Lightworkers who play in the Dark
Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.
Lightworkers are healers who transmute darkness into light. They are those who walk among us who make you feel better, just from being in their presence. Can a Dominatrix really be a Lightworker? Yes - if she is playing consciously, in service to the well-being of her submissives. If a Domme can see and accept her subs for all of who they are, if she can meet them in their darkness and celebrate it with them, she can transmute pain into ecstacy, shame into acceptance, fear into love. This is the role and mission of The Evolutionary DominatrixTM.
BDSM is an artform, healing modality and energy exchange relationship that is widely misunderstood and misrepresented in the media as abusive, comical or sick. People judge or ridicule that which they do not understand. Representations of kink for the purpose of entertainment don't do justice to the beauty and totality of this unique connection, based on trust and mutual respect.
In this podcast, Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D., provides a glimpse into the real world of BDSM, kink and erotic domination and the intricacies of the lives of people who live in it. These are usually intelligent people with a high level of self-awareness and psychological health. They are professionals, parents, artists, technicians...people you know and talk to on a daily basis. Here, they will have open and honest conversations about why BDSM is such a big part of their lives and how they benefit from this unique lifestyle.
Mistress Damiana is a professional and lifestyle dominatrix who has held a full-time practice for over 2 decades at her elegantly-appointed BDSM studio in Los Angeles, the Chi Temple. She holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Masters degree in counseling psychology, and a Bachelors degree in behavioral sciences. She is also a certified sexologist, specializing in kink-centered life coaching.
Mistress Damiana is the founder The Evolutionary DominatrixTM Academy, in which she personally mentors pro and lifestyle Dommes, in all parts of the world online, in the art of Conscious Female Domination with her self-developed psychologically-based methodology. The marriage of her psychological background and passion for the BDSM arts and D/s dynamics gave birth to her evolutionary teachings, taking FemDom to a new level of excellence, connection and joy.
Mistress Damiana is also the creator of Conscious Kink Community – a private social network that is exclusive to personally-vetted members only who are a right fit for this special community. These are kinksters who share a like-minded consciousness about being respectful and supportive of one another, in a safe container where we can share and connect about anything kink related.
Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D. at damianachiphd.com and on most social media platforms at @damianachiphd. Her lectures and interviews can be seen on YouTube.
If you would like to support this podcast, please become Mistress Damiana's patron by going to Patreon.com/damianachiphd.
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Conscious Kink Q&A (Episode 10)
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
12/23/23 • 77 min
The video version of this episode can be found on my YouTube channel.
This is the recording of the first Zoom call that I hosted for my Patreon community, with the intention of sharing this content publicly on my podcast, to raise awareness and understanding about Conscious Kink, Conscious BDSM and Conscious FemDom. These Zoom calls will eventually be reserved for my Patreon members, but for a limited time, the invitation is open to everyone. All participants on Zoom are video-off to protect anonymity.
There were so many great questions on this call, like, “Can someone be trained to become kinky for their partner?”, and “What are some tips to keep in mind for new Mistresses to avoid common rookie mistakes?” and “Can you talk about the issue of lack of sex education and what to do when a therapist makes a sex-negative statement? My first reactions have always been to doubt myself because I am not a mental health professional, they are.”
It is an honor to provide education to my Patreon community and to share it with the wider kink community and the public. It is so important to share this information to dispel misunderstandings and misrepresentations of what true BDSM is. BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, sharing, and intimacy. Anything else that feels self-serving, harmful, or negative is not true BDSM. Please share this information with anyone who is interested so we can spread knowledge and understanding about this beautiful artform and deep level of connection.
This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.
Special thanks to my Patreon members (listed below). Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.
DroneID_6999, JJ, Kaya Anais, Mistress Nacole, pussy doll, Richard T, Kate R, Andres, uuee crump, AP, Alana DR, Divine Diva, DJW, Domina Flora, Julian S, L’Mae C, Lourdes I, Matt, Mazi, Mystic Dax, Tom, Tracy C, Vincent V, Jennifer K, Angela, Bill Bumpus, Jake, Larry W, Mark R, pyrophite5, Sarah F, Tom W, Betty, Angie B, Johnny SD, and Mistress Persephone Rose.
