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Understanding RIE parenting
My New Life
09/22/21 • 25 min
Feeding, diapering, dressing, soothing. At times, it feels like we’re merely surviving those early months. When in overdrive, pausing to observe doesn’t always come naturally, but looking and listening before responding to your baby or toddler can lead to some surprising discoveries about your child, and yourself! Something called RIE parenting is founded on that principle. RIE was created in 1978 by a woman named Magda Gerber. The basis of Magda’s RIE philosophy is respect for the child, and it asks us to examine our power in caring for these little beings.
Jessica Rolph, your host, welcomes Hannah Olavarria to today’s episode, she has been trained in the foundations of RIE and is half of the parenting duo behind Upbringing, along with her twin sister, Kelty. Hannah shares how she has been incorporating RIE into their parenting and coaching for years.
Key Takeaways:
[1:58] What does RIE represent?
[2:49] What is Hannah’s experience with RIE as a mother?
[5:03] What does the RIE method for parents of babies really look like?
[8:23] Hannah talks about the RIE way to speak to a baby.
[11:55] Some RIE practitioners object to tummy time and Hannah gives her perspective on this.
[15:20] What does a typical “Yes space” look like?
[18:13] Hannah breaks down Upbringing’s 10 Freedoms, starting with the Freedom to Struggle.
[19:15] Hannah explains what the Freedom to Choose looks like for a baby and a toddler.
[23:07] There is no one parenting philosophy that fits all parents.
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Dr. Becky on the importance of empathy
My New Life
12/15/21 • 26 min
Do you find yourself constantly having to nudge your toddler to stay on schedule and tick all the boxes? Let’s get a move on, we’ll be late! No seriously, it’s bedtime! Little wonder that we parents lose sight of our playful side in all the hustling. Today’s guest on the podcast has a remarkable knack for incorporating playfulness in the trickiest of situations. Even the dreaded tantrum feels slightly less scary with her guidance.
Dr. Becky Kennedy has earned the title of this generation’s Dr. Spock for her ability to dispense no-nonsense advice as a clinical psychologist, Instagram influencer, and now through her podcast, Good Inside. Let’s not overlook perhaps her greatest credential: She is a mother of three!
Key Takeaways:
[2:20] What do we do when our kids go in the opposite direction when we call them?
[5:36] Dr. Becky shares why being goofy humanizes parents in the eyes of a child.
[7:20] What’s the best way to handle a tantrum?
[11:28] Dr. Becky’s tips to help parents stay calm, even in the eye of the storm.
[16:24] Feelings don’t scare kids, but being alone with their feelings may.
[19:31] Dr. Becky speaks about how to model emotional regulation through play.
[22:25] Guidance on patching things over after a meltdown.
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Listen to Peaceful Parenting: Dealing with Tantrums an interview with Dr. Laura Markham
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Talking to Your Child About Race and Racism
My New Life
06/03/20 • 38 min
“Let little children be the hope you hold in your arms. Let them be the promise that the future will be better because of the values you instill in them.” — Julie Lythcott-Haims
We at Lovevery believe in a world where where all children can fulfill their innate promise. We have much work to do to achieve that dream. Work that starts at home in the form of a conversation. For some it’s a choice, for others, a necessity. Because we all must talk to our kids about race.
It’s a difficult conversation not because of the child in the room, but because of the fears we face as adults. Fear that we will say the wrong thing, fear of what our children will ask us, fear that we won’t have the answer. All of this is normal and to be expected, because nobody has all the answers. And starting the conversation at home is the first step toward addressing that ignorance. Here to help us with that conversation is Julie Lythcott-Haims. She is an author, speaker, and activist based out of Palo Alto, California. Her books are “How To Raise An Adult” and “Real American”. She identifies as a black and biracial woman who has spent a lot of time in white spaces. And she has much to teach us.
Key Takeaways:
[2:22] How can parents start the conversation about race and racism?
[6:40] How did Julie Lythcott-Haims talk to her own children about racism?
