Landing Imperfect
Jen
Empowering people to break free from the chains of self-doubt and limiting beliefs by embracing our imperfections. Hope you enjoy!!
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06/12/24 • 7 min
In todays episode we discuss the "not now but later" beast that many of us fall victim to....Procrastination!! Well talk about why this may be happening and ways to get stuff done.
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01 Success is achieved by those who take action
Landing Imperfect
11/08/23 • 15 min
Join me, Jen Lander, as we explore the transformative journey of breaking through fears, learning to live life imperfectly, and making meaningful connections.
00:00:00 Embrace life's imperfections, grow and impact.
00:03:06 Podcast investment spurs personal and professional growth.
00:08:12 Persistence and support are key to success.
00:11:58 Accountability and action lead to success.
00:14:28 Grateful for your support and connection.
Primary Topic: Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast
- Introduction of the podcast "Landing Imperfect"
- Embracing the beauty of life's imperfections
- Jen Lander's background as a psychiatric nurse practitioner, mom, and wife
- Focus on personal development and breaking through fears
- Making meaningful connections and impacting lives
- Safe space for learning, reflection, and self-discovery
- Purpose of the podcast to empower listeners to make a positive impact in their lives
Primary Topic: Overcoming the Fear of Taking Action
- Importance of taking action towards goals
- Hesitation and procrastination as obstacles
- Waiting for the perfect moment
- Success achieved by those who take action
- Jen's personal journey of starting a podcast
- Taking a podcasting course with Kathy Heller and learning to do tough stuff before feeling ready
Primary Topic: The Cost of Inaction
- Putting life on hold by delaying dreams
- Missed opportunities for growth
- Two years of not taking action on the podcast dream
- Potential missed connections with people worldwide
Primary Topic: Fear as an Obstacle
- Fear of failure, the unknown, and not being good enough
- Jen's personal experience with fear and self-doubt
- Quotes from the book "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill on fear
- Breaking through fear and realizing it's a state of mind
Primary Topic: Overthinking and Analysis Paralysis
- Overanalyzing and getting caught in analysis paralysis
- Difficulty in moving forward when constantly analyzing every aspect
- Quotes from "Think and Grow Rich" on moving past overthinking
Primary Topic: The Five Elements for Success from "Think and Grow Rich"
- Desire as the starting point
- Burning desire to achieve goals for motivation
- Faith in oneself and belief in achieving goals
- Planning as the bridge between desire and achievement
- Persistence, patience, and perspiration as the unbeatable combination for success
- Jen's personal experience with persistence in achieving her master's degree
Primary Topic: Conclusion and Personal Reflection
- Ten-year journey to achieve financial independence through education
- No regrets despite setbacks and obstacles
- Encouragement to persist and take action towards goals
- Invitation to join the transformative adventure of "Landing Imperfect" podcast
Book: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
https://a.co/d/d3lCPEn
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11/29/23 • 15 min
In this episode, I share powerful insights on setting healthy boundaries in relationships, based on my personal journey with my husband. I break down the seven types of boundaries and provides practical tips for effectively communicating and asserting your needs. Plus, I offer invaluable techniques for grounding yourself during challenging conversations. Whether it's physical, emotional, or time boundaries, my advice is meant to empower you to navigate relationships with confidence and respect. Join the conversation and embrace your imperfections with me!
