
Putting Some CAKE Into Date Night | LQ002
01/09/24 • 15 min
Join us as we explore the transformative power of "Big Picture" thinking in relationships, emphasizing how it brings freedom, energy, and confidence. We challenge the outdated notion of putting "work" into relationships and advocate for redirecting focus towards investing "energy" into connections. Any relationship tip or activity, such as a date night, is not a fundamental piece of human relationships- it’s a detail which allows you to personalize your relationship based on what fills up your unique CAKE pieces—Communication, Affection, Kindfulness, and Energy.
The CAKE acronym serves as a guide, breaking down essential elements of human connections. Communication involves the exchange of messages, Affection focuses on the giving, receiving, and growth of love actions, Kindfulness emphasizes being mindful and kind in interactions, and Energy addresses the importance of managing and replenishing energy in relationships. Tune in to discover how these big picture ideas and the CAKE framework can enhance your relationship dynamics and foster a more fulfilling connection.
About the Host:
Meet Crystal, your relationship and social health coach. Crystal is the founder of Sparked Forever Relationship & Singles coaching. She started her journey supporting the neurodiverse community in navigating this, sometimes frustrating, neurotypical social world. Lessons and inspiration from her earlier work drives Crystal’s passion for bringing couples and singles together through acceptance, understanding and big picture thinking to grow vibrant relationships. Crystal understands that the foundation for our social health and well-being starts with making connections to others. When Crystal is not working with couples, she loves to be out on adventures with her partner and bonus kids or spending time connecting with friends over good food and fun music.
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Join us as we explore the transformative power of "Big Picture" thinking in relationships, emphasizing how it brings freedom, energy, and confidence. We challenge the outdated notion of putting "work" into relationships and advocate for redirecting focus towards investing "energy" into connections. Any relationship tip or activity, such as a date night, is not a fundamental piece of human relationships- it’s a detail which allows you to personalize your relationship based on what fills up your unique CAKE pieces—Communication, Affection, Kindfulness, and Energy.
The CAKE acronym serves as a guide, breaking down essential elements of human connections. Communication involves the exchange of messages, Affection focuses on the giving, receiving, and growth of love actions, Kindfulness emphasizes being mindful and kind in interactions, and Energy addresses the importance of managing and replenishing energy in relationships. Tune in to discover how these big picture ideas and the CAKE framework can enhance your relationship dynamics and foster a more fulfilling connection.
About the Host:
Meet Crystal, your relationship and social health coach. Crystal is the founder of Sparked Forever Relationship & Singles coaching. She started her journey supporting the neurodiverse community in navigating this, sometimes frustrating, neurotypical social world. Lessons and inspiration from her earlier work drives Crystal’s passion for bringing couples and singles together through acceptance, understanding and big picture thinking to grow vibrant relationships. Crystal understands that the foundation for our social health and well-being starts with making connections to others. When Crystal is not working with couples, she loves to be out on adventures with her partner and bonus kids or spending time connecting with friends over good food and fun music.
Links:
https://www.instagram.com/sparkedforever/
https://www.instagram.com/sparkitsocial/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sparked_forever
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Welcome to the premiere episode of Love Quirks! Together we are going to explore the foundational elements that are common to all human relationships, whether they be friendships or romantic connections. Despite social rules evolving with age, the big picture pieces remain constant, emphasizing the timeless essence of our connections.
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About the Host:
Meet Crystal, your relationship and social health coach. Crystal is the founder of Sparked Forever Relationship & Singles coaching. She started her journey supporting the neurodiverse community in navigating this, sometimes frustrating, neurotypical social world. Lessons and inspiration from her earlier work drives Crystal’s passion for bringing couples and singles together through acceptance, understanding and big picture thinking to grow vibrant relationships. Crystal understands that the foundation for our social health and well-being starts with making connections to others. When Crystal is not working with couples, she loves to be out on adventures with her partner and bonus kids or spending time connecting with friends over good food and fun music.
Links:
https://www.instagram.com/sparkedforever/
https://www.instagram.com/sparkitsocial/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sparked_forever
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Are you proactive or reactive in your relationships? In this latest episode, we dive into the exciting concept of being proactive in our relationships while addressing the common fear of change that might keep us stuck. Recognizing that change can be daunting, the episode will encourage you to overcome apprehensions, emphasizing that staying stuck is not the desired outcome. Instead, the focus is on learning and exploring within the framework of the CAKE model, with an emphasis on Real Relationship Energy.
Communication is neither inherently good nor bad. You will learn that if messages aren't conveying their intended meaning, adjustments can always be made. Listen as we dismantle the notion of "relationship work" as a potentially overwhelming concept and redirect the spotlight to the importance of putting energy into relationships. By adopting a collaborative and teamwork approach, you will find yourselves proactively engage in decisions that lead to positive outcomes, strengthening bonds, increasing overall energy, and creating lasting positive experiences and memories in your relationships. Join us to learn how being proactive can transform your relationship dynamics and contribute to a more fulfilling and vibrant connection.
About the Host:
Meet Crystal, your relationship and social health coach. Crystal is the founder of Sparked Forever Relationship & Singles coaching. She started her journey supporting the neurodiverse community in navigating this, sometimes frustrating, neurotypical social world. Lessons and inspiration from her earlier work drives Crystal’s passion for bringing couples and singles together through acceptance, understanding and big picture thinking to grow vibrant relationships. Crystal understands that the foundation for our social health and well-being starts with making connections to others. When Crystal is not working with couples, she loves to be out on adventures with her partner and bonus kids or spending time connecting with friends over good food and fun music.
Links:
https://www.instagram.com/sparkedforever/
https://www.instagram.com/sparkitsocial/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sparked_forever
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