Myth of Motherhood

Everything feels unsteady postpartum: your legs, your balance, your hormotions (that’s hormones and emotions mixed together). This is happening as a result of the havoc pregnancy runs on our bodies physically and the fact that you and everything in your life has now changed! Because you had a baby! Which is exactly how the story goes. But instead of staying unsteady and feeling unsafe, I’m sharing tips and tools to help you find stability physically and emotionally after baby. You can read the article I wrote about this here and follow me on IG for more ways you can find balance and stability in your body and your life @alissaalter Ready to take the next step together? Ready to feel grounded from the inside out? Sign up for my weekly email here and get ready to alter your life :)

We’re talking pinterest goals & instagram dreams and how that’s never how it shakes down in motherhood. Like everything else in life, adventures in parenting are rarely linear. There are twists and turns, checks and balances, risks and rewards that we are constantly calculating. This week’s guest is Erin Pasquet. A NYC based birth and postpartum doula, lactation counselor, childbirth educator and pre/postnatal yoga and fitness instructor. She’s a mom to a (silly, active and adventurous) little boy and is passionate about educating and empowering birthing people and families to make informed choices that are best for them. From pregnancy to parenting there are so many choices to consider and calculations to make. She’s a guide to help navigate the tricky terrain agenda free. Because Erin and I are based in new york city, we can’t help but talk about the insanity that is the pre school and kindergarten application process if you are in a position to consider private schools. I mean! There’s a reason Odd Mom Out, Gossip Girl, and the Nanny Diaries are so popular! And whether or not private school is the thing that’s currently making you coo coo bananas, we can all relate to the feeling that our baby’s entire future rests on every single decision we make. About anything and everything. Resources: Follow Erin on IG @erin_duolight Learn more about Erin’s work at a doula here www.duolightnyc.com Follow me on instagram @alissaalter Join my newsletter at www.alissa-alter.com Join our private Facebook community Mom’s Club for the community of like minded, intentional moms hanging out in a 100% judgment free zone you’ve always dreamed of. Loved this episode? Remember to follow or subscribe for free so you don’t miss an episode of Myth of Motherhood.

There’s so much pressure after having a baby to look like you didn’t have a baby. Even though you definitely just had a baby. We are supposed to bounce, snap, fit right back into our old jeans and our old lives when everything about us is new. In this week’s episode Alissa shares about how we can reframe our experience of taking up more space, being held more fiercely by gravity, and owning our mom bods can change our experience. And hopefully influence societal expectations, pressures, and ideals placed on women’s postpartum bodies. To learn more about Alissa, what she does, and why she does it, visit www.alissaalter.com and follow her on IG: @alissaalter

Anyone else get married feeling like check! Did it! Now that that’s taken care of, can we carry on? A real air of “my work here is done”?

I know I did.

In hindsight, I see that is exactly how I entered into my first marriage. We had built the house, moved in, and then never took care of it. Ignored cracks in the walls, peeling paint, a leaking roof, water in the basement, etc. You get the picture.

Today we talk to Paula Espinosa Valarezo about how she and her husband are both actively engaged in building an EPIC partnership, how they do it, and how they approached becoming parents with this in mind. By keeping THEIR partnership central to the equation.

Paula Espinosa Valarezo (She/Her) is the mom of a one-and-a-half-year-old amazing baby girl. She is a Copywriter and Brand Strategist at Serious. Business by day, and short story writer by night (her favorite character to write is her own mom). Paula is a Women Deliver Young Leader, Positive Discipline coach in-training, and proud team member of PSTPRTM. She is passionate about conscious parenting, empathy driven-partnerships, equal co-parenting, and making marriage feel like home. Paula is an Ecuadorian living and mothering in beautiful Munich, Germany. Follow her on IG @paulaespinosavalarezo.

Learn more about Alissa, what she does, and why she does it over at www.alissa-alter.com.

Pleasure doesn’t just show up. You need to invite her to the party. And if your party sucks, she’s gonna be a hard no. See what I did there? Let’s figure out what we need to let go of or leave behind in order to create a hospital environment for pleasure. Let’s plan a panty dropping party she can’t wait to get to.

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In this episode:

• How Danielle recovered from being so ill she was bedridden through healing her deep, inner emotional trauma to live the life she’s meant to live.
• Using movement to connect to physical sensations and how that translates to emotional sensations to cultivate safety in your body.
• Why we need to unwire learned experiences in order to rebuild with intention, safety, and pleasure.

Danielle Savory is a Master-Certified coach and pleasure expert helping women use their largest sex organ—their brain—for better sex and a more pleasure-filled life. The host of the “It’s My Pleasure” podcast, Danielle weaves together her background in neuroscience, her expertise in mindfulness and skills as a coach to help women rewire their brains and connect with their bodies for an empowering approach to their sexuality. Learn more about Danielle here and her online membership Turned On Woman here. For more follow her on IG @danielle.savory.

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As always I’ve got your back, I’ve got your front, and I’ve got your undercarriage. Follow along on IG @alissaalter