One's Too Many - Be careful who you laugh at with Boyd Renner

Be careful who you laugh at with Boyd Renner

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09/05/18 • 39 min

One's Too Many

Today’s show we have an amazing guest named Boyd Renner joining us today. He is a soon to be Alumni from Penn State’s MBA program, a Co-Founder of a startup, and 23-year member of the NSW’s prestigious Development Group.
In today’s episode we go over what it takes to get through BUDS and what your mindset should be when going through while tackling what they do to help combat depression and suicide. According to Boyd it is a problem with every unit in the military, even the best still struggle through sometimes.
Among the many different strategies used, talking about it is the main way to help someone you think might be off. It may suck, you may even loose a friend. In the end though, which is worse losing a friend for asking/confronting them about what they’re going through, or losing them once they choose to complete suicide. We learn that no matter who you are you go through some stuff. Sometimes just pulling people aside and shooting the s***, getting a coffee, or whatever goes such a long way.
“Get out, have a plan before hand, and find that tribe”
As many of us know, once you get out, it isn’t all a piece of cake. We learn more about finding a new tribe to replace the one that you left and how to make that one part of your life. We learn a lot about difficulties once you get out from his perspective and how doing something every day to make himself better has kept him grounded. Giving back is always a fantastic idea, as we learn about a walk coming up soon for Cystic Fibrosis. Everyone should check out his and his wife’s page, please donate if you can, share if you can’t. Every dollar helps go to an amazing cause.
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Keys
1.Never underestimate yourself
2.Never let others underestimate you, if they do use it to your advantage
3.Don’t be afraid to ask
Links
Cystic Fibrosis Walk http://fightcf.cff.org/site/TR/Hike/130_Virginia_Richmond?px=2033416&pg=personal&fr_id=7009
Boyd- @Brenner350
FB/Twitter- Everence.life
Everence Webpage – everence.life

Previous Episode

Don't let the bad guys win with Brad

This week we have a guy who must have burned through all 9 of his lives. This episode’s guest we have Brad. He was a twenty year veteran, four which were in in B Co. 3/75th Ranger bat, four years in ranger reconnaissance detachment, and eleven in USASOC Combat Applications Group. Since getting out he has spent time working on his music. He plays in a band called Silence and Light, who are actually about to release an album which all the proceeds from it will go to one of the nonprofits he works with.
So, this episode I am proud to bring you what my battalion CO referred to as “one of the rock stars of the military.” His name is Brad. We go over many different things, from why he came into the military to why he went through ranger and then selection. Mindset plays a key role in his life. What makes you you? Is it 100% your job (be it military, police, fire department, or EMS), or are you a mixture of every mask you wear? If you believe it is the former, you might have a problem when you get out. Luckily if you recognize the stages you go through when you transition, you are better able and prepared to counteract them.
You can take this experience and justify beating your wife, becoming an alcoholic, or a drug addict because you’ve lived through this, but ultimately that is letting the bad guy win. “If I do something because of all of this, be it whatever it is, is allowing the bad guy to win in the long run.” You are stronger than what has happened to you. Don’t let whatever that is to beat you.
We finish up learning about how Brad uses music to help raise money for two nonprofits that do a lot of good, the Marine Raider Foundation and Warrior’s heart. This is only a taste of what we go over in this episode. Please tune in, and take the nuggets that Brad throws out to improve your life. Remember you matter, you’ve got this, and you’re not alone!
3 Keys
1. Reach out and connect with someone, tell someone you’re struggling
2. We all come from a community where people like to show their strong side, NO one thinks people are crazy and having flashbacks (this isn’t like post-Vietnam) or that it is weakness
3. As you go through the recovery process, find that thing/ purpose that you can love and out a lot of time into that is healthy, creative, and positive.
Please check what brad is doing at
IG- silence_and_light_official
FB- silenceandlightmusic
Web- silenceandlightmusic.com

Next Episode

It's up to us, no one else is coming. With James Hintzke

On today’s episode, we have my friend James Hintzke on with us. He was a 30-year veteran in the SEAL community as a demo guy. James is a pretty amazing guy, and he gives us some real nuggets. We go over a bunch of things that I wish I had known when I was transitioning. We learn about how important it is to fill your life with a positive environment, and how to find your triggers, while making an impact in your environment.
He tells us about his art with Valhalla’s Forge and the difference you can make in your community through so many different ways. He shares about his strategy of being a leader to the young men working with him, including transiting vets and gold star kids. James gives us a lot of good information about how to deal with what you are going through and how to give just give yourself a break sometimes.
Coming from many of our backgrounds, it is hard to be easy on ourselves, but sometimes it is exactly what we need. You had to redevelop yourself into something that is sustainable for you and into something that will keep allowing you to grow. We go over that and a lot more in this episode. Come listen and take away a couple of things that you can use in your struggles too.
Website - http://www.architecturalrenaissancetechniques.com/
IG - @sealartisan
Keys
1. Believe in yourself- you’re a fucking bad ass
a. Don’t let anyone convince you you’re not epic, you are
2. Be kind to yourself
a. When you fuck some shit up, whatever it is, and you will, don’t beat yourself up too hard and get back at it
3. Do something ssmall for yourself every day
a. Take care of yourself, if just for 5 minutes, take care of yourself
4. Create a lifestyle that you are proud about