Family Dynamics and the Parent-Child Relationship

09/20/23 • 89 min

Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on your childhood memories and the ways they impact your personal growth? Well, we've done just that in this episode of our podcast. Alongside Jaylah and Caprie, we journey into the labyrinth of the past - the playful times making cinnamon rolls, the pangs of shifting living arrangements, and the intricate dynamics of parent-child relationships. We also touch on how tools like the ACEs quiz and emotional neglect test can shed some light on our trauma scores, but remind you that these results aren't the final say, but a deeper look into the diversity in parenting styles and experiences and how those play into childhood trauma and the work to be done. Please find those links below if you are interested in reviewing your own scores.
In pursuing personal development, we take you on an emotional journey where Jaylah and Caprie confront some of their deepest fears and worries. Caprie opens up about her ongoing quest to cultivate positivity and communicate more assertively. In contrast, Jaylah shares her instinct to turn to her mom for comfort and sometimes Dr. Phil to solve life's weightier issues. Together, we navigate the fragile balance of living in the now without losing sight of the future where healing and growth reside.
In the final part of our journey, we delve into family dynamics, reflective moments, and the role of trust in mother-daughter relationships. We share intimate conversations about our parents, what we'd change about them, and the qualities we believe make a good parent. As we journey through this critical exploration of family relationships, trauma, and personal development, we aim to provide an illuminating, heartwarming, and thought-provoking conversation. Tune in, lean back, and let's journey together.
Emotional Neglect Test:https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/childhood-emotional-neglect-test

ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences): https://numberstory.org/explore-your-number/?gclid=CjwKCAjwjaWoBhAmEiwAXz8DBYTeeo4vjsL5MrEof48wtJaa3koSlD2eMt3s3uBTlVw58e12PCAhsBoCfTgQAvD_BwE

ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences): https://numberstory.org/explore-your-number/?gclid=CjwKCAjwjaWoBhAmEiwAXz8DBYTeeo4vjsL5MrEof48wtJaa3koSlD2eMt3s3uBTlVw58e12PCAhsBoCfTgQAvD_BwE

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Resources:
The Process of Coping with Grief and Loss - Psychology Today : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/everyday-life-simplified/202109/the-process-coping-grief-and-loss
SAMHSA's National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Helping Someone Who's Grieving: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/helping-someone-who-is-grieving.htm