Episode 127: What Does A Healthy Relationship Look Like? #RESPECTWEEK

02/10/25 • 33 min

Monday Mindset With Isha Warriors

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8 Elements of a Healthy Relationship (adapted from the Duluth Model Equality Wheel) click here to go to jbws.org.

Negotiation and Fairness: Partners seek mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict, can accept change and are willing to compromise.
Non-Threatening Behavior: Partners speak and act in ways that cultivate and support a safe and comfortable environment in which they can express themselves and make decisions.
Respect: Partners listen non-judgmentally, are understanding and emotionally affirm and value their partner’s opinions.
Trust and Support: Partners support each other’s goals and respect each other’s feelings, friends, activities, contributions and opinions.
Honesty and Accountability: Partners accept responsibility for themselves, acknowledge past behaviors, can admit being wrong and communicate openly and truthfully.
Shared Responsibility:Partners reach mutual agreement on fair distribution of work and make family decisions together.
Economic Partnership: Partners make financial decisions together ensuring that both partners benefit from financial arrangements.
Responsible Parenting: Partners share parental responsibilities and are positive, non-violent role models for children

BOUNDARIES from loveisrespect.org

Digital- limitations created around your computer, social media, cell phone, and online profiles.

Physical - Physical boundaries are the limitations you set around your body, your home, and places you visit frequently.

Financial - Financial boundaries are limitations around your income, bank account, credit cards, and other areas surrounding money.

Emotional - Emotional boundaries are limitations surrounding your feelings, vulnerability, and trust. These boundaries help you determine how much of your heart you want to share with your partner. As your relationship deepens, decide what emotional support looks like for you.

Digital, physical, financial, and emotional boundaries are all necessary to have a balanced and flourishing relationship. Deciding what feels right for you can help your partner learn how to support you better and establish points of trust that can help deepen your relationship. Boundaries are a two-way street and should be honored by all parties involved. Lastly, you have the right to create boundaries, and they are never set in stone. You have the choice to change your mind throughout the relationship and adjust them depending on your comfort level.

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8 Elements of a Healthy Relationship (adapted from the Duluth Model Equality Wheel) click here to go to jbws.org.

Negotiation and Fairness: Partners seek mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict, can accept change and are willing to compromise.
Non-Threatening Behavior: Partners speak and act in ways that cultivate and support a safe and comfortable environment in which they can express themselves and make decisions.
Respect: Partners listen non-judgmentally, are understanding and emotionally affirm and value their partner’s opinions.
Trust and Support: Partners support each other’s goals and respect each other’s feelings, friends, activities, contributions and opinions.
Honesty and Accountability: Partners accept responsibility for themselves, acknowledge past behaviors, can admit being wrong and communicate openly and truthfully.
Shared Responsibility:Partners reach mutual agreement on fair distribution of work and make family decisions together.
Economic Partnership: Partners make financial decisions together ensuring that both partners benefit from financial arrangements.
Responsible Parenting: Partners share parental responsibilities and are positive, non-violent role models for children

BOUNDARIES from loveisrespect.org

Digital- limitations created around your computer, social media, cell phone, and online profiles.

Physical - Physical boundaries are the limitations you set around your body, your home, and places you visit frequently.

Financial - Financial boundaries are limitations around your income, bank account, credit cards, and other areas surrounding money.

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Episode 126: What is the #1 Way to Prevent Teen Dating Violence? (Teen Dating Violence Awareness Series)

1 in 3 teens are victim to teen dating violence. That is one and a half million teens affected in the US alone. It is Teen Dating Violence Awareness month and all month long I will be talking about this topic. Because. It. Is. Happening. Every. Day.

Why is teen dating violence so prevalent in teens?

What are the repercussions of teen dating violence?

And what IS the number one way to prevent teen dating violence and how do you develop more of that one attribute?!

I will be answering all these questions today!!

In the weeks ahead I'll cover...

"What does a healthy relationship look like and feel like?"

"How do you set healthy boundaries?"

"What are the signs and red flags of an unhealthy and abusive relationship?"

"Where can I turn for support and help? And how do I support a friend who is in an abusive relationship?"

Here are some resources to turn to immediately if you are in an abusive relationship!

Love is Respect (loveisrespect.org) – Offers education on healthy relationships and resources for teens.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org) – Provides support for those experiencing abuse.
Break the Cycle (breakthecycle.org) – Focuses on ending dating violence among young people.
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) (rainn.org) – The largest anti-sexual violence organization in the U.S.
Books:
- "The Confidence Code for Girls" by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman – Helps build self-esteem in young girls.
- "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend – Teaches self-respect and assertiveness.
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).

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Episode 128: Spot the Signs. Stop the Cycle. (Teen Dating Violence Awareness Series)

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No matter who you are or who you love. You are worthy. You are worthy of being loved, being respected and being safe!

TEEN DATING VIOLENCE: A Silent Epidemic

We are living in a world where one in three students report experiencing some form of abuse, and more than 2/3 never report that abuse to a caring adult. A world where young people in more than 35 states still lack unfettered access to legal protection or other assistance to end an abusive relationship. A world where over 80% of school counselors report being unprepared to address incidents of abuse. This tells us – dating abuse isn’t just a big issue. It’s a growing epidemic.

EFFECTS OF DATING VIOLENCE:

Less attention to academics. Increased exposure to drugs and alcohol. A greater likelihood of teen pregnancy. Growing isolation. Sexual assault. Even one of these things can have a profound impact on the physical, social and emotional growth of a young person. Together, they create a perfect storm that not only affects the victim of abuse, but their friends, families, schools and surrounding communities.

Every relationship exists along a spectrum...healthy ...unhealthy...abusive...I do not want you to think if you have a fight with the person you love- then it must be a toxic relationship. That is not true. You are different people, you have different perspectives and opinions and different personalities...you will disagree about things...you also will go through hard things at different times and handle them in different ways...keeping your relationship in a healthy, loving, thriving place takes effort, communication and time and a lot of grace for yourself and your partner.

Both of you have equal value and importance-regardless of difference in money, gender, age, popularity, status, smarts...both of you are worthy of love, both of you have strengths that should be cheered on and weaknesses that should be supported not put down of exploited.

WHY WOULD SOMEONE STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?

1. Lack of experience- means you Lack Awareness

2. Emotional Attachment & Love

3. Low Self-Esteem & Self-Blame I HAVE TALKED ABOUT THIS ONE A LOT.

4. Fear of Retaliation

5. Social Pressure & Stigma

6. Isolation & Dependency

7. Hope for Change

8. Lack of Support or Resources

9. Cultural or Family Beliefs

10. Digital & Social Media Influence

RED FLAGS

1. Controlling Behavior

2. Excessive Jealousy & Possessiveness

3. Isolation

4. Verbal & Emotional Abuse

5. Threats & Intimidation

6. Physical or Sexual Abuse

7. Digital & Social Media Abuse

RESOURCE LINKS:

https://www.teendvmonth.org/resources/

https://www.loveisrespect.org

https://jbws.org/services/#help

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