Love Shack Live: Helping Couples Rescue Their Relationships

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Welcome to episode 96 of the Love Shack. Today we're going to be diving deep into exploring boundaries, specifically emotional boundaries.

Emotional boundaries are essential in any healthy relationship. They help us protect our emotions and maintain our sense of self. Without them, we can easily become overwhelmed and lose ourselves in our relationships.

There are a few key things to keep in mind when it comes to emotional boundaries:

1. Emotional boundaries help us protect our emotions.

2. They help us maintain our sense of self in relation to others.

3. They are essential in any healthy relationship.

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We all know that relationships are hard work, but sometimes it can feel like the effort you're putting in isn't changing anything.

It seems like half the time we're fighting and the other half we're bored. Maybe, we'd even say our relationship feels dead. But, why does it feel like we put so much work into our relationships and only get back a fraction of what we give?

It's time to change how we think about relationships. They're not something that just happens to us, they're something we create. With the right mindset, you can have a loving relationship that will last and last. Love is not something we find or get given, it's something we learn to do. It's about learning to love yourself first, then being able to love another person in a way that doesn't involve all the obligations we've been taught that relationships require.

Sounds great in theory, but how do we actually go about this?

In my new book, I outline the exact steps you need to take to create revive your relationship and ensure a lifetime of love.

Hi! We are Staci & Tom Bartley and we help committed couples rescue their relationships so they can finally create long-lasting love without having to spend hours analyzing their past, beating themselves up, or feeling like they are making no progress. We do this via sharing our unique frameworks, teaching new tools and skills, one on one sessions, and through our signature courses Relationship Rescue and Love For A Lifetime.

Today we're going to be talking about chapter one of my new book which is all about how committed relationships are so much more about what’s going on inside of ourselves than they ever are about the other person. And, how we have been told many lies about love and relationships, and those lies have totally misguided us when it comes to creating the kind of relationship that can stand the test of time.
In this episode, we're talking about how relationships are more than just the other person. They're about what's going on inside of our own body and mind, too. Our needs, desires, and wants. Committed relationships require constant attention and dedication to make them work. Understanding that love is not perfect can help us have healthier relationships where it doesn't matter if there are disagreements or fights because they don't mean anything bad will happen in the future. Hopefully, this episode will help you think differently about your relationship with yourself and others by understanding how important self-love is for maintaining a healthy life partner connection. If all of this sounds intimidating and you want help enacting these principles, let us know! This is exactly what we do, and we are ready to help you create a Lifetime of Love!
Important Links:

1. Sign up for book updates here: https://lifetimeoflove.me
2. Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
3. Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
4. Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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Most couples find communication to be one of the biggest challenges in their relationship.

Without effective communication, couples can quickly find themselves in a mess. However, with proper communication skills, couples can maintain a healthy and happy relationship.

In this episode, we will explore the secrets to amazing communication in relationships. You will learn how to effectively communicate with your partner and how to resolve conflicts. And, we're going to share some of our best communication frameworks, that up until now only my VIP clients have had access to!

Join us this week in the Love Shack to explore the secrets to amazing communication in relationships. In order for couples to have amazing relationships, it's imperative they are able to communicate openly about what is going on in their lives. Otherwise, they will find themselves in a pattern of miscommunication and misunderstanding.

If you have ever wanted some powerful fill-in-the-blank frameworks that are guaranteed to help you say what can often be so hard to say, this is an episode you can't miss. If you're struggling with communicating effectively with your spouse/partner or want more love in your life, join us!

• Finally understand why communication can be so difficult, especially the longer you are together.
• Learn how to effectively communicate with your partner and how to resolve conflicts using our proprietary fill-in-the-blank frameworks.
• In order for couples to maintain the health and vitality of their relationships, they must be able to communicate openly about what is going on in their lives.