And many thanks to the editor, Geoff Nigl.
✨ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.✨
Links Page | http://damianachiphd.com
Podcast | https://podcast.damianachiphd.com
Academy | https://academy.theevolutionarydominatrix.com
Community | https://www.consciouskinkcommunity.com
Coaching | https://www.bdsmsexologist.com
Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd
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#damianachiphd #lightworkerswhoplayinthedark #BDSMeducation
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Conscious Kink Q&A (Episode 11)
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
07/17/24 • 60 min
The video version of this episode can be found on my YouTube channel.
The following is the recording of a Conscious Kink Q&A Zoom Call that I hosted for my Patreon community. I’m sharing it to this podcast to educate, and raise awareness and understanding about Conscious Kink, Conscious BDSM and Conscious FemDom.
I had planned to host these calls once a month, but I took many months off to write my book, The Dominatrix Archetypes: Become a Multidimensional Dominatrix in the Art of BDSM FemDom. Now that the book has been launched, I will be going back to a more regular schedule. If you are interested in participating on these calls, you are welcome to join my Patreon community.
There were so many great questions on this call, like these:
What’s the best first step to get into the professional FemDom Industry? Can you tell me more about working in a dungeon?
How many years has it taken for a sub to become your full time slave, and have you terminated any of those relationships because it wasn’t working anymore?
How does one enter the world of FemDom and find partners that are safe and knowledgeable?
Can you give some examples of how BDSM can be healing for Dommes and for subs?
Why do you think some people who were raised in highly religious households are drawn to kink?
My partner wants me to choke him during sex. Choking seems to be a form of breath play. My hesitancy is safety. What do you suggest?
It is an honor to provide education to my Patreon community and to share it with the wider kink community and the public. It is so important to share this information to dispel misunderstandings and misrepresentations of what true BDSM is. BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, sharing, and intimacy. Anything else that feels self-serving, harmful, or negative is not true BDSM. Please share this information with anyone who is interested so we can spread knowledge and understanding about this beautiful artform and deep level of connection.
This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.
I’d like to send special thanks and shout-outs to my Patreon members. Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.
Many thanks to:
aadam975, Andres, Kaya A, Michael, MiKi22, Mistress Nacole, slave nipples, Peter R, pussy doll, Richard L.T., a aramaz, Albertus, allinthebrain, Bill Bumpus, Divine Diva, DJW, Eva, Domina Flora, Iryna S, Jeff, Julian S, L’Mae C, Mystic Dax, Nevaeh, Omanafire, Anonymous, Tom, Tracey C, Vincent V, Betty, Gala, jake, Mark R, Ms Coco 1111, Lady Sublime, uuee crump, Johnny SD, Raven, and sweetgirl julia.
And special thanks to the editor, sweetgirl julia.
✨ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.✨
Links Page | http://damianachiphd.com
Podcast | https://podcast.damianachiphd.com
Academy | https://academy.theevolutionarydominatrix.com
Book | https://thedominatrixarchetypes.com
Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd
Community | https://www.consciouskinkcommunity.com
Coaching | https://www.bdsmsexologist.com
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/damianachiphd
#damianachiphd #lightworkerswhoplayinthedark #BDSMeducation
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Interview with little dickie (my personally collared slave): Creating a Successful Close D/s Relationship While Gaining Personal Growth and Learning
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
10/04/22 • 56 min
In this episode, I have a conversation with my slave, little dickie. The D/s relationship that I have with dickie has been one of the most unpredictable and fulfilling ones I’ve ever experienced. It really taught me how little I knew about how deep and diverse D/s relationships can be. If it weren’t for kink, I probably would not have the good fortune of knowing and appreciating the many beautiful souls who have touched my life over the years. Kink and BDSM is a huge bonding element in most of my friendships. It is because kink cuts though all the superficial facades and straight to a soul connection. It gets real and deep, real fast.