Introduction to Boundaries
- Definition of boundaries
- Importance of establishing boundaries during the holiday season
- Personal experience with setting boundaries in a relationship
- Different communication styles and boundary needs in a relationship
Types of Boundaries
- Physical boundaries (e.g. hugging)
- Property boundaries (e.g. personal belongings)
- Emotional boundaries (e.g. dealing with someone's bad day)
- Intellectual boundaries (e.g. being talked down to)
- Spiritual boundaries (e.g. being forced to pray)
- Time boundaries (e.g. showing up early or late for events)
- Sexual boundaries
Types of Boundary Violations
- External boundary violations (e.g. physical and sexual abuse, cutting in line)
- Internal boundary violations (e.g. gossiping, sharing secrets, assuming thoughts of others)
Establishing and Navigating Boundaries
- Setting rigid, permeable, and flexible boundaries
- Practicing setting boundaries with trusted individuals
- Scheduling conversations to address boundary issues
- Grounding techniques for anxiety and discomfort when setting boundaries
- Having tough conversations and resolving conflicts through setting boundaries
Conclusion and Encouragement
- Encouragement to have difficult conversations and set boundaries
- Reminder of the importance of seeking professional help if needed
- Invitation for audience interaction and feedback
- Affirmation of personal growth and embracing imperfections
- Information regarding podcast and healthcare professional involvement
00:00 Different conflict resolution styles: quick vs. gradual.
03:30 Effective communication and respect take time.
08:28 Set boundaries, external and internal violations explained.
11:53 Schedule time for calm, prepared boundary conversations.
13:06 Use 54321 technique for anxiety. Have tough conversations.
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Book: Unf*ck Your Boundaries by Faith Harper https://a.co/d/eUW52un
11/22/23 • 17 min
The Holidays can be full of of stress and overwhelm. Join me as we navigate this season and create joyful, memorable moments with the people we love while managing our stress with realistic expectations.
- Importance of creating joyful, memorable experiences without feeling overwhelmed
- The challenge of balancing work, family, and holiday preparations
- The need for realistic expectations and setting achievable goals
- The importance of being present and finding joy in little moments
- The value of narrowing down and prioritizing holiday traditions
- Blending family traditions and managing the pressure
- Sharing personal experiences and lessons learned
Delegating and taking care of oneself
- The importance of delegating tasks to family members
- Involving children in holiday preparations
- The option of buying store-bought items instead of baking from scratch
- Setting aside "you" time to recharge and relax
- Staying organized but being flexible in plans
Focusing on family connection and creating meaningful memories
- Being present in the moment and putting away electronics
- Cooking, baking, and playing games together as a family
- Emphasizing the value of laughter and storytelling
- Stressing the importance of family connection over perfection
- Acknowledging that stress and overwhelm are inevitable but can be managed with realistic expectations and stress management strategies
Additional resources and support
- Mentioning a PDF with stress and anxiety management tools
- Encouraging listeners to share the episode with others who may benefit
- Offering gratitude for the support and engagement within the community
- Reminder that the podcast is a personal project and not a substitute for professional treatment
Conclusion
- Reiteration of the podcast's theme of embracing imperfections
- Appreciation for the audience's participation
- Invitation to connect on social media
- Reminder to seek professional help if needed
- Promise of another episode to come
00:08 Managing stress during the holidays is crucial.
05:53 Value quality time, be present, embrace imperfection.
09:27 Stopped buying gifts, bake cookies instead. Relief.
11:33 Disaster, mess, buy cookies, ask partner, decorate.
13:59 Prioritize self-care, quality time, and meaningful moments.
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11/15/23 • 18 min
Dopamine and its Role in Addictive Behaviors
- Introduction to dopamine and its significance in day-to-day lives
- Influence of dopamine-related disorders, like ADHD, on addictive behaviors
- Explanation of how dopamine affects brain functions, attention, motivation, and reward
- Relation between dopamine and impulsive decisions, energy levels, compulsive behaviors, and risk-taking
- Impact of low dopamine levels on motivation, social withdrawal, joy, and satisfaction
- Influence of technology, social media, and instant gratification on dopamine-related disorders
Pleasure, Dopamine, and Addiction
- Release of dopamine in the brain during pleasurable activities
- Reinforcement of behavior due to dopamine-induced good feeling
- Desensitization of dopamine reward pathway due to pursuing immediate rewards through certain behaviors
- Addiction as a result of desensitization and increased frequency and intensity of chosen behavior
Pain and Pleasure Balance
- Explanation of the pain and pleasure balance in the brain
- Comparison to a teeter totter where pleasure and pain act as opponents
- Increase in dopamine levels and pleasure from activities like eating chocolate and playing video games
- Regulation of dopamine levels through release of chemicals on the pain side of the balance
- Tolerance to pleasure, shorter duration of pleasure, and stronger pain side leading to addiction
- Withdrawal effects and relapse caused by prolonged periods on the pain side of the balance
Managing Video Game Addiction
- Personal account of addressing video game addiction with an older son
- Identification of decreased interest in socializing and other activities due to excessive video game playing
- Importance of finding realistic ways to decrease video game time
- Son's agreement to share his experience as a trooper
- Impact of excessive video gaming on joy and enthusiasm for other activities, such as sports
- Positive outcome of abstaining from video games to regain homeostasis and balance in reward pathways
01:40 Dopamine impacts behavior and mental well-being.
