Manage your relationships like a successful business with Aaron Shelley

06/02/23 • 28 min

At LoVita, we believe the workings of a successful relationship are similar to the workings of a successful corporation. Or at least they should be. Successful companies have a mission and vision. They have goals and targets. So should relationships. Have you ever considered what are your values in your relationship? Companies are always trying to do the best and accountable to the shareholders and customers. The shareholders and customers in your relationships are you and your partner. Similar to companies, most relationships need a strategy, which should be discussed periodically. Relationships need frameworks to provide structure. Each couple is unique and you have to innovate and be creative to personalize what works for your relationship.

Amongst the many insights that our guest, Aaron Shelly, shares with us he says "One of the big things that I wasn't understanding was the value in social connections and relating that social resources and how much like my mom invested in that." Our relationships in our community can actually have much greater magnitudes in our life than just having a monetary value. The payoffs from maintaining our relationships are massive and unknown. He adds "If you're not investing in social connections, it would be the same as if a company said, we're not gonna have sales and marketing. Which every company would say that's suicide."

Takeaways

The workings of a successful relationship can be very similar to the workings of a successful corporation. Relationships can benefit from having a strategy, vision, goals and more. Keeping track of logistics, identifying root causes of conflicts, and keeping track of growth with regular check-ins can help you build a healthier relationship.
Invest in your relationships with your partner and your community. The value of your network that you build with trust and time, has a much greater positive impact on our life than just having a monetary value.

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Takeaways

The workings of a successful relationship can be very similar to the workings of a successful corporation. Relationships can benefit from having a strategy, vision, goals and more. Keeping track of logistics, identifying root causes of conflicts, and keeping track of growth with regular check-ins can help you build a healthier relationship.
Invest in your relationships with your partner and your community. The value of your network that you build with trust and time, has a much greater positive impact on our life than just having a monetary value.

If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with 1 close relationship or anyone else who would enjoy listening to this as well.

If you would like to share your story, fill out this quick form.

The best gift you can give us is positive feedback and your observations. Follow us wherever you are listening and do us a favor by adding a Review on Apple Podcast.

LoVita Blog for Frameworks
Sign up for our monthly Newsletter for exclusive content
We're also on Social media - Instagram, Facebook,
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Connect with Aaron Shelley

Previous Episode

Having your partner CHOOSE YOU FIRST with Jerry Dugan

In our conversation with Jerry Dugan, he says, "like live in a way that. She's gonna be like, all right, yeah, I choose him again for another day." So we asked him what his thoughts were on how to make sure that the love between partners doesn't just stay at a constant rate.

The biggest thing is making sure I'm listening more than I'm speaking in the relationship.

Listen to the full episode for Jerry's story on how he was putting them first and, and also communicating something he would want to do.

We also learn about - H.A.L.T - A framework which can be used to reduce conflict in relationships. Before you say, anything to your partner, halt and check for the below

H - Am I hungry?
A - Am I angry about something else?
L - Am I feeling lonely?
T - Am I tired?

And if the answer to any of those things is a YES, then the conflict or conversation between you and your partner isn't about whatever's going on - it's about something else entirely. So what can you do? Simple answer is to take care of yourself and let your partner know. If you're hungry - get a snack. If you're angry or feeling lonely or tired - let your partner know.

Takeaways

The biggest thing to do in a relationship is making sure you're listening more than speaking
Put your loved ones first and communicate with them if there is something you would like to do
Use HALT - the self assessment tool to halt the conversation if you find yourself Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired.

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Next Episode

An intimate relationship is like a mirror – with Zach Beach

“The best thing that you can do for your partner is work on yourself. The best thing that your partner can do for you is work on themselves.”

“Intimate relationships can mirror both of our own stuff that we get to work through, but also reflecting back the goodness that we are.”

“The stars had written a message for you when you were born, and it's up to you to discover what that is. And what I mean by that is life has a natural, beautiful unfolding that is happening, and it's like a flow of a river.”

These are just some of the few quotes Zach shared with us in our conversations. We talk about many topics - Value of Intimate Relationships, Identifying Emotions passing through you, Digging deep within yourself to identify patterns of pain and suffering, and much more.

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Here are some of our takeaways from the episode:

1️⃣ Extend your love to others with compassion. When someone shares with you OR you share with someone deeply vulnerable things , it opens the heart for compassion.

2️⃣ LOVE has the power to heal us. Work on building an intimate relationship and use the love from that relationship to work on your own stuff that comes up in a relationship and your own growth.

3️⃣ The best thing you can do for your partner is to work on yourself. The best thing that your partner can do for you is to work on themselves.

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If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with 1 close relationship or anyone else who would enjoy listening to this as well.

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The best gift you can give us is positive feedback and your observations. Follow us wherever you are listening and do us a favor by adding a Review on Apple Podcast.