How to Live Your Bucket List and Achieve Your Wildest Dreams with Tal Gur
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03/18/20 • 40 min
Tal Gur, a blogger, entrepreneur, and devoted adventurer, has spent a decade pursuing 100 major goals around the globe. But his journey had its challenges.
Like most people, he faced crippling self-doubt and struggled for a sense of purpose. Behind every difficulty, he discovered a life-changing gift, and now he’s passing what he learned onto others. You can connect with him and learn more at talgur.me
Favorite Success Quote“Happiness before goals”
Key Points1. Put Your Happiness Before Goals
Happiness should not be something that we defer until we achieve a specific goal.
It should be a state of being that we cultivate every single day. It should be an emotion that we make incredibly easy to achieve.
If you are reading this blog right now you have a lot to feel happy about. You have your sight. You have an internet connection and a device that is more powerful than the computers NASA used to put a man on the moon. You have full control of your brain and an ability to comprehend complex ideas and sentences.
You have a LOT to be happy about.
So act like it. Lower your barrier to happiness.
Make a conscious effort to cultivate more happiness in your life by making it stupid simple to feel happy.
When you wake up each morning, take a moment to feel happy for the warm sheets and cozy blankets covering your body. When you walk into work (even if you hate it) be happy that you have some sort of employment. When you come home each day, be happy that you have a roof over your head and food in your belly.
Be happy now.
Because now is all that we have.
2. Fulfillment is Dependent on Direction
So often people assume that fulfillment is dependent on achieving some goal or arriving at some arbitrary destination.
It’s not.
Fulfillment should depend on one thing and one thing only... Direction.
Sit down in a quiet place later this week and really ask yourself what direction you want to take your life.
Don’t tie this to a specific goal or outcome, simply a direction.
Do you want to move in the direction of more physical fitness? Greater financial freedom? More love and abundance?
Whatever you decide, write it down and then commit to take three actions each day that move you in that direction.
3. Pain is a Messenger
Most people try to ignore or hide from pain. This is like trying to put a bandaid on cancer.
Pain is a messenger. It’s there to tell you that something is broken and you need to fix it.
If you have a broken arm, a shot of morphine will numb the pain but it won’t solve the problem. You need to visit a hospital, get a cast, and allow your bones to heal.
Pain in your life is the same way.
If you are depressed, anxious, or feeling overwhelmed... Good.
This is a sign that something in your life isn’t working. And you have the power to fix it.
Whenever you experience pain don’t run from it. Feel it. Experience it fully and sit in it for a few hours.
Ask yourself, “What is this pain trying to tell me?”
Are you in the wrong job or relationship? Struggling to be disciplined with your finances? Overweight and unhealthy?
Before you run from the pain always try to uncover why you are experiencing pain in the first place.
Because until you solve the root cause of the problem, you will never truly overcome the pain.
4. Focus on Financial Freedom First
People will often begin their journey of self-transformation by trying to fix their relationships, their career, or pursuing more of their passions.
In most cases, this approach is completely backward.
The first step that you should take to building your dream life and achieving your biggest goals is to achieve financial freedom.
Until you have the money to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want, everything else should be secondary.
Financial freedom will revolutionize every aspect of your life.
It will allow you to travel more and pursue your passions with greater ease. It will allow you to have more choices in your relationships and care for the people you love. It will allow you to take care of your body and give yourself the care and attention you truly need.
Financial freedom opens the doors of life and allows you to pursue your dreams on your terms.
Focus on getting your money right first, and the rest will follow.
5. Pick One Thing and Stick With it to Completion
One of the most powerful ways to improve your quality of life is to master the art of single focusing on a task to completion.
Life isn’t short. We make it short by chasing too many goals at once and filling our time with unnecessary garbage.
By learning to pick a goal or project and see it through to completion, you will unlock one of the master ...
Tal Gur, a blogger, entrepreneur, and devoted adventurer, has spent a decade pursuing 100 major goals around the globe. But his journey had its challenges.
Like most people, he faced crippling self-doubt and struggled for a sense of purpose. Behind every difficulty, he discovered a life-changing gift, and now he’s passing what he learned onto others. You can connect with him and learn more at talgur.me
Favorite Success Quote“Happiness before goals”
Key Points1. Put Your Happiness Before Goals
Happiness should not be something that we defer until we achieve a specific goal.
It should be a state of being that we cultivate every single day. It should be an emotion that we make incredibly easy to achieve.
If you are reading this blog right now you have a lot to feel happy about. You have your sight. You have an internet connection and a device that is more powerful than the computers NASA used to put a man on the moon. You have full control of your brain and an ability to comprehend complex ideas and sentences.
You have a LOT to be happy about.
So act like it. Lower your barrier to happiness.
Make a conscious effort to cultivate more happiness in your life by making it stupid simple to feel happy.
When you wake up each morning, take a moment to feel happy for the warm sheets and cozy blankets covering your body. When you walk into work (even if you hate it) be happy that you have some sort of employment. When you come home each day, be happy that you have a roof over your head and food in your belly.