I believe that my respect for dickie’s feelings elevates how he sees me as a domme. He says it makes him much more submissive to me because he feels like I care about him, and he has more trust in me. The important thing to remember is that there is an important distinction between being a domme and being a bully. A bully doesn’t care about the other person’s feelings. My willingness to evaluate and talk about Dickie’s feelings doesn’t detract at all from our DS relationship. It makes it stronger because he feels much more comfortable and safe being submissive to me. Being submissive doesn’t mean they want to be invisible. All subs want to be seen and understood. And to be submissive requires an enormous amount of trust in the domme.
The amount of personal growth and learning that I have gained through my relationships with all my personal slaves, has been exponential. The process of working things out with them has helped me keep my ego in check and taught me a lot about how to be a good person, and in turn, a good Domme. I am in the elevated position in the D/s relationship, but I am not a better person. When I have been in the wrong, and apologized for hurting my slaves’ feelings, humbling myself in this way and showing that I care makes my slaves respect me even more than before.
Underneath our D/s relationships, the foundation of friendship is always there. Real friendship and caring for one another as people has to be there, otherwise the relationship is not sustainable. This goes for all relationships. But the difference in D/s is that the understanding and quality of deference and respect from slave to Mistress is always there, in and out of scene. That’s what sets it apart from vanilla relationships and makes it magical.
It is my adamant belief that when a D/s relationship has a high level of respect, commitment and communication from both parties, success, closeness and happiness is guaranteed.
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This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon patrons - your patronage is much appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me. Become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.
I'd like to send a very special thanks to my Patreon members – this podcast is fully supported by your patronage, and it means so much to me to know that what I’m doing here is appreciated and of value to you:
Duchess Amanda lore Rein, Andres, MaDomme, Domina Flora, sub pussy, Richard L. T., DJW, Evette R, Keith F, Mistress Olivia Holloway, Mistress Velvet, Tracey C, Andrea, Annette K, Betty, Bill B, Bill W, Chris M, Gianina M, Heavenly M, Jake, Karo K, Nodsutsamel, Sylvie, David W, Priestess Francesca, Mike L, Reelback96, Sum A
And many thanks to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose. 🌹
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Q&A: BDSM as it Relates to Neurodivergence, Mental Health, Psychology and Kinksexuality
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
06/14/22 • 31 min
The following are 4 really great questions from my Patreon members about BDSM as it relates to psychological and mental issues. I’m sure these same issues are on the minds of many kinksters out there, so hopefully, my responses can be of help to some of you who are listening, too. It was a pleasure to offer my responses to the following questions, asked by Kevin, Anna, Zishaan and Jake. The kink journey is an ongoing, lifelong, rewarding one. Exploring kink can bring a deeper understanding of yourself to yourself, as well as help you grow and evolve as a person. Of course, finding the right partners to explore with is of utmost importance, and it can make all the difference in the world in your experience of BDSM.
Kevin:
Hi Mistress Damiana, it’s your old friend Kevin. Here’s a question for your show: I recently I found out that I’ve been a lifelong sufferer of ADD. I see how that has clearly affected my relationships, including play BDSM relationships. I was just wondering if you’ve ever had any experience with folks with such a condition and how would you deal with that, or maybe other minor mental disabilities.
Anna:
Hi Mistress Damiana, this is Anna. I wanted to ask about the mental health aspect of BDSM. I am submissive but I have never actually done a session, so my mental health has never been to great, but over the last few years it has become worse. And I was wondering: do you think it’s possible to become mentally ill because of denying yourself to live out that side of yourself? And also do you think there’s a connection between being submissive and feeling the need to self harm, for example? I guess what I’m asking is: is it such an important part of us that we need to actively live it in order to be OK?
Zishaan:
As somebody who has a background in both clinical psychology and BDSM, how do you see the two of those intersecting, connecting relating to one another? Can BDSM be a tool of healing and growth and if so how? And also I know you have a background in Jungian psychology, so I wanted to ask you whether you have any resources or books that you would recommend people reading to learn more about the psychoanalytic side BDSM?
