Peter Says Wives Need Emotional Intimacy

02/07/22 • 26 min

Episode Summary. How would you summarize these statements made by women as to why they were divorcing their husbands?

My husband is no longer my friend.
The only time he pays attention to me is when he wants sex.
He is never there for me, emotionally, when I need him most.
I hurt all the time because I feel alone and abandoned.
We’re like ships passing in the night—he goes his way and I go mine.
My husband has become a stranger to me. I don’t even know who he is anymore.

What these wives were starving for was emotional intimacy—being connected to their husbands at the level of the heart. Scripture makes it clear in addressing husbands that this is a primary need of a wife. No wonder these marriages failed. This episode examines the need of the heart of a wife to feel connected to her best friend and lover.

For Further Prayerful Thought:

How would you explain to a husband that for his wife emotional intimacy is so important that if she isn’t feeling emotionally connected to his heart if would be like you never getting to have sex?
Describe what emotional intimacy is to a wife?
What are the most practical things you learned about building emotional intimacy into your relationship with your wife?

Resources Used for This Episode:

To Understand Each Other, Paul Tournier
The Five Love Languages of Men and Women, Gary and Barbara Rosberg
Intimacy, Douglas Weiss

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Episode Summary. How would you summarize these statements made by women as to why they were divorcing their husbands?

My husband is no longer my friend.
The only time he pays attention to me is when he wants sex.
He is never there for me, emotionally, when I need him most.
I hurt all the time because I feel alone and abandoned.
We’re like ships passing in the night—he goes his way and I go mine.
My husband has become a stranger to me. I don’t even know who he is anymore.

For Further Prayerful Thought:

How would you explain to a husband that for his wife emotional intimacy is so important that if she isn’t feeling emotionally connected to his heart if would be like you never getting to have sex?
Describe what emotional intimacy is to a wife?
What are the most practical things you learned about building emotional intimacy into your relationship with your wife?

Resources Used for This Episode:

To Understand Each Other, Paul Tournier
The Five Love Languages of Men and Women, Gary and Barbara Rosberg
Intimacy, Douglas Weiss

This Week’s Past Series Highlight:

RULING OVER OUR SEXUALITY FOR GOD’S GLORY

Understanding Our Sex Drive Helps Us Fight for Purity S1 E #12 1/26/20
Sharpening Our Understanding of Sin’s Corruption of Sex S1 E#13 2/2/20
Directing Our Heart Passions to Defeat Lust S1 E #14 2/9/20
Protecting Our Heart From the Enticement of Sexual Sin S1 E#15 2/16/20

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Thinking Biblically About SOCIALISM As the Answer to Injustice

Episode Summary. How would you answer your teenager who said, “I think American capitalism is based on evil greed and that socialism is more biblical?” This episode examines God’s design for economic flourishing, identify the biblical principles that might be important in giving him or her an answer.

For Further Prayerful Thought:

How would you answer someone who said that the Bible teaches socialism, especially in the New Testament?
Do you think that those you are responsible for guiding realize that between 85 and 100 million people died in the 20th century where the experiment of socialism was tried?
Why might our sons and daughters be attracted to the socialist ideologies they hear about online or at universities?

Resources Used for This Episode:

When Helping Hurts: How to Alleviate Poverty Without Hurting the Poor and Yourself, Steve Corbett & Brian Fikkert
Money, Greed and God, Jay Richards.

RULING OVER OUR SEXUALITY FOR GOD’S GLORY

Understanding Our Sex Drive Helps Us Fight for Purity S1 E #12 1/26/20
Sharpening Our Understanding of Sin’s Corruption of Sex S1 E#13 2/2/20
Directing Our Heart Passions to Defeat Lust S1 E #14 2/9/20
Protecting Our Heart From the Enticement of Sexual Sin S1 E#15 2/16/20

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Biblical Insight for Romancing A Wife

Episode Summary. How does a husband romance his wife the way God designed her to be romanced? Scripture provides powerful answers. Today’s episode looks at a wife’s need for romance. Now, it’s just a guess, but I suspect you find trying to meet this need very pleasurable. But be warned. No husband and wife walk down their wedding aisle expecting their romance to fall apart, but 50% of Christian marriages fail, bringing enormous emotional devastation to spouses and children. These broken-hearted victims will tell you, “Romance isn’t easy. It is not a sprint. It is a 26K marathon.”

For Further Prayerful Thought:

If a husband’s sex drive is stronger than his wife’s what do you see as the challenges of helping her accept his masculine sexual hardwiring as God-created?
Why does it make sense to advise husbands, “First work on meeting your wife’s need for emotional intimacy and learning to romance her well. Then try to help her see the biblical explanation of how to handle your differences in sexual desire?
Which romancing insights most stood out to you?

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