Be happy now.
Because now is all that we have.
2. Fulfillment is Dependent on Direction
So often people assume that fulfillment is dependent on achieving some goal or arriving at some arbitrary destination.
It’s not.
Fulfillment should depend on one thing and one thing only... Direction.
Sit down in a quiet place later this week and really ask yourself what direction you want to take your life.
Don’t tie this to a specific goal or outcome, simply a direction.
Do you want to move in the direction of more physical fitness? Greater financial freedom? More love and abundance?
Whatever you decide, write it down and then commit to take three actions each day that move you in that direction.
3. Pain is a Messenger
Most people try to ignore or hide from pain. This is like trying to put a bandaid on cancer.
Pain is a messenger. It’s there to tell you that something is broken and you need to fix it.
If you have a broken arm, a shot of morphine will numb the pain but it won’t solve the problem. You need to visit a hospital, get a cast, and allow your bones to heal.
Pain in your life is the same way.
If you are depressed, anxious, or feeling overwhelmed... Good.
This is a sign that something in your life isn’t working. And you have the power to fix it.
Whenever you experience pain don’t run from it. Feel it. Experience it fully and sit in it for a few hours.
Ask yourself, “What is this pain trying to tell me?”
Are you in the wrong job or relationship? Struggling to be disciplined with your finances? Overweight and unhealthy?
Before you run from the pain always try to uncover why you are experiencing pain in the first place.
Because until you solve the root cause of the problem, you will never truly overcome the pain.
4. Focus on Financial Freedom First
People will often begin their journey of self-transformation by trying to fix their relationships, their career, or pursuing more of their passions.
In most cases, this approach is completely backward.
The first step that you should take to building your dream life and achieving your biggest goals is to achieve financial freedom.
Until you have the money to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want, everything else should be secondary.
Financial freedom will revolutionize every aspect of your life.
It will allow you to travel more and pursue your passions with greater ease. It will allow you to have more choices in your relationships and care for the people you love. It will allow you to take care of your body and give yourself the care and attention you truly need.
Financial freedom opens the doors of life and allows you to pursue your dreams on your terms.
Focus on getting your money right first, and the rest will follow.
5. Pick One Thing and Stick With it to Completion
One of the most powerful ways to improve your quality of life is to master the art of single focusing on a task to completion.
Life isn’t short. We make it short by chasing too many goals at once and filling our time with unnecessary garbage.
By learning to pick a goal or project and see it through to completion, you will unlock one of the master ...
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How to Make the “Impossible” Become Your Reality with Steve Sims
Steve Sims is a kid from London with a knack for networking and an attitude that refuses to believe the word “Impossible”.
Founder of the super exclusive, membership only personal concierge service for VIPs and executives seeking the ultimate in unique experiences and travel for themselves and their companies, Steve Sims is an unlikely expert marketer within the luxury industry. But his secret to success is that he’s built a life out of keeping his word, and not taking no for an answer. Profiled and often quoted in international publications including the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, London’s Sunday Times, and South China Morning Post, TV and Sims is a sought-after speaker at a variety of prestigious organizations such as the Pentagon and Harvard!
Whether you want to sing with your favorite rock star, have lunch with Donald Trump, get married in the Vatican, or dive to the wreck of the Titanic, Steve Sims is the guy who gets to yes when the answer for anyone else would be no. You can connect with him and learn more at stevedsims.com
Favorite Success Quote“No one ever drowned by falling in the water. They drowned by staying there.” ~Steve’s Father
Key Points1. It’s Not About How You Go Down It’s About How You Get Up
Life is hard.
It will kick the crap out of you and leave you on the ground and there is very little you can do to avoid this.
So stop trying to fight failure and accept it.
You are GOING to fail. You are going to mess up. You are going to make bad decisions. You are going to lose money. You are going to fail at important relationships.
You are going to fall down.
But that’s not what is important.
Everyone in the history of humanity has fallen down. What history cares about, what the marketplace and the “gods” of success care about is how you get up.
If you are willing to pick yourself up off the ground, get back up, and start swinging again, life will reward you greatly.
If you are willing to push through adversity, smile in the face of failure, and persevere no matter how many times you fall down, you will eventually succeed.
Failure is inevitable.
It’s what you do after you fail that makes all the difference.
2. People Will Pay to Avoid Rejection and Humiliation
If you are struggling to make ends meet, one of the quickest ways that you can increase your income is by becoming comfortable with rejection and humiliation.
People all over the world will pay handsomely to avoid the discomfort of rejection.
It’s simply part of human nature.
Humiliation and rejection are not pleasurable experiences. But if you can learn to overcome your fear of rejection and humiliation and then leverage that skill to help others, there is no limit to the amount of money and influence you can create.
3. Communication Opens the Doors of Life
The “Secret Sauce” to becoming wildly successful in 2018 and beyond is simple... Master the art of communication.