[10:25] How the death of Trayvon Martin, who was shot by police, triggered Julie to talk to her son.
[11:48] Julie discusses the disregard for black lives that is rooted in American history.
[12:22] How would you feel if you worried about your child every time he left the house?
[13:22] When executive function skills are not a choice but a life-saving tool.
[13:54] How to talk about racism with your child and simultaneously convey a sense of pride in their heritage.
[15:04] We are our kids’ first role model: Your child is paying attention to how you behave.
[16:25] How to model inclusive behavior as a parent.
[19:39] American is not color blind.
[21:10] How to explain the difference in skin colors to your toddler.
[21:55] Try this message: Differences do exist, but there is no value of one over the other.
[25:03] Facing fear that your message will not be transmitted to your child in the right way.
[28:50] Julie talks about what you should avoid saying to your children.
[31:19] Teach your little ones the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
[32:12] Julie shares her own biases.
[35:03] Racism had taught Julie she had to prove she was good enough in white circles.
[36:09] “As a black person, I learned to be biased against black people.”
[37:13] Overcoming your own biases involves one conscious and mindful interaction at a time.
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How To Raise An Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims
Real American: A Memoir, Julie Lythcott-Haims
The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired, Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne-Bryson
Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do, Jennifer Eberhardt
Perspectives on baby & toddler sleep, Part 1
My New Life
04/21/21 • 29 min
Sleep, or the lack of it, is probably the most discussed topic among parents of newborns. And while sleepless nights are widely accepted as just part of the bargain of bringing a new life into the world, we are not always prepared for the sleepless nights to drag into years. Night wakings, bedtime routines that seem to go on and on, skipped naps, sleep regressions, musical beds, and crib to bed transitions — it is truly exhausting!
In today’s episode, host Jessica Rolph is joined by Lauren Lappen, a certified sleep consultant and co-founder of Wee Sleep Solutions, who offers practical advice on toddler sleep.
Key Takeaways:
[1:38] How do you get a toddler to bed and keep them there?
[2:45] The benefits of using routine cards during bedtime.
[4:04] Lauren’s tips on how to avoid a battle of wills with your toddler.
[5:10] How to respond when your toddler wakes in the middle of the night, asking for you.
[6:35] Why “musical beds” aren’t ideal for anyone; toddlers like to wake up in the same bed where they fell asleep.
[9:18] What if the wakings are a function of your child being unwell?
[10:26] Lauren talks about the signs a baby is ready to move to a toddler bed, and gives suggestions for types of beds to use.
[13:55] Considering easy access to the potty.
[17:22] Suggestions for specific situations, like if you’ve got a new baby coming and you need to make room, or if your child is a climber and might exit the crib.
[20:16] How critical are night feedings to toddlers?
[22:38] How to wean a toddler from that night feeding.
[24:23] What to do about pacifiers. Do they stay or do they go?
[27:06] Jessica gives some highlights of her conversation with Lauren.
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Perspectives on baby & toddler sleep, Part 2
My New Life
05/05/21 • 23 min
Host Jessica Rolph welcomes Certified Pediatric Sleep Specialist Lauren Heffernan to the second episode of our new season, Perspectives. In this season, you’ll hear curated perspectives on topics like sleep, feeding, and parenting philosophies, so you can make informed choices for your family.
It is rare to find a new parent who doesn’t wish for more hours of sleep; long nights seem to be part of the bargain. When those long nights start dragging on, it can feel like sleep training is the only way out. Lauren proposes a different approach. She is the founder of Isla Grace: Attachment-Focused Sleep. She prefers to avoid separation and the cry-it-out method of sleep training.
Key Takeaways:
[1:31] Lauren speaks about her own experience sleep training.
[3:56] She explains how that experience informs her practice as a sleep consultant.
[6:35] Supporting your babies’ emotions when you are sleep deprived is challenging.
[8:20] Why it’s difficult for parents to sit with those big emotions from their child.
[9:26] Lauren answers a question from a listener: My baby only falls asleep when I breastfeed him and wakes up throughout the night for more breastfeeding; how can I stop this without the cry-it-out approach?
