Motherhood Meets Medicine

“You deserve to be held just as much as your baby.” Just one of the many gems Stephanie Defilippis shares in our conversation about navigating motherhood and the quest for support in America. Because in America, we really fall behind in providing support to new moms, both in our communities and from a policy perspective.

Stephanie is a perinatal mental health therapist in Illinois. She owns a group therapy practice called crescent moon therapy, where they specialize in working with individuals throughout the reproductive period.

She shares her thoughts on the postpartum period women experience in other countries as well as what we can do to create similar experiences here in America. There truly is an invisible village at your fingertips. Listen in to find out more.

In this episode, we discuss:

The invisible village here in America.

The importance of having community support throughout motherhood.

What our ideal community support system would look like.

How you can cultivate your own support system at home.

Resources:

Connect with Stephanie:

Website:Maternal Mental Health

Instagram

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Questions:

Can you give an example of how historically in different culture villages were structured to support women?

What are barriers to building a village?

We hear these questions a lot- "Why is it so hard for me to ask for help? Why does it feel hard for me to create my own village?" Let's unpack them together

How can women create their own village? Both pre-pregnancy and postpartum. Even as a mom with older children, there are ways to create yourself a village

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Is it impossible to build new friendships when you become a mother? How about maintaining the relationships you already have? No. It’s not. In fact, it’s vitally important to our health that we continue to actively build and maintain our relationships.

But how do we do that when we’re juggling all the things as moms, wives, employees, business owners, etc? Here to share her tips and strategies for navigating friendships is Danielle Bayard Jackson.

Danielle is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally on the science of woman's platonic connections. She's also the author of Fighting For Our Friendships, which is coming out in May of this year. She also has a coaching business Friend Forward that is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships. And her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets as the resident friendship expert for the global app Bumble for friends.

Listen as she shares her story, research, and why it’s so important that we continue to hone our friendships as we move into different stages of life.

In this episode, we discuss:

Ways to navigate current friendships and make new ones once you are a mom.

How to handle different parenting styles or issues that come up between friends.

What research has to say about quality friendships.

Resources:

Book-preorder - Fighting For Our Friendshipshttps://www.betterfemalefriendships.com/fighting-for-our-friendships

Article by Kirsten Powers -The Way We Live in United States is not Normal https://kirstenpowers.substack.com/p/the-way-we-live-in-the-united-states

https://substack.com/home/post/p-139238299?r=5ftqh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&utm_source=substack

Article by Rosie Spinks -The Friendship Problem

https://rojospinks.substack.com/p/the-friendship-problem?utm_source=post-email-title&publication_id=4486&post_id=139046175&utm_campaign=email-post-title&isFreemail=true&r=180ck&utm_medium=email

Connect with Danielle:

Instagram - @‌daniellebayardjackson -https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/

TikTok - @‌thefriendshipexpert -https://www.tiktok.com/@thefriendshipexpert?lang=en

Questions:

What is the surprising research around the benefits of women’s friendship?

What are 4 tangible ways to make time for friends as a busy mom?

Do you know the 3 of the most common conflicts that arise between mom friends (and how to solve them)?

What does the research say about how friendship changes for those in their 30s and 40s?

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I’m really excited to share this episode with all of you as it’s on a topic I have touched upon in previous episodes. If you’ve been following me for a while you know that as a medical professional I find health to be so important. 

There is currently a serious problem within the wellness industry that is making it hard for people to know how harmful the choices are that they are making. I admit I don’t always make the best dietary choices, but the misinformation on supplements can be putting people in danger. 

I invited Traci Clark onto the show today to educate us on the effects of these supplements on people’s health. Traci is an oncology nurse who often comes in contact with patients who take supplements without their doctor's input. Not only are these supplements not proven to heal their symptoms, but they can actually do more harm than good in most cases. We both agree that these decisions on medical care should not be decided based one what people see on social media.

Head to the show notes for resources from this episode: lynzyandco.com/motherhood-meets-medicine-the-podcast/

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Resources mentioned:

• The Dream Podcast
• The Peter Attia Drive: AMA #30: How to Read and Understand Scientific Studies on Apple Podcasts
• Independent Analysis on Supplements and Nutrition
• New York Times Article: Skeptics Say, ‘Do Your Own Research.’ It’s Not That Simple. 
  

