009 Lasting Love with Luis Congdon

"How to have MORE health and use your relationship for that health."-Louis "Health is nothing when you have it, and everything when you don't." Louis Bio: Luis Congdon has worked with hundreds of couples, been a keynote speaker at international conferences, and interviews the top experts to help you to Experience Deep Connections and Lasting Love.

• As a Marriage Success Coach and Marriage Education Facilitator for the largest federally funded research project in the US, he has fast tracked his understanding of couples.)
• Show Notes: ~Self care (for both the sick person and the healthy spouse) ~Staying engaged within your community, or finding a supportive community if you don't have one ~Understanding compassion fatigue ~Navigating financial obstacles
• ~What if your spouse doesn't believe that you are really in as much pain as you say you are"

"I don't know how to be with you because my body constantly hurts"-Anonymous research patient Compassion Fatigue-"You are listening and taking in that pain. Their is no way that you as a loving and caring person aren't absorbing some of that, with the hope that if I just listen enough they will get over that, and that's not going to happen. Your giving will be impacted. "As the years went on we just couldn't keep up with our community." -Sarah "As the illness seeps in and literally takes away who you are, I didn't feel like I had anything to give. How do you move beyond survival and into that place, as this broken person I still have something to offer."-Sarah Schlichte Sanchez You want to be Super-Dad and Super-Mom, you want your kids to see you as that, and when you are not living up to that it is incredibly painful."-Louis "Lyme pain is so deep, it's indescribable, to me it is far worse than death. Its just this bone pain that is so constant."-Sarah "The idea is is that we can have a pain and our partner can not understand that, or will not connect to it, and it is incredibly painful, it just adds burden, to the pain."- Louis "Don't focus on the fact that your partner doesn't understand you, its not going to help you."-Louis "If you focus on the pain that you can solve or that you can deal with, it seems like it would enable or empower you to move forward where you are not focused on something that you can't control." -Louis