There is Purpose in the Pain with Jen Roland Part 1

Sometimes we can get so caught up in our identity as mothers that we forget that we are first children of our Heavenly Father. No matter their age, we carry the weight of our children's happiness, safety and success which can oftentimes lead us into a place of fear and ultimately, weariness.

Join me as I speak with author, Shay Sizer Mason, as she shares the story of her own battle with fear, how she learned to release control and ultimately rediscover her identity in Christ.

We will discuss the different ways we can respond to fear, how to find strength to persevere through the most difficult of situations and why it is important to find our identity in Christ alone plus Shay's new book release, Rest for the Weary: Finding Freedom from Fear in the Heart of the Father.

Grab your copy of Shay's new book wherever books are sold or visit her website: shaysmason.com Connect with Shay on Facebook @shay.mason and Instagram @shaysmason

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SHOW NOTES:

When fear comes in and we don’t trust God to take control and we try to control everything ourselves, it goes into a very ugly place.

Fear is a silent struggle. Do not struggle alone anymore!

We end up being more hurtful to our kids and not caring for them in the way that we really want to and not being the mom we really want to be because we are so overwhelmed with our fear.

If I had known that there really was a place where I could rest, that my heart could find rest back when I was struggling with this I think I would have responded to a lot of things differently. And there is this sense of grief, like “Lord, if I’d only known” but He’s so good and He redeems all of those things and He restores what’s been lost.

I loved my son so fiercely that I was too fierce

God has our children in His hands and we are stewards but we’re not the ultimate say so, you know, God still directs their paths

We can’t punish ourselves for not knowing what we didn’t know but we still do

God doesn’t make mistakes when He gives us children - those children are meant for us despite our shortcomings, despite our failures, despite our mess ups.

I took an unhealthy heart desire and I transferred that into my parenting and thought, now I have to be the best parent, and that is not a good way to parent. It didn’t take me long until I hit that wall where I’m like, I don’t know who I am, I don’t know what I’m doing, I’m not worth anything to anyone. I really had an identity crisis.

It’s a good thing to get to an identity crisis because that’s where the Lord can start to come in and speak into some of those lies.

I knew in my head that He loved me, I knew a lot of scripture, I crammed a lot of scripture into my head and I was waiting for it to drop to my heart.

What we all really need is to allow our Heavenly Father to come in and provide the things that we lack. The comfort, the nurture, the things that allow us to know that we’re safe. To know that we’re loved. That we are precious daughters of a Father who loves us more than anything. It’s that heart understanding of the depth of that love that really brings the healing.

Ask God: Lord, where does my heart need to be touched?