[12:48] What happens when night weaning gets derailed.
[13:38] Bed-sharing and how to practice it safely.
[16:08] Lauren explains “bridging” between crib and toddler bed.
[17:04] How to reframe inconsistent napping.
[19:45] If you are getting extremely frustrated and exhausted, try a shifting pattern or ask for someone to support you.
[21:06] Lauren’s bottom-line advice to sleep-deprived parents.
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When parenting feels unequal
My New Life
11/27/23 • 24 min
Our guest today is a mother of four children, ages 5 to 17. She knows well how the demands of parenting can run you into the ground. She made the choice to step off the “struggle bus of overwhelm” — as she calls it — but it was a move that took time, and conscious effort.
The secret? Establishing clear boundaries. And choosing not to identify with the “mother as martyr” role. So many of us look for our partners to validate how hard we are working, before we give ourselves permission to delegate and take a break. Or hold onto resentment because we feel we are shouldering more than our fair share of the parenting burden.
In this episode, Julie Tenner gives us permission to ask: What do I need to show up as the best version of myself in this family? She is an Australian-based relationship expert who shares her wisdom as co-host of the podcast Nourishing the Mother. You can also find her at julietenner.love.
Takeaways:
- If you find yourself resenting the people you love, it’s a sign you need to re-enforce your boundaries. Score-keeping is something we slip into when we’re feeling under-valued. Time to have a conversation with your partner about what you need out of each of your roles.
- This conversation around roles is constantly shifting. Revisit the agreements you make regularly because our needs as adults shift with the changing children around us. Julie likes to think about it as tending to the you, to the me, to the us and to the family inc.
- Julie talked about setting limits around breastfeeding and the inevitable resistance that a mother will come up against. Responding to your baby’s cries from a loving place, firm in your boundaries, can sound like: “Yeah, it’s really hard for you. I know you really want to have a feed, but I can’t give that to you right now, but I love you and I’m here.”
- Julie is a big fan of delegating. She reminds us that when delegating, we need to let go of how the task is executed. It’s not going to look exactly like it would have, if you had done it. But we can’t do this work on our own, so time to lean into the team!
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08/12/20 • 18 min
Girls in sparkly, pink dresses. Boys crazy about anything with wheels. Gender differences are everywhere. It’s difficult not to see those differences and then attribute them to something that is hardwired at birth, but neuroscience shows that there is very little difference between boys’ and girls’ brains.
Host Jessica Rolph welcomes Dr. Lise Eliot to this episode. She is a professor of neuroscience at the Chicago Medical School and the author of Pink Brain, Blue Brain: How Small Differences Grow Into Troublesome Gaps — and What We Can Do About It. Lise and Jessica explore ways we, as parents, can help break down damaging gender stereotypes.
Key Takeaways:
[1:12] How do boys’ and girls’ brains differ?
[3:22] How should we think about gender stereotypes? Why is it important to avoid them?
[4:30] Lise talks about the trends she has noticed in parenting both genders.
[5:53] Do mothers talk more to preschool-aged daughters than sons?
[9:17] Lise talks about how to raise children who can fully express themselves by not discouraging what could be considered gender-inappropriate play.
[11:23] What should parents do about a relative or caregiver who is showing disapproval of their boy’s interest in princesses and “girl stuff”? How can parents explain their philosophy to that person?
[13:11] Toddlers are naturally interested in categorizing; what is the reason for that?
[15:27] Lise talks about dressing our boys and girls.
[17:23 ] Jessica shares her takeaways from the conversation with Lise.
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Pink Brain, Blue Brain: How Small Differences Grow Into Troublesome Gaps--and What We Can Do About It, Dr. Lise Eliot
What's Going on in There?: How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life, Dr. Lise Eliot
07/14/21 • 25 min
Jessica Rolph is joined by Jamie Glowacki, author of the book: Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right. And don’t we all want to “do it once and do it right”? Despite our best intentions, this is one transition that rarely goes smoothly. But a few ground rules can make a world of difference. Tune in for a little parent training on how to do toilet training.