03:08 Excessive activities trigger dopamine, leading to addiction.
08:49 Decrease video game time to regain balance.
10:03 Teenager battling chores, video game addiction experiment.
15:55 Consider moderation, therapy, and abstinence from games.
Book: Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke
https://amzn.to/3Sy6kRi
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11/08/23 • 17 min
Are you tired of constantly questioning your abilities and feeling like you're losing control? Well, in this episode I share my personal journey of overcoming low self-esteem during challenging times. I talk about the impact of negative self-talk and the comparisons we make on social media. I offer valuable insights on taking a mental break from the comparison game, nurturing friendships, and finding healthy coping mechanisms. If you're ready to increase your self-esteem and reclaim your identity, this episode is a must-listen.
[00:02:04] Losing control, sadness, isolation, cleaning, puzzles.
[00:03:06] Took a break from social media, isolated.
[00:07:33] Address underlying issues, reduce extreme cleaning.
[00:09:29] Take a break, limit social media, be compassionate.
[00:15:10] Sleep is crucial for physical and mental health.
[00:16:33] Podcast offers support for eating disorders.
Negative self-talk and low self-esteem
- Noticing and challenging negative self-talk
- Differentiating between facts and unfounded assumptions
- Cost of living with low self-esteem
- Feeling like losing one's own identity
- Day-to-day pressures and their impact
- Loneliness and social isolation
Overcoming challenges and improving self-esteem
- Personal experience of overcoming low self-esteem
- Coping with multiple difficult situations simultaneously
- Taking a mental break from comparison on social media
- Nurturing friendships outside of the marriage
- Recognizing the need for change in relationships
- Communicating feelings and intentions with friends and family
Coping mechanisms and distractions
- Obsessive cleaning as a distraction and coping mechanism
- Seeking control over one's life through cleaning
- The impact of excessive cleaning on mental and emotional well-being
- Recognizing the underlying issues that drive obsessive cleaning
- Addressing the real issues and finding healthier coping strategies
- Paying attention to triggers and emotions when engaging in cleaning
Growth and acceptance
- Progression towards greater self-acceptance
- Accepting a less perfectly clean house and embracing imperfections
- Learning to manage and express emotions in healthier ways
- Understanding cleaning as a default reaction to uncomfortable emotions
- Seeking balance between cleanliness and self-compassion
- Continuous personal growth and self-awareness
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07 The Perfectionist's Pivot: Kristen and Jen on Letting Go
Landing Imperfect
12/13/23 • 45 min
In this episode, Kristen and I dive into the heart of perfectionism – how it can disguise itself as a virtue but often keeps us shackled to fear and procrastination. Kristen shared her powerful journey through life's upheavals and the courage to start over, debunking the myth that we need to get it right the first time. We laughed, we got real, and we uncovered the beauty in every imperfect step we take. If you've ever felt stuck because 'perfect' seemed out of reach, this conversation is for you. Remember, starting small and embracing imperfection isn't just okay; it's the secret to genuine progress. So join us, shed the weight of perfection, and let's grow together.
00:00 Regret over perfectionism and its impact on growth.
03:12 Fear of imperfection hindered personal growth.
07:46 Finding motivation by proving naysayers wrong.