While everyone else stares down at their cell phones, stays addicted to their Crackberries, and struggle to make small talk while they’re in line for a coffee, you can accelerate your success by learning to communicate.
Learn how to cut through the bullshit and start interesting conversations.
Master the art of building reciprocity.
Learn how to persuade people and connect with power players. Master the art of gift giving.
Become a master communicator and the world will become your oyster.
Our society is slowly but surely losing its ability to connect and collaborate.
If you can maintain and improve your ability to network and build authentic relationships, there is no limit to what you can achieve.
4. Be Memorable
The worst crime that you can commit in a social situation is to be boring.
The world is filled with boring and uninteresting people.
It’s your job to stand out from the crowd, be authentic, and be memorable.
This doesn’t mean that you should be an obnoxious clown or some sort of ass hole.
It simply means that you must learn how to stand out in people’s minds.
Learn how to make people feel special and how to present yourself in a way that is unique and unexpected.
If you can successfully position yourself as a memorable and interesting individual you will have an abundance of business opportunities and romantic relationships coming your way.
5. Throw Sh*t at the Wall and See What Sticks
Life is about experimenting.
Try out 1,000 things this year until you figure out what you like.
Try three new things a day.
Talk to as many strangers as you can.
Throw shit at th...
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The Misfits Guide to Achieving Massive Success with Hardcore Closer Ryan Stewman
Ryan Stewman is a high-performance sales coach and trainer who went from spending two stints in federal prison to building a multiple seven figure income.
He is the author of several best-selling books including Kick-Ass, Bulletproof Business, Elevator to the Top, and Hardcore Closer. You can learn more and connect with Ryan at hardcorecloser.com
Favorite Success Quote“You must take action before you can take over.”
Key Points1. Knowledge is Only Power if You Take Action
You often hear the phrase “Knowledge is Power”.
This simply isn’t true.
In and of itself, knowledge is useless.
Knowledge doesn’t do anything. It can’t add money to your bank account. It can’t make you ripped. It can’t help you find the woman of your dreams. It can’t do a damn thing.
As the (in)famous entrepreneur and investor Derek Sivers said:
If [more]information was the answer we’d all be billionaires with six packs.
But we aren’t and it isn’t.
Knowledge is only power if it’s applied.
It’s only worth a damn if you use it.
It only matters when you leverage your knowledge to take massively informed action towards achieving the life of your dreams.
2. Everything But Death is Temporary
Everything in life is temporary.
Good and bad.
All of the pains, frustrations, and heartaches will eventually end.
All of the success that you are enjoying will one day grind to a halt.
Everything in your life will end.
And this is a beautiful thing.
Because life is temporary and fleeting, like the cliche feather in the wind, everything falls into place.
When you are struggling you know that your struggles are temporary.
When you are at the top, you take the time to savor the moment because you know that it will end.
Keep perspective on your life, the good and the bad, by always remembering that “This too shall pass”.
3. Your Past Doesn’t Matter
This year alone, Ryan’s company will generate more multi-millions of dollars in revenue.
Which illustrates a very important lesson...
Your past doesn’t fucking matter.
Who you were yesterday has no bearing on who you are today and Ryan is living proof of this.
At 19, Ryan was strung out on every drug that you can imagine and dealing full time to make ends meet.
He was eventually busted by the feds and sent to federal prison for several years.
When he was released, he dove into the world of sales and eventually, was making so much money in real estate that he was again targeted by the police who thought he was still selling drugs.
They raided his house and found zero evidence of any drug possession, use, or trafficking. In order to save face, they arrested for felon possession of a firearm (which resided in a legal grey zone).
He was sentenced to prison again except this time, his then-wife stole all of his assets and left him for the man with whom she’d been having an affair.
Talk about a mess, right?
Upon his second release, Ryan dove into the world of sales again taking special care to keep his nose clean and, in the last two years, has grown his sales coaching business from $0 to multimillions in revenue.
If a convicted felon and former junky who lost everything can rise from the ashes and rebuild his life to the top then so can you.
So cut the excuses and quit using your past as a crutch.
You are capable of achieving anything that you desire.
But you have to overcome your excuses and hustle.
4. It’s All Sales
In life and business, you must become a master of sales.
I know that the word conjures up images of sleazy used car dealers and snake oil peddlers but let me assure you, everything that you do is sales.
Want to meet the woman of your dreams and convince her to marry you? That’s sales.
Want to get funding for your new startup? That’s sales.
Want to convince your kids that it’s important to read personal growth books and regularly exercise? That’s sales.
Want to get your boss to give you a raise or move forward with one of your ideas? You guess it! Sales.
Everything that you do is sales or, to put it in less cringy terminology, influence.
If you lack this skill then your quality of life and success will suffer.
If you can master it then the world is your oyster.
5. Take Massive Action. Fast
Although I’ve already mentioned the importance of taking massive action in this article, it’s a point worth repeating.
Experience is the best teacher and there is no book or course that can serve as a shortcut for rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands dirty.
Your goal in business and life should be to acquire the MVIR or ‘minimum viable informati...
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