Key Takeaways:
[1:25] Jamie’s top do’s and don’ts in potty training.
[3:57] Jamie talks about the importance of parents making the decision about when to start potty training.
[7:11] Is there any advantage to starting potty training earlier than 3 years old?
[8:42] Jamie shares what to expect on the road to regular toilet use.
[12:54] A discussion about the tension around poop and how we should be reacting to this bodily function.
[15:30] The ergonomics of pooping — and why you should care!
[16:47] Advice to those parents whose children hold poop until they are in their diapers.
[20:15] Jamie’s policy on rewards and praise while potty training. Spoiler alert: Don’t go there.
[22:53] Jamie shares a piece of final advice to listeners: Potty training is not a measurement of your parenting.
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09/08/21 • 24 min
“Trucks are for boys and dolls are for girls.” Our ideas around femininity and masculinity have significantly evolved in recent generations, but there is still lots of room for growth. Today’s guest argues that understanding the differences between genders — specifically, the ways in which girl brains differ from boy brains — can actually break down those gender stereotypes.
Dr. Leonard Sax is a physician and psychologist, as well as the author of Why Gender Matters: What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences, where he discusses key differences in how boys’ and girls’ brains are wired, including differences that show up even when the baby is in the mother’s womb.
Key Takeaways:
[2:02] How are gender differences relevant to parents of babies and toddlers?
[2:50] Girls’ brains develop much earlier than boys’.
[3:54] Leonard Sax explains differences in the visual and auditory systems among boys and girls.
[10:15] How do auditory differences play out in the home with toddlers?
[13:33] Leonard makes a connection between boys’ auditory needs and ADD diagnoses.
[14:33] The acceleration of the academic curriculum and the correlation to ADD and ADHD diagnoses.
[16:48] Leonard claims American doctors are more inclined to prescribe medication as the first resource.
[17:46] Leonard talks about varying rates of brain development among boys and girls and how parents should approach this matter.
[18:31] Every child is unique and is a mixture of masculine and feminine.
[19:20] The most important factor in raising a happy child, according to Dr. Leonard Sax.
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Helping children deal with change
My New Life
11/20/23 • 21 min
Why can change be so unsettling for our toddlers? I mean, change up the snack crackers and you may have a major crisis on your hands. On this episode of My New Life, Jessical Rolph hosts Lael Stone, author of “Raising Resilient and Compassionate Children”. Never is our resilience put to the test more so than in the face of change.
If you and your family are changing things up — be it a new home, new caregiver, or a new school, Lael will help you navigate what can be tricky terrain with your child. In addition to her work as a parent educator, she is a mother of three. You can find Lael @laelstone.
Takeaways:
- A great way to ease children into a big change (or even a smaller transition) is to create pictures and talk through what’s going to happen, who’s going to be there, and how it’s going to look. For those children that thrive on information, this dispels some of the anxiety around uncertainty.
- Make an effort to view change through the lens of your child. Even something like a visit to a new playground can feel scary. Meet their concerns with empathy and compassion rather than attempting to fix the situation, or justify why it’s no big deal.
- Children process what’s going on around them through play. Help your child to explore changes by creating a similar scenario with their favorite toys. It’s a great time to ask questions like: How do you think Teddy is feeling about moving to a new home?
- Change often makes children feel powerless. Try a power reversal game to restore some sense of power. This is a game where your child gets to be faster or stronger or know more than you do!
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FAQ
How many episodes does My New Life have?
My New Life currently has 98 episodes available.
What topics does My New Life cover?
The podcast is about Parenting, Kids & Family and Podcasts.
What is the most popular episode on My New Life?
The episode title 'Understanding RIE parenting' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on My New Life?
The average episode length on My New Life is 22 minutes.
How often are episodes of My New Life released?
Episodes of My New Life are typically released every 14 days.
When was the first episode of My New Life?
The first episode of My New Life was released on Apr 5, 2020.
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