Jake:
Hello Mistress Chi, my name is Jacob and I have been infatuated with the world of FemDom since I was around 11 or 12 when I first discovered it. I have a memory of being around six years old and making a bet with my best friend, a girl I had known since I was 2, and if I lost the bet she had to sit on my face. Well, I intentionally lost the bet. I was always enticed by the idea of being forced to do something by some beautiful woman. I am currently 25 and though I am a very commanding and authoritative person, I am still infatuated with FemDom and have a sort of FemDom relationship with my wife. Is my love of FemDom simply indicative of my nature, or is that due to the nurture of having been exposed to FemDom for so long as a child?
Sending a personal thank you to my Patreon members:
Duchess Amanda LoreRein, Domina Flora, Richard Tackett, Andres, B, Calahn, Ebethdarlene, Lindsay P., David Z, Jacob M, Jon, Mistress Olivia Holloway, Mistress Velvet, Shamee R, Sharon T, Sum Ad, Tracey C, Bill Bumpus, Betty, Bill W, Jaye D, Karo K, Leah F, Mark R, Nodsutsamel, Patience E, Sylvie, Priestess Francesca, Mike L, and Reelback96.
And many thanks to my editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose. 🌹
➡️ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D. at damianachiphd.com and on social media @damianachiphd
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Become a Multidimensional Dominatrix – Interview with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
01/13/25 • 103 min
The following episode was recorded for the Sex, Sin and Sensibility Podcast, hosted by Miss Drea and sweetgirl julia, which I highly recommend to my listeners as a valuable resource for high quality BDSM and kink education. You can find it on all major podcast players. I was invited as a guest on their show, and they were kind enough to grant me permission to republish the episode here to share with my audience.
In this episode, we discuss the contents of my new book, The Dominatrix Archetypes®: Become a Multidimensional Dominatrix in the Art of BDSM FemDom. We explore what the 4 Archetypes within a Dominatrix are, and how each Archetype serves to connect with the individual needs of every submissive to create well-rounded and balanced scenes within the course of a BDSM session.
This interview was a fun one because one of the hosts, sweetgirl julia, is a personally collared slave of mine, and also one of the submissive coaches in The Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy, where we work together to mentor women in the art of Female Domination. julia provides valuable insight about the importance of each Archetype from the submissive perspective.
We discussed on how I first started out on my Domme journey, experiencing my first “Domme high,” the importance of domination language, domination energy, and domination personalization, how Evolutionary Dominatrices are Lightworkers who play in the Dark, why I feel being a Dominatrix is the biggest self-love exercise you can do, and other juicy topics.
I want to thank Miss Drea and julia for hosting this beautiful episode, and for their graciousness in allowing me to share it with you. Follow the Sex, Sin and Sensibility Podcast at these links:
https://www.instagram.com/s3x_sin_sensibility
https://open.spotify.com/show/2NlO0zmtgOx4SMroHtEuOH?si=yG7jgcbSRRWe2-72tkFxDA
This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to https://patreon.com/damianachiphd.
I’d like to send special thanks and shout-outs to my Patreon members. Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community. Many thanks to:
Richard, Black Orchid, meg, Shay, EL, Daniel R., p, Caroline, Sadie S., Nick, Soletramp, marc, McKenna G., Eva, nipples, Ms_Coco_1111, Luna Canes, Gala, LadySublime, Mistress Nacole, Julian S, Mystic Dax, uuee crump, vincent v., Divine Diva, Tom, sweetgirl julia, Gs, Jake, DJW, pussy, Andres, Bill Bumpus, Michael, Tracey C., Betty, Richard Tackett, Domina Flora.
And special thanks to the editor, sweetgirl julia.