Connect with Traci:

• Follow her on Instagram: @poppielady
• Check out her blog

Connect on Instagram @motherhoodmeetsmedicine. 

Join the Motherhood Meets Medicine community at patreon.com/motherhoodmeetsmedicine. 

Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. 

Have you ever heard of the “hidden work” of women? Perhaps you’ve felt that hidden work? So many of us equate hidden work with the labors of running a household, but that’s not where it stops. The true hidden work is steeped in the emotional labor women take on as they manage a household and all that that entails. Join me as I chat with Regina Lark, Ph.D. about the true cost of emotional labor and what we can do to create more equitable households.

Regina Lark is an entrepreneur, business owner, author, speaker, and all-around cool woman. She completed a Ph.D. in U.S. Women's History, and lives in Long Beach, CA.

In today’s episode, we will be talking about women’s work and emotional labor. We will chat about how women’s work has been undervalued and marginalized throughout history and what the consequences have been.

In this episode, we discuss:

What emotional labor and women’s work is

Why women’s work never done

How to identify your own brand of emotional labor and ways to shift household responsibilities

The steps you can take to create a more equitable household

Resources:

Mom’s First Website - https://momsfirst.us/

Regina’s TEDxFolsom Talk: Emotional Labor and the Myth of “Women’s Work” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJLawgDbn_E

50 Years of Ms. - https://amzn.to/3ZvXjJS

Fair Play: A Game Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much To Do - https://amzn.to/3EUDSAW

The Managed Heart by Arlie Hochschild - https://www.amazon.com/Managed-Heart-Commercialization-Human-Feeling/dp/0520272943

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Questions:

What is "emotional labor?"

What is "woman's work,” and why the heck is it never done?

How do women identify their own brand of emotional labor and how to make the shift in the household from doing ALL the labor to creating a more equitable relationship with the other adult in the household?

What are some steps to create a more equitable household?

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This episode is exciting because not only do I have three guests joining me, but the topic is something I am very passionate about, which is outdoor play. I have had a lot of guests join me lately who have discussed the negative impacts of technology on our children, and so I’m happy to have guests that share the positive impact that nature has on children. After all, even as adults we go outside for walks for our mental health so it’s our job to make that a priority for our children as well. Irene, Jenn, and Kelly are on a mission to get outside with their children and share all about how everyone can benefit from the outdoors in their nonjudgmental Puddle Parenting community.

In this episode we discuss:

• The impact of technology in schools after Covid
• What research suggests for outside time with children
• How to navigate child-led hiking and the many benefits
• Ways to prepare yourself and your children for child-led hikes

Resources:

• Last Child in the Woods by Richard Louv
  
• Self-regulation skills
  
• • Faber Taylor, A., Butts-Wilmsmeyer, C., (2020). Self-regulation gains in kindergarten related to frequency of green schoolyard use. Journal of Environmental Psychology, 70
• Eye Development
  
• • Wang, Jiaxing et. al. (2021) Progression of Myopia in School-Aged Children After COVID-19 Home Confinement. JAMA Opthalmol.
  • Agarwal, Swati et. al. (2021). Increase in ocular problems during COVID-19 pandemic in school going children- a survey based study. Indian J. Opthalmol
  • Sherwin, Justin et. al. (2012). "The association between time spent outdoors and myopia in children and adolescents" Ophthalmology.
• Exercise
  
• • Brown WH, Pfeiffer KA, McIver KL, et al. Social and environmental factors associated with preschoolers’ nonsedentary physical activity. Child Development. JanFeb 2009;80(1):45-58
• Risky Play
  
• • Brussoni M, Olsen LL, Pike I, Sleet DA. Risky play and children's safety: balancing priorities for optimal child development. Int J Environ Res Public Health. 2012;9(9):3134-3148. Published 2012 Aug 30. doi:10.3390/ijerph9093134
• What to say instead of "Be Careful"
  
• What is a child-led hike?
  

Connect with Jenn, Kelly, and Irene:

• Instagram: @puddleparenting
• Adventure List Printable

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Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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