#44: How can being adopted affect intimate long-term relationships?

08/14/21 • 53 min

Love Shack Live: Helping Couples Rescue Their Relationships

What effect does being adopted have on loving relationships? This is a question that I had not even considered (even though we have an adopted daughter ourselves) until Tom and I met Joi Fisher-Griffin, who happens to be adopted herself.

The reality is there are approximately 5 million adult Americans alive today who have been adopted. It's not something that is often discussed on our journey to love for a lifetime; however, it has an impact nonetheless.

Adoptees commonly struggle with:

• Feelings of loss and grief.
• Problems with developing an identity.
• Reduced self-esteem and self-confidence.
• Increased risk of substance abuse.
• Higher rates of mental health disorders, such as depression and PTSD.

Come listen in on our conversation with Joi, as she shares her journey full of twists and turns as she married and began a family herself; along with what one can do to overcome the challenges both big small being adopted can cause. According to Joi...there is a path that leads to finding joy.

If you or someone you are committed to is adopted, this episode is for you. Don’t miss this opportunity for a real and raw conversation on the impact adoption has on our ability to create healthy relationships with ourselves and with our partners emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

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Connect with Joi here: https://www.findingjoi.us/
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Adoptees commonly struggle with:

Have questions about adoption or relationships? Leave a message for us here: stacibartley.com/message

Important Links:

Connect with Joi here: https://www.findingjoi.us/
Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheatsheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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#43: Relationship Mistakes: How To Clean Up The Messes You Make When You Love Someone

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Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try to fix your relationship, instead all you do is make mistakes? You know you want to please your partner, make them happy, and get your relationship running smoothly, but no matter how much you try it feels like you can’t do anything right.

If this is you, please know you are not alone! I am here to tell you that every single person on the planet is a mess-making machine! I promise. And, if there is a way for us to mess something up, it's highly likely we will. (Especially if it is something we haven’t mastered yet.)

Also, the more we feel like we need to do our lives perfectly, the more messes we are likely to make. It's ironic, isn’t it? But, it’s reality.

This week in the Love Shack we are excited to have Thomas Ragland join us.

Thomas Ragland is the host of the What's Your Bliss? Podcast, a podcast looking into what brings a guest bliss each week, with a look at personal and societal history, and advice on how to bring bliss to your own life. Thomas is a husband and a father of 4 children. Thomas works in student accountability in higher education and spends much of his professional life helping others repair harm. Thomas is also a husband and a father of 4 children. He is also a master at cleaning up life messes, as that is what he does for a living at a local university.

Thomas is going to share with us his story of getting married, making a mess of it, and then divorcing. Only to find he was able to create a do-over and marry his sweetheart once again. Come listen to our conversation and become inspired with the possibilities and bliss that awaits you in your own life when we learn to clean up and let go of our messes.In this episode, we're covering several key topics about how to clean up our messes and relationship mistakes, including:

What has divorce taught Thomas about love and relationships?
Why every human is a mess-making machine and what we can do about it.
What is the correlation between bliss and love?
What's the best way to clean up the messes we make?

Have questions about lying in love and relationships? Leave a message for us here: stacibartley.com/message

Important Links:

Listen to the What’s Your Bliss? Podcast on all major podcast platforms and at anythingbutcredible.com.
Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheatsheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

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#45: The 5 Best Steps For Getting Over A Relationship Break-up

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Have you wished you could get some clarity on exactly what breaks a relationship down? Or what causes a breakup? Because, when we start a relationship, breaking down or breaking up is never what we are after...is it?
This week in the Love Shack, we have Patrice Francois, MHRM, MBA, as our special guest.
She is a dynamic entertainer, speaker, producer, writer, author, and game-changing trendsetter that aims to inspire. She migrated from Trinidad and Tobago in her late teens to establish a new legacy for her life. She's the host of The Mss Francois Show, a talk show that encompasses candid conversations with a variety of entertainment, and uses humor to help others with their dysfunctional relationships.
Mss Francois also happens to be a master at breakups, and breakdowns. (I know, who thought you could be such a thing.) She has a relationship story you will absolutely relate to, and has a book titled: Let That @#$%&! Man Go.
She is going to share with us her best ways to get over heartbreak, as well as her view on why relationships break down in the first place. And she does this all by sharing her touching story, and bringing in a bit of humor, as she encourages us to embrace our humanness...especially during the breakups and the breakdowns.
In this episode, we're covering several key topics about relationship break-ups and breakdowns, including:

The five best steps for getting over a breakup.
How relationship breakdowns happen, and how to avoid them.
How to find humor in our humanness.
What it was like to grow up in Trinidad and Tobago.
How to keep life fun, fresh, and full of possibilities.

Have questions about lying in love and relationships? Leave a message for us here: stacibartley.com/message
Important Links:

Check out Mss Francois’ books here: https://www.amazon.com/Mss-Francois/e/B08RB6DC35
Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
Relationship Check-up - tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/