✨ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.✨
Links Page | http://damianachiphd.com
Podcast | https://podcast.damianachiphd.com
Academy | https://academy.theevolutionarydominatrix.com
Book | https://thedominatrixarchetypes.com
Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd
Community | https://www.consciouskinkcommunity.com
Coaching | https://www.bdsmsexologist.com
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/damianachiphd
#damianachiphd #lightworkerswhoplayinthedark #BDSMeducation
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Interview with Four Subs on their Different Perspectives on Golden Showers and Golden Nectar Toilet Training
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
04/20/22 • 57 min
Golden showers, water sports, piss play, and golden nectar toilet training...these are all different names for basically the same thing – urine play, which is such a hot and sexy topic, and a super popular fetish! In this interview with 4 of my personal subs, we break down why this is so hot for each one of them personally, and how does it make them feel dominated. I chose the 4 of them specifically because they hold such different perspectives on this topic, and they explain what it’s like from their submissive point of view. They are all subs that I personally play with, so I also describe what it feels like for me, from my dominant point of view, as I play with each of them with GS or golden nectar training. The unique relationship dynamics I have with each one of them impacts my style of play with them, as well as the range of dominant feelings I experience as I play.
It’s always interesting for me to interview my subs, which is something that I’ve been doing for over 25 years, and I learn something new all the time. I loved finding out new details about how each of my subs feel about gs play. It was revelatory to discover that Charles, my personally collared slave who I play with in a consensual non-consent way, feels like every one of the subs feels – he is turned on by the erotic fact that golden nectar is coming out of the most beautiful, private part of a woman, he feels worshipful while he is drinking it, and it is humiliating at the same time. I loved how Geo said that this discussion was educational for him and that being a part of it inspired and evolved his personal perspective of it. This is an example of how beautiful and ever evolving BDSM play can be. All subs whom I have a long-term relationships with have evolved their perspectives, kinks, fetishes and fantasies over the years. As I told Geo in the interview, there is always room to grow, expand and explore in kink and BDSM.
This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon patrons - your patronage is much appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me. Become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.
I'd like to send a special thanks to a few new Patreon members:
Special Access Patrons: Sylvie and Bill Bumpus
Exclusive access patrons: Rae O and Andres
Thank you all so much, your patronage is so appreciated. I can’t wait to connect with you all behind the scenes.
And many thanks to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose. 🌹
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Teaser Clip of BDSM Psychodrama: Live, in-person session with slave grunty (slave training with sadistic and cruel domination style)
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
04/20/22 • 9 min
This is a short (clean version) teaser clip of a live, in-person BDSM session that I did with my slave, grunty. The full, explicit version is available for my Special Access, Exclusive Access, or VIP Patreon members by going to https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd. You will get access to this and all other BDSM psychodrama episodes on this podcast, and to also connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes like the one you just listened to, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me.
This session includes slave training, ownership, humiliation and degradation, Anal play, Nipple torture, Breath play, genital torture and golden nectar training. My domination style is strict, cruel, wicked, and sadistic with this slave. I don’t play with every sub this way. This is only one example of the full range of domination styles within my diverse repertoire. My play style varies according to the sub I am playing with because I play off each person’s particular submissive energy. My domination styles range from elegant and poised to instructional and compassionate to mischievous and playful to wicked and sadistic to strict and cruel.
What you are about to hear is the beginning of the session, where slave grunty is kneeling before me at my throne, while I talk to him about what I am about to do to him in this session...
If you would like to support this podcast, please become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd to join as a member and personally connect with me in fun ways!
Much gratitude to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose 🌹
✨ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.✨
Website | http://damianachiphd.com
Podcast | https://podcast.damianachiphd.com
Academy | https://academy.theevolutionarydominatrix.com
Community | https://www.consciouskinkcommunity.com
Coaching | https://www.bdsmsexologist.com
Support | https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/damianachiphd
Twitter | https://twitter.com/damianachiphd
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Interview with a Recovering Paypig (A Financial Domination Addict)
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
03/16/22 • 63 min
This interview with a recovering paypig (also called a finsub or a financial domination addict) is a really important one, and the first of its kind. We hope that everyone in the BDSM community will listen to this episode and have it be a real wake up call to what is happening to all these people who are being damaged by the people who are exploiting them for selfish gain. This interview will help to humanize paypigs, make FinDommes think about things differently, and change the way they see them for good—not as pigs and faceless objects only to be used for their wallets and thrown away. These are real people with real lives that are being negatively affected on all levels, many to devastating degrees.
