#57: How To Be Supportive When Your Partner Is Going Through A Rough Patch

11/12/21 • 57 min

Love Shack Live: Helping Couples Rescue Their Relationships

Managing emotionally tough stuff is hard! Worrying about our relationship falling apart, experiencing money stress, health problems, fertility issues, bringing our job dilemmas home, arranging childcare...The list of things that we worry about is never-ending.
So, how do we get through tough times? And, how can we be a supportive partner when our significant other is the one going through a tough time? We all know that the hardest times in a relationship happen when our partner or ourselves are going through a rough patch. And whether or not it’s you or your partner going through a tough time, it’s important to know how to navigate through them.
Join us in the Love Shack this week and eavesdrop on a conversation with our guest Julia Nicholson about empowering ways we can not only manage the difficulties in our lives but how we can use them to our advantage. Julia is a Ted X Speaker, and an experienced executive with a history of successfully leading organizations in challenging environments. She is going to share the 5 realizations she uncovered while going through the tough stuff in her own life.
In this episode, we're covering several key topics about going through a rough patch in life, including:

How to create some relief from all the pressure we experience day-to-day.
What to say to someone going through a hard time.
Explore the many ways our difficulties are actually showing us the way.
How we can refuel from mental and emotional overwhelm. And how to help our partners do the same.
Reconnect with what it is we want and get back on the path to feeling inspired and hopeful once again.

Important Links:

Learn more about Julia here: julianicholsonpresents.com
Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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How to create some relief from all the pressure we experience day-to-day.
What to say to someone going through a hard time.
Explore the many ways our difficulties are actually showing us the way.
How we can refuel from mental and emotional overwhelm. And how to help our partners do the same.
Reconnect with what it is we want and get back on the path to feeling inspired and hopeful once again.

Important Links:

Learn more about Julia here: julianicholsonpresents.com
Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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#56: How To Preserve Your Sanity While Caring For Elderly Loved Ones

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Is it possible to care for elderly loved ones while maintaining our marriages and taking care of our families? And do them all well?
Can there be a way to make it an enjoyable, rich, and rewarding experience more of the time?
And if so, how do we make it all work? And why would we want to? What’s the payoff? Do we only do it because we feel obligated? Or is there more to consider here?
Join us this week as our guest Josephine Tite, a Well-being consultant, and expert on managing the care of others shares with us her playbook of experiences and super-tips to make it all work. Together inside the Love Shack this week, we are going to talk about the pros and cons of caring for others, as well as provide you with some inspiration and resources to help us all turn overwhelming responsibilities of caring for others into a joyful “get to,” instead of a difficult “have to” that brings us down. This is an important, often taboo subject, and also one that can change your experience of life forever!
In this episode, we're covering several key topics about how to preserve your sanity while caring for elderly loved ones, including:

How can we reduce Caregiver Burnout?
How does positive psychology make a difference in care settings?
How can we change our mindset when it comes to caring for our elderly relatives?

Important Links:

Learn more about Josephine and her mission here: https://www.positivitycentre.com/case-studies/
Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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#58: The 4 Attachment Styles & How They Influence Our Intimate Relationships

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Let’s talk about how attachment styles can help us gain a better understanding of how we show up in our marriages and relationships.
New to this topic? Attachment styles are a common exploration technique in relationship therapy and counseling. Attachment theory is the joint work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. Later on in the 1980s, psychologists Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver applied the work of Ainsworth and Bowlby to adult romantic relationships, and this created the understanding of the adult attachment styles we are familiar with now.
Their important work helps us in understanding why so many of us have a hard time navigating feelings of attachment in our intimate relationships.
Our attachment styles show up in many ways, but some of the easiest to spot are:

You’re afraid to speak up or have a difficult conversation because you’re scared to create distance between you and your partner, or you’re fearful of rejection, so you don’t say anything.
You have an ongoing fear of overwhelming the person you love, or “being too much” so instead you decide not to be a bother, and shrink down to an unrecognizable version of yourself.
You avoid sharing your feelings because you don’t know how or you don’t want to get too close, so most of your needs in your relationship go unmet as a result.

These are just a few examples of how our attachment styles can play out, but we could list thousands more. Because the reality is the way we attach is a major part of every single person’s life. Our ability to attach or not attach will ultimately affect how we bond and create relationships with one another, and especially with our partner or spouse.
So, this week inside the Love Shack, we are going to break down all you need to know about attachment styles, and even provide you with a simple quiz so that you too can know how your attachment style is playing out in your love life right now. Join Us! It's sure to create some relatable aha moments! =
Important Links:

Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/