Family Culture is a Mother

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03/12/24 • 61 min

Family culture is a mother! And when we say culture we are not talking about race, gender, or ethnicity but rather an agreed-upon set of expectations of the social communities we exist in with our family units at the foundation. As we grow families of our own, it becomes a balancing act of integrating each parent’s respective cultural norms to create your core family’s unique culture.

In episode 12 of ___ Is a Mother, Jamie uses the foundations of the Intercultural Conflict Style (ICS) assessment with PV and Brett (married and co-parenting a 4.5-year-old) to illustrate how it can help us understand our authentic approach to communication and addressing conflict—key elements of any family’s culture. Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:

A set of questions to consider to ground into our respective cultural beliefs.
How someone might perceive themselves vs. how others may perceive them depending on their communication styles.
The way we naturally react to conflict is rooted in our cultural norms and upbringing.
Our individual culture and conflict style balances with the style of our partners’ to guide how we parent our children and define our core family’s culture.
How Jamie uses the ICS assessment to help organizations establish an inclusive culture by understanding everyone’s unique and individual communication and conflict resolution styles.

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LINKS MENTIONED IN / RELEVANT TO THIS EPISODE:

Intercultural Conflict Style Assessment

Dr. Becky’s (parenting coach & clinical psychologist) TED talk on connection, modeling, and repair in parenting

Trauma psychologist Dr. Mariel Buqué’s book Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma

Episode 10 Financial Planning is a Mother | www.karenholloway.nm.com

A set of questions to consider to ground into our respective cultural beliefs.
How someone might perceive themselves vs. how others may perceive them depending on their communication styles.
The way we naturally react to conflict is rooted in our cultural norms and upbringing.
Our individual culture and conflict style balances with the style of our partners’ to guide how we parent our children and define our core family’s culture.
How Jamie uses the ICS assessment to help organizations establish an inclusive culture by understanding everyone’s unique and individual communication and conflict resolution styles.

CONNECT WITH US:

@_IsAMotherpodcast on Instagram

Work with Jamie!

LINKS MENTIONED IN / RELEVANT TO THIS EPISODE:

Intercultural Conflict Style Assessment

Dr. Becky’s (parenting coach & clinical psychologist) TED talk on connection, modeling, and repair in parenting

Trauma psychologist Dr. Mariel Buqué’s book Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma

Episode 10 Financial Planning is a Mother | www.karenholloway.nm.com

Previous Episode

Managing Adult Friendships is a Mother

Managing adult friendships is a Mother! The older we get, our packed schedules, geographical moves, and changing priorities can make it challenging to make and maintain friendships. In our current phase of life, we are mindful that some friendships come and go, while others continue to thrive year after year. And still, there can be room to develop new friendships, but it ain’t easy to do. . .
This episode is sponsored by Northwestern Mutual. They believe in doing the right thing, and to them, the right thing is making sure their clients won’t have to worry about their finances. Northwestern Mutual recommends financial strategies based on each client’s life and priorities, designed to help them reach their unique goals. For more information, please visit www.karenholloway.nm.com

In episode 11 of ___ Is a Mother, we discuss our experiences making and maintaining friendships as we move through different phases of our lives, and recognizing when someone is your friend for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:

Low-maintenance, or flexible, friendships become more and more valuable the more chaotic our lives become.
Managing expectations around how you show up as a friend vs. how others show up for you.
Re-evaluating friendships over time, and setting boundaries that prioritize mutually beneficial relationships.
Motherhood and other major life shifts will likely change friendship dynamics—either positively or negatively.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag us! Follow, rate, and review the podcast, and tell us your key takeaways. If there are topics you would like us to discuss in a future episode, please let us know. Thanks for being part of our inner circle and an important part of this community. Go call your best friend!

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Next Episode

Self-Care is a Mother

Self-care is a mother! Consumerism has hijacked the concept of self-care and turned it into a multi-billion(!) dollar industry, marketing ‘quick fixes’ that are in actuality fleeting external care. External self-care can feel good in the moment but needs to be paired with the hard work of internal self-care (e.g., therapy) to truly elevate your well-being.

In episode 13 of___ Is a Mother, we discuss the difference between fake (external) self-care and real (internal) self-care. We take some time to give ourselves kudos for the difficult things we have been tackling to better our overall wellness, and we discuss what we wish we were doing more to support our true self-care. Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:

Self-compassion and taking time to celebrate wins big and small is an important form of self-care.
Setting boundaries around technology, work, and social media can reduce the overwhelm of constant stimulation, distractions, and comparison.
Being productive is much more important than being busy, no matter what Corporate America has drilled into us.
Prioritizing quality time with your partner is necessary to nurture your relationship.
Going back to the basics and prioritizing rest and sleep is paramount to overall wellness.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag us! Follow, rate, and review the podcast, and tell us your key takeaways! If there are topics you would like us to discuss in a future episode, please let us know. Thanks for being part of our inner circle and an important part of this community. Go call your best friend!

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

(Un)Well Documentary

Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin, MD

Good Inside: Self-Care Is An Inside Job

SB CBD Sleep Gummies

The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss

Ep 3: Returning to Work After Giving Birth is a Mother

Ep 10: Financial Planning is a Mother with Karen Holloway, Financial Advisor

NPR story: Real self-care takes real systemic change