Here is a direct quote from someone in the kink community to give an idea of the degree of devastation and hardship that finsubs are going through:
“I had several clients lose thousands of dollars from findom. At worst, my clients ended up owing money for their mortgage, to their lawyers, etc. There are two things I know for sure; 1) they will never get their money back and 2) they are emotionally, mentally and psychologically crushed. When my clients hit the dead end, I usually took over to figure out how to protect them from losing everything. That involved filing a police report, showing lawyers and negotiating with them (same for their mortgage), finding them a therapist for their mental health, etc."
Listening to Matt (not his real name) talk so freely in this interview, and openly about his fight against his urges to engage in the destructive addictive behavior of impulsively giving large amounts of money to fin dommes, with whom, he describes as never once having an ethical experience, really makes our hearts go out to him, and the thousands of others who struggle with this addiction.
Findommes may not even be aware of their wrongdoings because are not consciously thinking about how their actions might be negatively affecting that live human being on the other end of their DMs. They might be justifying their actions with “Well, they consented.” Consent doesn’t mean a thing when the play is not ethical. When a findomme irresponsibly takes money from a consenting finsub whose addiction is negatively affecting his financial, mental and psychological health, social life, and overall quality of life, it is wrong, and it is unethical. He is not actually a sub, but a victim of abuse.
Mistress Damiana made reference to her article, FINDOM IS NOT FEMDOM, which can be found on her blog page: podcast.damianachiphd.com/blog
Supporting finsubs is a big part of the reason why Mistress Damiana created Conscious Kink Community, a private social network, exclusive to personally-vetted members. There are strict community guidelines that prohibit the offering and requesting of financial domination, and negative judgement and abuse. There is a huge need for conscious kinksters to be in community with each other without having to deal with findommes, domme imposters, and con artists. Conscious kinksters are welcome to request to join at the link above.
Special thanks goes out to Mistress Damiana’s newest Patreon patrons for supporting this podcast!
Official Patrons: Mike L., Betty S., Priestess Francesca
Special access patrons: Duchess Amanda LoreRein
Bonus Content Patrons: The Dutchess and Tracey C.
VIP Patron: Lisa D.
If you would like to support this podcast, please become Mistress Damiana's patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd to join as a member. Your support is much appreciated 🙏
Much gratitude to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose 🌹
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Q&A: How to find a good Domme and stay in Her good graces
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
03/15/22 • 44 min
In this Q&A episode, Mistress Damiana Chi answers questions from her listeners, Mike, Stephen, and Jerome, who had 2 questions.
Mike:
“I was just wondering what advice you might have for someone who has trouble expressing their kink side for a number of years and doesn’t really think they are going down the right avenues and just wants to delve a bit deeper into the BDSM community but doesn’t really know where to start.”
Stephen:
“My question is about staying in good graces with your dominant. I’m a submissive and as a client and I often worry about doing the wrong thing. It’s so important to me that the dominant actually like me. I get nervous often so just any advice you could give on being a good submissive would be super interesting to me and much appreciated. Thank you!”
Jerome:
“Hello, this is Jerome from France. What would you say is the difference between kinksters, subs and slaves? Thanks a lot!”
Jerome:
“Hello I will be meeting a pro domme for the very first time shortly. What would be your recommendations to make this a success?”
Mistress Damiana answers these thoughtful questions from male subs who really care about making sure they understand the best way to go about meeting dommes, making a good first impression, and staying in their good graces. Subs who have these concerns are actually exactly the type of thoughtful, sincere, respectful sub that every domme wants to play with.
In this episode, Mistress Damiana spoke about a course for submissives called "Be Your Best Submissive Self". It is a 4-hour live, online Zoom course available to all subs of any gender worldwide. If you’re interested in getting on the mailing list to get notified for when this course is offered next, go to mistressdamianachi.com/be-your-best-submissive-self.
