EPS 366: The Parenting Map with Dr. Shefali Tsabary

My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary.

Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting. She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers. Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection. They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow. Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior. They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary. Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego. They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment.

Takeaways from the show

• What is conscious parenting?
• Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map”
• The challenges of looking inward
• Parenting is about growth, not perfection
• Challenging & deconstructing your narratives
• The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors
• Defiance is developmentally healthy
• Dr. Shefali’s five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, & fleer
• Acknowledging and calming your ego
• Why & how negotiating with your kids can be positive

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