The Art of Setting Effective Boundaries

Picture this: you muster up the courage to set a boundary, but instead of the smooth sailing you hoped for, it's like hitting a brick wall. The other person reacts with confusion, frustration, or even hostility. What went wrong?

The belief that we can’t change what someone feels in response to our boundary, well this can really mess up our relationships and our own well-being. It sets us up to feel defeated and helpless, like we're constantly walking on eggshells, afraid to assert ourselves for fear of rocking the boat especially for us highly sensitive humans with a tendency to people please. It can lead to resentment, which leaves us feeling disconnected and misunderstood.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t set boundaries - boundaries themselves are incredibly helpful and necessary if we want to create more calm in our life.

But how we set the boundary is almost as important as the boundary itself.