to using drugs and alcohol. She was pregnant at 16 and had her daughter at the age of 17. She said that in the early years, she felt more like a "care giver" to her daughter than a mother.

Eventually, continuing deeper into this story of "being trash" she go into multiple abusive relationships, stripping, escorting, and eventually into using cocaine and meth.

All of this changed one day at a dinner at a sushi restaurant when she met one of her brother's friends, a man by the name of Sean Stephenson.

After one life-changing meeting with Sean, Jamie decided to take control of her life and turn things around. She realized she was going to make these changes for herself and for her daughter. She said, "I want to look at myself in the mirror and be proud for once in my life."

Now Jamie is 13 years sober, is an incredible speaker and coach running her own business, co-owner of renowned MMA Gym (Alliance Gym) in San Diego, has a deeply-loving marriage, and is best friends with her daughter.

In today's interview Jamie will share:

How to forgive the unforgivable
Her best advice on how to overcome trauma and how to help people you love through traumatic experiences
What it takes to shift a story or identity that is holding us back
Her advice for anyone who has experienced sexual abuse on how to open up and get help
How one night at a sushi restaurant changed her life forever
Why vulnerability has led to her greatest successes
How to find motivation to change when you are at rock bottom
What it took for her to find a loving relationship that is completely open and honest
How she became her daughter's hero and best friend
How her forgiveness changed so many people's lives (and changed her wedding day)

And so much more!

To learn more about Jamie's Coaching and Speaking, visit: http://www.jamiedelfierro.com/

To learn more about her MMA Gym, Alliance MMA, click the link below: https://alliancemmagym.com/

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Ep 158 Jamie Del Fierro - Forgiveness to Freedom: Overcoming Rape, Freeing Yourself from Your Past Story, and Forgiving the Unforgivable

At the age of 11 years old, Jamie was molested. Then at 14 years old, two of her brother's best friends raped her in her childhood bed.

One of the boys from that event told her, "You deserve this, you're a whore and you are trash."

Eventually, continuing deeper into this story of "being trash" she go into multiple abusive relationships, stripping, escorting, and eventually into using cocaine and meth.

All of this changed one day at a dinner at a sushi restaurant when she met one of her brother's friends, a man by the name of Sean Stephenson.

In today's interview Jamie will share:

How to forgive the unforgivable
Her best advice on how to overcome trauma and how to help people you love through traumatic experiences
What it takes to shift a story or identity that is holding us back
Her advice for anyone who has experienced sexual abuse on how to open up and get help
How one night at a sushi restaurant changed her life forever
Why vulnerability has led to her greatest successes
How to find motivation to change when you are at rock bottom
What it took for her to find a loving relationship that is completely open and honest
How she became her daughter's hero and best friend
How her forgiveness changed so many people's lives (and changed her wedding day)

And so much more!

To learn more about Jamie's Coaching and Speaking, visit: http://www.jamiedelfierro.com/

To learn more about her MMA Gym, Alliance MMA, click the link below: https://alliancemmagym.com/

OVERCOMING GRADUATION SHOW NOTES:

To subscribe to the podcast, search for "Overcoming Graduation" on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify, or Google Play. You can also click here to be taken to the Itunes page!

If this episode was of value to you, please like, share, give a rating, and provide feedback on the show. This will help me understand how I can better serve you and reach even more people!

To learn more about the OCG Community, check out the Overcoming Graduation website or check out the OCG Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, and Instagram pages.

To contact me directly for interview recommendations, to provide feedback on the show, or to contact me for speaking engagements / book signings, reach out to me at [email protected]

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undefined - Ep 157 Dr. Moses Davis - Associate Dean of Diversity and Inclusion at Johns Hopkins on Pursuing Dreams, Fighting Racism, and How to Support Racial Equality

Ep 157 Dr. Moses Davis - Associate Dean of Diversity and Inclusion at Johns Hopkins on Pursuing Dreams, Fighting Racism, and How to Support Racial Equality

Ever since Moses was a child, he has always loved difference.

He loved getting to know people from different backgrounds, learning about different cultures, traveling to new places, and trying new foods.

Growing up as a young black man in Michigan, he was able to see how difference can be both celebrated and shunned. He didn't let the negatives dampen his curiosity and passion for learning about how to help and connect others.

In college he studied Dance, Spanish, and English then after graduation spent time working in AmeriCorps (which is essentially a domestic Peace Corps).

His passion for helping people eventually led to him getting a Masters in Higher Education Administration from NYU (and he got NYU to pay him to come to them). Later he earned his PhD in Workforce Education from Penn State University.

He has worked for years at multiple prestigious universities helping to promote diversity, inclusion, connection, and equality.

He currently works as the Associate Dean of Diversity and Inclusion at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore.

Today, Moses will share:

How an act of racism in his childhood eventually helped him to see the "Beauty of the human being"
His greatest lessons learned from working with AmeriCorps (domestic Peace Corps)
How to get colleges to PAY YOU to come to them
What value he gained for working for "Satan's nephew" and how it helped him be a better manager and person
How we can support Diversity and Inclusion both on the college campus and outside of it
The importance of "unlearning" when we are exposed to new information / ideas
Personal experiences of when he has experienced racism and how he has used those experiences to help others
What white people can do to support the black community and people of color in the fight against racism

And so much more!

If you would like to contact Moses, please visit the below link:

Moses Davis - Associate Dean of Diversity and Inclusion at Johns Hopkins

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Ep 159 Challenges in Creative Pursuits

We all have things we want to create and bring to the world, but there are things that get in the way.

Sometimes we know exactly what is holding us back.

Other times, it can be a lot more elusive.

In today's episode I talk through some common obstacles we face in creative pursuits, as well as how to overcome them.

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If this episode was of value to you, please like, share, give a rating, and provide feedback on the show. This will help me understand how I can better serve you and reach even more people!

To learn more about the OCG Community, check out the Overcoming Graduation website or check out the OCG Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, and Instagram pages.

To contact me directly for interview recommendations, to provide feedback on the show, or to contact me for speaking engagements / book signings, reach out to me at [email protected]