009 Lasting Love with Luis Congdon

05/25/15 • 52 min

"How to have MORE health and use your relationship for that health."-Louis "Health is nothing when you have it, and everything when you don't." Louis Bio: Luis Congdon has worked with hundreds of couples, been a keynote speaker at international conferences, and interviews the top experts to help you to Experience Deep Connections and Lasting Love.

As a Marriage Success Coach and Marriage Education Facilitator for the largest federally funded research project in the US, he has fast tracked his understanding of couples.)
Show Notes: ~Self care (for both the sick person and the healthy spouse) ~Staying engaged within your community, or finding a supportive community if you don't have one ~Understanding compassion fatigue ~Navigating financial obstacles
~What if your spouse doesn't believe that you are really in as much pain as you say you are"

"I don't know how to be with you because my body constantly hurts"-Anonymous research patient Compassion Fatigue-"You are listening and taking in that pain. Their is no way that you as a loving and caring person aren't absorbing some of that, with the hope that if I just listen enough they will get over that, and that's not going to happen. Your giving will be impacted. "As the years went on we just couldn't keep up with our community." -Sarah "As the illness seeps in and literally takes away who you are, I didn't feel like I had anything to give. How do you move beyond survival and into that place, as this broken person I still have something to offer."-Sarah Schlichte Sanchez You want to be Super-Dad and Super-Mom, you want your kids to see you as that, and when you are not living up to that it is incredibly painful."-Louis "Lyme pain is so deep, it's indescribable, to me it is far worse than death. Its just this bone pain that is so constant."-Sarah "The idea is is that we can have a pain and our partner can not understand that, or will not connect to it, and it is incredibly painful, it just adds burden, to the pain."- Louis "Don't focus on the fact that your partner doesn't understand you, its not going to help you."-Louis "If you focus on the pain that you can solve or that you can deal with, it seems like it would enable or empower you to move forward where you are not focused on something that you can't control." -Louis

As a Marriage Success Coach and Marriage Education Facilitator for the largest federally funded research project in the US, he has fast tracked his understanding of couples.)
Show Notes: ~Self care (for both the sick person and the healthy spouse) ~Staying engaged within your community, or finding a supportive community if you don't have one ~Understanding compassion fatigue ~Navigating financial obstacles
~What if your spouse doesn't believe that you are really in as much pain as you say you are"

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008 Lyme from a kids perspective

Kids say exactly what they are thinking. Which is great for helping parents understand what Lyme "feels" like. Roaming pain and symptoms make it hard for parents and family members to understand some of the daily struggles they deal with. Show Notes: 25% of Lyme patients are kids Headaches are common place Quotes: "Gluten and sugar are evil, just get them out of your diet." ~Grant's LLMD "My students with Lyme miss more school than any other illness" ~Retired Michigan Principal "The first year I used to sneak in a few Goldfish" ~ Nathan Sanchez (age 11) "One activity per day" ~Nathan Sanchez "I've been taking some seriously nasty stuff" ~ Grant Getty (age 12) " Don't lose hope and watch our channel (LymeCrafters) when it comes out" ~Grant Getty Attachments: Resources: Toprasin topical pain relief

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010 Take a financial Bite out of Lyme! With Stephen and Heather Grooters,

Stephen and Heather Grooters, live in CO and you are going to love this interview because it is packed full of practical and affordable tips. We had a blast interviewing them and I know that you will get a lot out of this episode. Real life FANS! Which is awesome. When we were first talking about creating this podcast, the Grooters are the audience that we were aiming for, so it is just really fun to see your dreams become reality! Visit LymeVoice.com for show notes to this episode.