If you find yourself struggling to communicate with your partner, fear not. With the right communication skills and a little practice, you can learn how to effectively communicate with your spouse or long-term significant other. If you're looking for some powerful frameworks that will help guide your conversations about what's going on in both of your lives and make sure neither one of you is left out or misunderstood, this podcast episode should be an excellent resource for guiding those discussions. Remember: effective communication isn't just about using words-- it also requires understanding where the other person is coming from and being able to compromise when necessary! Communication may seem like such a simple skill but without it, couples will quickly find themselves at odds with each other. For more information on these secrets to talking to your spouse or partner, check out this episode of the Love Shack Live podcast.

Important Links:

1. Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
2. Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
3. Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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3 Steps to Let Go of Past Relationship Trauma & Stop Worrying About The Future

We all want to be happy in our relationships, but sometimes that's easier said than done.

Especially when it feels like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of pain and worry. You don't know how to let go and move on. It's easy to get stuck in the same old patterns of behavior without realizing how much damage you're doing. And it can be especially hard when you're navigating mistakes that have happened in your current relationship.

Join us this week in the Love Shack for a discussion on how to heal your past relationship pain and stop worrying about what-ifs of the future! It's time to learn how to live peacefully in the present and stop beating yourself up so you can have a healthy relationship.

We have all been there. That place of pain, worry, and self-doubt when it comes to our relationships. We may have even struggled with this for years on end. It feels like we can't break free from the cycle no matter what we do. But guess what? We can! This week we're discussing the 3 simple steps to help you get over past relationship pain, and stop worrying about all the what-ifs of the future.

We'll be talking about how to get out of a rut, how to find peace within yourself, and how to leverage your mistakes from the past so you can stop living them in the present.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about how to get over past relationship trauma, including:

• How to stop worrying about what might be so you can let go of pain from the past even if it is from your current relationship.
• Learn simple techniques to get rid of old habits and patterns and heal your relationship.
• Giving a voice to your old relationship issues so you can free yourself from the emotional baggage that is weighing you down.
• How to experience a future with less worry and hurt and more peace.

Sign up for our email list to get notified when new episodes are released, and join us in the Love Shack this week! Listen in live Thursday at 1 pm PST/4 pm EST -- and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Resources:

➡️New Free Masterclass: The Simple 4-Step System to Save Your Marriage. Reserve your spot here: https://stacibartley.com/3-steps-workshop/sign-up/

➡️Relationship Check-Up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/schedule

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Do you ever feel like your words fall on deaf ears when you’re trying to communicate with your partner? It’s incredibly disheartening to pour your heart out, only to feel misunderstood and disconnected.

Imagine if there was a way to bridge that emotional gap and turn frustrating conversations into meaningful connections. Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, grappling with daily conflicts, and yearning to rebuild a genuine, lasting bond. I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship expert, joined by my co-host and lover Tom, and our daughter Brooke. Together, we are here to guide you on this journey.

In this special episode, we’re sharing an exclusive training from The Better Love Club, our paid community, focusing on one of the most significant challenges couples face: communication.

Have you ever wanted to know how to truly share your thoughts and feelings without it turning into a fight? How can you ensure that your conversations bring you closer instead of pushing you apart?

Join us as we explore practical tips and heartfelt strategies for mastering the art of communication. We’ll dive into common communication pitfalls, like “lighting a match and running,” bossiness, and the “all-knowing wise one” approach, and provide insights on how to avoid these traps. We’ll also share ways to foster productive conversations and transform dreaded arguments into loving discussions.

Stay with us – what you're about to hear could be the key to unlocking a stronger and more loving relationship.
Timestamps:
04:18 Common Communication Pitfalls
05:58 Light a Match and Run
07:37 Bossy Forms of Communication
10:06 The All-Knowing Wise One
13:40 Never Say Anything
17:19 The Abuser Form of Communication
20:22 The Pleaser
29:27 The Art and Science of Communication
30:28 Simplifying Communication
31:43 Staying on Topic
32:45 Building Blocks of Communication
33:51 The Power of Questions
36:43 Tone of Voice and Facial Expressions
40:10 Owning Your Reactions
47:03 Super Tips for Effective Communication
54:16 Engaging Conversations
55:53 Final Thoughts and Resources
Resources Mentioned:

1. Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.
2. Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.
3. Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards