Gabrielle Bernstein ON: Childhood Trauma & Why You Must Be the One to Heal Yourself From the Inside Out

06/27/22 • 62 min

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Jay Shetty sits down with Gabrielle Bernstein to talk about how past trauma affects our daily life. Within us is our protector self, that part of us that takes over when we face fear, danger, sadness, longing, and feel hurt. And our protective self can sometimes stop us from taking chances, from taking risks. It can possibly hinder our growth and healing. Let’s tap into this inner version of us and make peace with our wounded self.

Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and has written six additional bestsellers including her latest book, Super Attractor. Gabrielle was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader,” and The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the “SuperSoul 100,” a dynamic group of 100 trailblazers whose vision and life’s work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. The New York Times identified her as “a new role model.”

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:02 What is happiness?
05:27 The concept of being present
11:54 We’re all running from trauma of some form
15:43 Our greatest protector part is to dissociate
19:25 “For my husband, Zach...”
22:18 How do you help someone help you?
29:36 Opening up something and not getting stuck in one place
32:40 Our physical conditions are psychosomatic
36:08 Carrying around shame
39:10 How do you fall in love with yourself again?
46:27 Dealing with your protector and exile parts
48:48 It’s not about getting out of it overnight
52:45 Thinking of trauma as a mother
55:38 Getting through postpartum depression

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Gabby Bernstein | Books
Dear Gabby Podcast
Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:02 What is happiness?
05:27 The concept of being present
11:54 We’re all running from trauma of some form
15:43 Our greatest protector part is to dissociate
19:25 “For my husband, Zach...”
22:18 How do you help someone help you?
29:36 Opening up something and not getting stuck in one place
32:40 Our physical conditions are psychosomatic
36:08 Carrying around shame
39:10 How do you fall in love with yourself again?
46:27 Dealing with your protector and exile parts
48:48 It’s not about getting out of it overnight
52:45 Thinking of trauma as a mother
55:38 Getting through postpartum depression

Episode Resources

Gabby Bernstein | Website
Gabby Bernstein | YouTube
Gabby Bernstein | Instagram
Gabby Bernstein | Twitter
Gabby Bernstein | Facebook
Gabby Bernstein | LinkedIn
Gabby Bernstein | Books
Dear Gabby Podcast
Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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On Purpose with Jay Shetty - Gabrielle Bernstein ON: Childhood Trauma & Why You Must Be the One to Heal Yourself From the Inside Out

Transcript Summary

In this episode titled "Gabrielle Bernstein ON: Childhood Trauma & Why You Must Be the One to Heal Yourself From the Inside Out," the guest, Gabby Bernstein, discusses her book "Happy Days," which focuses on healing from trauma. The speaker emphasizes the impact of trauma on our lives, even from seemingly insignificant moments, and highlights the importance of feeling safe enough to work through it. They explore various life events that brought up traumatic memories and suggest ways to support someone on their trauma journey. The interview delves into the significance of addressing shame and offers resources for healing, such as body-based practices and therapeutic work. The speaker also discusses the role of self-love, overcoming shame, and the gradual process of trauma recovery. This episode encourages self-reflection and provides practical tips for healing unresolved issues. To delve deeper into these topics, the guest's book "Happy Days" is recommended, as well as following Gabby Bernstein on social media and listening to her podcast "Dear Gabby."

Transcript

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What we're running from, first and foremost is we're running from trauma. Even the subtle moments in time someone tells you you're stupid, or you were in the best of environments growing up but you were fat shamed by a friend. Those tiny moments that are seemingly insignificant dictate the rest of our lives. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every single one of you who come b

Gabrielle Bernstein ON: Childhood Trauma & Why You Must Be the One to Heal Yourself From the Inside Out Top Questions Answered

How does trauma affect our ability to be present and experience joy?

Trauma, whether big or small, can hinder our ability to be fully present and experience joy.

What are some physical symptoms that can manifest as a result of trauma?

Trauma can manifest in physical symptoms such as sleep disorders, gastro issues, TMJ, acne, panic attacks, and depression.

What are some spiritual practices that can help in healing trauma?

Spiritual practices like EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, and IFS (Internal Family Systems) have been found helpful in healing trauma.

How can someone become the leader of their inner system and be compassionate towards protector parts?

The goal is to let the undamaged, resourced part of oneself become the leader of their inner system and practice compassion towards protector parts.

How can one start the process of healing from trauma?

Healing from trauma requires a gentle, slow process of facing shame and doing the necessary work, rather than rushing or overwhelming oneself.

How does opening up to a partner about trauma help create a safe environment?

Sharing one's trauma with a partner can help create a safe environment and promote understanding between the two individuals.

What are some tools and practices offered in the book "Happy Days" for settling the nervous system?

The book "Happy Days" offers tools and practices for settling the nervous system through body-based work, providing relief and support in the healing process.

Can unhealed trauma impact the experience of becoming a parent?

Unhealed trauma can indeed impact the experience of becoming a parent, particularly for mothers, and addressing and healing trauma is crucial in this regard.

How does reparenting oneself play a role in becoming a better parent?

Reparenting oneself is crucial in becoming a better parent, as it involves meeting the needs of one's inner child and providing the care and support that one may have lacked.

How can medication be beneficial while doing trauma work?

Taking psychiatric medication, when needed, can provide a safer baseline for doing deeper trauma work, and there is no shame in seeking this form of treatment.

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