131: The Hidden Work: Regina Lark, Ph.D. on Emotional Labor and Gender Equity

10/04/23 • 55 min

Have you ever heard of the “hidden work” of women? Perhaps you’ve felt that hidden work? So many of us equate hidden work with the labors of running a household, but that’s not where it stops. The true hidden work is steeped in the emotional labor women take on as they manage a household and all that that entails. Join me as I chat with Regina Lark, Ph.D. about the true cost of emotional labor and what we can do to create more equitable households.

Regina Lark is an entrepreneur, business owner, author, speaker, and all-around cool woman. She completed a Ph.D. in U.S. Women's History, and lives in Long Beach, CA.

In today’s episode, we will be talking about women’s work and emotional labor. We will chat about how women’s work has been undervalued and marginalized throughout history and what the consequences have been.

In this episode, we discuss:

What emotional labor and women’s work is

Why women’s work never done

How to identify your own brand of emotional labor and ways to shift household responsibilities

The steps you can take to create a more equitable household

Resources:

Mom’s First Website - https://momsfirst.us/

Regina’s TEDxFolsom Talk: Emotional Labor and the Myth of “Women’s Work” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJLawgDbn_E

50 Years of Ms. - https://amzn.to/3ZvXjJS

Fair Play: A Game Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much To Do - https://amzn.to/3EUDSAW

The Managed Heart by Arlie Hochschild - https://www.amazon.com/Managed-Heart-Commercialization-Human-Feeling/dp/0520272943

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Questions:

What is "emotional labor?"

What is "woman's work,” and why the heck is it never done?

How do women identify their own brand of emotional labor and how to make the shift in the household from doing ALL the labor to creating a more equitable relationship with the other adult in the household?

What are some steps to create a more equitable household?

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Regina Lark is an entrepreneur, business owner, author, speaker, and all-around cool woman. She completed a Ph.D. in U.S. Women's History, and lives in Long Beach, CA.

In this episode, we discuss:

What emotional labor and women’s work is

Why women’s work never done

How to identify your own brand of emotional labor and ways to shift household responsibilities

The steps you can take to create a more equitable household

Resources:

Mom’s First Website - https://momsfirst.us/

Regina’s TEDxFolsom Talk: Emotional Labor and the Myth of “Women’s Work” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJLawgDbn_E

50 Years of Ms. - https://amzn.to/3ZvXjJS

Fair Play: A Game Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much To Do - https://amzn.to/3EUDSAW

The Managed Heart by Arlie Hochschild - https://www.amazon.com/Managed-Heart-Commercialization-Human-Feeling/dp/0520272943

Discount Codes from Our Sponsors:

Navy Hair Care Shampoo + Conditioner: use code LYNZY for 30% off

Navy Hair Care Charcoal Mask: use code LYNZY for 30% off

Questions:

What is "emotional labor?"

What is "woman's work,” and why the heck is it never done?

What are some steps to create a more equitable household?

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130. Developing Emotional Fluency Within Ourselves and Our Children with Dr. Maiysha Clairborne

As parents, we want our children to be able to recognize, understand, and regulate their emotions. But in order to help our children develop their emotional intelligence, we must also continuously develop ours. I am joined today by Dr. Maiysha Clairborne who is sharing all about emotional intelligence and how we can support our children develop emotional fluency.

Dr. Maiysha Clairborne is a Physician, Thought Leader, Consultant, & Neurolinguistic Programming Trainer. A TEDX Speaker and the founder of Mind Re-Mapping Co., she helps individuals become trauma-responsive by teaching the tools of trauma informed listening, conscious communication and emotional intelligence. Focused on equity and inclusiveness in healthcare, education, and corporations, she teaches her audiences that by mastering their emotional fluency & thought habits, they can mitigate harm by being responsible for the impact of their words & behaviors. Dr. Clairborne is a graduate of Emory University, Morehouse School of Medicine. A 2022 TEDx Asheville Speaker, she is also the co-author of Conscious Anti-Racism.

In today's episode, we talk about the five elements of emotional fluency, how to help develop this within ourselves and within our children, and the importance of modeling for our children.

In this episode, we discuss:

What emotional intelligence is and why it is important for children to develop it
The 5 elements of emotional fluency
Practical strategies for helping kids identify their emotions
What parents can do at home to help children cope with their emotions
How screen time can affect emotional fluency development
The importance of parents modeling emotional fluency and play for their children

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132: The Hidden Costs of Social Media: A Conversation with Jenny Wise Black

If you’ve been around for any amount of time, you’ll know that I’ve had a love-hate relationship with social media for a long time. For all intents and purposes, social media has brought me to where I am today, but at what cost? There are hidden costs when you’re using social media and slowly but surely they’re all coming to light.

Here to share more about the hidden costs of social media is Jenny Wise Black. Jenny is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the author of Our Digital Soul and the host of Lose The Phone podcast. She specializes in the impacts media has on our mental health and has been featured as a Tedx Speaker on this very topic.

In today’s episode, we will be chatting about trauma in media and how that applies to both the creators of media and consumers of media. Jenny ditched her smartphone a while back and we talked about why and how that has impacted the raising of her children and her life overall.

In this episode, we discuss:

Why social media is so pervasive

What media trauma is and who it impacts

Ways to start removing social media from your life

How social media and smartphones have impacted our most important relationships

Why it's not too late for you to change your relationship with social media and your phone

Resources:

Lose the Phone: http://Losethephone.com

The Slow Drip of Media Trauma - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2mflf3bsrDI

Our Digital Soul - https://www.amazon.com/Our-Digital-Soul-Collective-Recovery/dp/B0BK4WYLGB/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3H2BLYY6VNPG1&keywords=our+digital+soul&qid=1691602921&sprefix=our+digital+soul%2Caps%2C332&sr=8-1

Podcast: Lose the Phone - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suUNH9sqHzs

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