Also in this episode, reference was made to www.ConsciousKinkCommunity.com - a private, personally-vetted members only community of kinksters who share a like-minded consciousness about being respectful and supportive of one another, in a safe container where we all can share and connect about anything kink related. If this resonates, you are welcome to click the link above to learn more and request to join.
Special thanks goes out to Mistress Damiana’s newest Patreon patrons for supporting this podcast!
Special access patrons: Cynthia C., Mark R.
VIP Patrons: Mistress Persephone Rose, Domina Flora, Richard Tackett
Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D. at damianachiphd.com and on most social media platforms at @damianachiphd. Her lectures and interviews can be seen on YouTube.
If you would like to support Mistress Damiana’s “Lightworkers who play in the Dark” Podcast, please become her patron by going to Patreon.com/damianachiphd to join as a member, where you can connect with her in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, psychodrama domination episodes, and access to her private HiHo group, where you can do 1-on1 personal video chats with Mistress Damiana. Your support is much appreciated 🙏
And many thanks and gratitude to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose 🌹
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Mistress Damiana Chi's Domme Journey: An Autobiographical Solocast
Lightworkers who play in the Dark
03/15/22 • 33 min
In this first episode of "Lightworkers who play in the Dark" podcast, Mistress Damiana Chi delivers an autobiographical solocast, in which she shares a brief autobiographical background on her life and on her personal Domme journey, so her listeners can learn a bit about their host. She shares stories from her life, her philosophies, and perspectives in relation to BDSM, femdom and kink.
Podcast description:
Lightworkers are healers who transmute darkness into light. They are those who walk among us who make you feel better, just from being in their presence. Can a Dominatrix really be a Lightworker? Yes - if she is playing consciously, in service to the well-being of her submissives. If a Domme can see and accept her subs for all of who they are, if she can meet them in their darkness and celebrate it with them, she can transmute pain into ecstacy, shame into acceptance, fear into love. This is the role and mission of The Evolutionary DominatrixTM.
BDSM is an artform, healing modality and energy exchange relationship that is widely misunderstood and misrepresented in the media as abusive, comical or sick. People judge or ridicule that which they do not understand. Representations of kink for the purpose of entertainment don't do justice to the beauty and totality of this unique connection, based on trust and mutual respect.
This podcast provides a glimpse into the real world of BDSM, kink and erotic domination and the intricacies of the lives of people who live in it. These are usually intelligent people with a high level of self-awareness and psychological health. They are professionals, parents, artists, technicians...people you know and talk to on a daily basis. Here, they will have open and honest conversations about why BDSM is such a big part of their lives and how they benefit from this unique lifestyle.
Bio:
Mistress Damiana has been a professional and lifestyle dominatrix for over 2 decades in Los Angeles. She holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Masters degree in counseling psychology, and a Bachelors degree in behavioral sciences. She is also a certified sexologist, specializing in kink-centered life coaching, the founder of The Evolutionary DominatrixTM Academy, and the creator of Conscious Kink Community.
Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D. at damianachiphd.com and on most social media platforms at @damianachiphd. Her lectures and interviews can be seen on YouTube.
If you would like to support Mistress Damiana’s “Lightworkers who play in the Dark” Podcast, please become her patron by going to Patreon.com/damianachiphd to join as a member, where you can connect with her in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, psychodrama domination episodes, and access to her private HiHo group, where you can do 1-on1 personal video chats with Mistress Damiana. Your support is much appreciated 🙏
Special thanks and gratitude to the music editor, Geoff Nigl, and content editor, Mistress Persephone Rose 🌹
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How many episodes does Lightworkers who play in the Dark have?
Lightworkers who play in the Dark currently has 13 episodes available.
What topics does Lightworkers who play in the Dark cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Bdsm, Kink, Kinky, Podcasts, Femdom and Arts.
What is the most popular episode on Lightworkers who play in the Dark?
The episode title 'Conscious Kink Q&A (Episode 10)' is the most popular.
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The average episode length on Lightworkers who play in the Dark is 57 minutes.
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When was the first episode of Lightworkers who play in the Dark?
The first episode of Lightworkers who play in the Dark was released on Mar 15, 2022.
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