11:54 Entrepreneurial journey teaches everyone's just figuring it out.
14:31 Book "Think and Grow Rich" motivated starting business.
18:18 Finding audience, messaging, and letting go.
24:57 "Don't waste time; focus on sunk costs."
25:42 In decision-making, sunk costs lead to losses.
30:37 Leveraging social media for business and imperfection.
36:28 Choosing bravery in facing scary decisions, seeking change.
39:56 Providing tech, motivation and business ideas. Cultivating community.
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Book- Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill: https://a.co/d/9yKgLE9
Navigating the Night: Unpacking ADHD's Impact on Sleep
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05/01/24 • 10 min
Welcome to another episode of "Landing Imperfect," where today we delve into the intricate relationship between ADHD and sleep. Jen Lander, shares her personal struggles with falling asleep and staying asleep while managing ADHD. From her husband's effortless slumber to her own racing thoughts at night, Jen gives us an intimate look into the complexities of sleep for those who live with ADHD. She discusses how executive functioning challenges, organizational difficulties, and neurotransmitter imbalances can disrupt sleep patterns, and she touches on conditions like delayed sleep phase syndrome and sleep apnea that are prevalent among those with ADHD. Jen also offers a wealth of practical advice, from establishing a calming bedtime routine to exploring light therapy and mindfulness. Join her as we unpack these issues and discover strategies to improve sleep and overall well-being for those affected by ADHD.
00:00 Melatonin helps sleep; ADHD may affect production.
03:48 ADHD can lead to sleep and stress issues.
08:43 Exercise caution and seek professional guidance. Be patient.
10:23 Share blog post, join email list, access PDF.
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How Psychics Influence Our Lives
Landing Imperfect
07/27/24 • 9 min
Today we have a fascinating discussion lined up about the intriguing world of psychics and the power of belief. Jen shares a personal journey that begins with a guided meditation by Gabby Bernstein, and takes us through her experiences with a psychic reading at the age of 19. Jen delves into how those psychic predictions influenced her life—both the ones that came true and those that didn't—and offers her perspective on how our subconscious mind plays a pivotal role in shaping our reality. Whether you’re a believer, a skeptic, or somewhere in between, you won't want to miss this deep dive into the mysterious intersection of energy, belief, and the subconscious. So, sit back, relax, and let's get started!
00:00 Psychic predicted marriage to a dark-haired man.
03:42 Doubts about psychics, clarity from meditation.
06:42 Caution against belief in psychic predictions.
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ADHD and the Struggle with Negative Self-Talk: Strategies to Cope
Landing Imperfect
04/21/24 • 10 min
In this episode we take a look into the complex world of ADHD, shedding light on both the struggle of negative self-talk and the strength in persistence. I share my personal experiences, offering actionable tips like replacing toxic habits with stimulating activities and the importance of self-compassion. So if you're battling your inner critic, remember, change is a journey, not an overnight trip. Join us weekly for real talk and real strategies to turn imperfection into your superpower. Stay tuned and stay imperfect!
00:00 Avoid illegal activities, focus on healthy coping.
05:08 Struggling with negative self-talk, finding solace in puzzles.
07:38 Embrace change, connect, and be compassionate.
10:02 Connect, share, follow on Instagram for more
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FAQ
How many episodes does Landing Imperfect have?
Landing Imperfect currently has 43 episodes available.
What topics does Landing Imperfect cover?
The podcast is about Personal Growth, Parenting, Anxiety, Self-Help, Mental Health, Personal Development, Depression, Podcasts, Relationships and Arts.
What is the most popular episode on Landing Imperfect?
The episode title 'Psychiatric Comorbidities in Eating Disorders: Treatment and Medication Considerations' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Landing Imperfect?
The average episode length on Landing Imperfect is 17 minutes.
How often are episodes of Landing Imperfect released?
Episodes of Landing Imperfect are typically released every 7 days.
When was the first episode of Landing Imperfect?
The first episode of Landing Imperfect was released on Oct 30, 2023.
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